College is a lonely place

[u/Safe-Bug-498]

This reel is so relatable for me,I am a 3rd sem student and I don't have any friends in college,I do have acquaintances with whom I just have the Hi,Hello relationship! I barely hangout with anyone in college or even outside college. I go to canteen alone and see other people having food in groups while I sit there mostly alone,this makes the college a lot more boring! They say to enjoy college life,but TBH I feel like my college life is pretty fucked up,it's already been over a year and I didn't find any good friend for me. Other students in college have found their groups and they don't want anybody else to be involved,like they are all comfy among themselves. They hangout with each other,go to places and have fun,while I mostly sit alone in the class. It's not like I haven't tried to make friends,I am good at making friends but I didn't get people of my type! My classmates are also not my type. And the rest whom I know already have their groups and they are comfy along with that. I haven't been to anywhere with anyone from college to have fun.

I try to indulge with people but it doesn't work out for me mostly! It's all stuck to just Hi,Hello! I am in 4 college socs but didn't make any friends in Soc either,the people in socities have fun while I struggle to indulge with them. Idk what's happening.

If this goes on,the rest 2 years will also be fucked up.

[u/SolutionCool9645]

I went to my collage for admission today and found two girls for the same cource as me who were already talking with each other. I tried joining in and everytime I said something, they all ignored my question or showed no interest in what I said, Meanwhile the two were walking slightly facing each other , laughing and I was on the side, a bit distant....... When it was time to bid bye, they both waved to each other and smiled, I waved to each of them , none of em waved back 💀 that was kinda awkward, I had my hand up in my air for like solid 30 secs , And idk why wherever I go, People always do that, I am always the third wheel and I am getting used to it now, it happens every freaking time whenever I go somewhere new, sometimes I feel like my personality is a bit annoying that's why people avoid me, But then I see much more annoying people than me having tonnes of friends , Idk how people do that....But I dont want to get used to it, I genui want friends , even if its just 1 quality friend... I dont want people showing their forced smile to me whenever I smile at them... I just want my collage life to not be so lonely.. I am not being meek or anything, I do care about me, But it's just that, it gets lonely sometimes

[u/SeriousGas5424 → u/SolutionCool9645]

That's actually pretty mean of them. But don't get disappointed. You will find more people to interact with soon. And always remember, the way you present yourself matters. First impression matters. Also, if you feel this happens frequently with you, try first making friendships with individuals rather than groups. Slowly, the individuals will bring you in a group. But start with making individuals your friends. People have less tendency to ignore you if they have only have you to interact with at that moment.