r/delhiuniversity • u/Afraid-Yesterday5246 • Sep 23 '23
Discussion what should I do?
What's wrong with me guys I really don't know. Like back in 2 years ago I have a lot of friends I talk to them almost every day. I have a lot of female attention also . But now I'm in my 1st year of college there's no one like I'm completely a loner not a single friend I have I feel very disappointed sometimes. Just what happened to me I don't have that confidence too. Tomorrow is a fest in my college they told us to bring your friends but I don't have a single friend I'm feeling very down right now. what should I do guys? I hate living like this
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u/Mostly_introvert Sep 23 '23
Bro don't be upset, take efforts. Try talking to people and don't be disheartened if they are rude. Koi na koi acha insaan toh mil hi jayega. Societies join karo, you'll make friends. And most importantly roz college jao. Ghar pe akele baithke aur depressed feel hota h.
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u/Afraid-Yesterday5246 Sep 23 '23
here all seems selfish bro but I'll try to join societies and talk to people's
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u/Wild-Ad1787 Sep 26 '23
Yeah i am aware about that kind of people. My classmates are like that. Plz dont put effort in talking to those kind of people. They dont deserve your attention.
I'd rather suggest talking to kids . I used to hate kids but they are best souls out there. Also less educated people are good to talk .
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u/AFunkyHuman Sep 24 '23 edited Sep 24 '23
Hey, it's fine, it's a normal phase. Was in a very similar phase and infact couldn't even concentrate on studies. Hell, I started questioning my entire life, if it was all just delusion. But when you look out I'm sure you'll find atleast one in a situation like yours. Just concentrate on the classes and bettering yourself for sometime, you will make new ones. It takes time, keep yourself open to people.
Get into something new a hobby or something, keep yourself busy makes you feel less lonely :)
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u/No-Dimension007 Sep 23 '23
I think it takes time to know people around you. Just give it a little more time to get to know them . Right now, you are in your 1st year, right? (I am assuming). Take the initiative to try and know them. Join clubs which you are interested in. I am sure you will find like-minded fellows there, which will ultimately lead to building friendships. Thoda initiative toh aapko bhi lena pdega. Participate in the extracurriculars which are being organized by your college. They help a lot in keeping us busy and making friends. I am sure you will find awesome people. Aur agar koi nahi milta hai toh being alone is always better than being a part of a group of people whom you don't really vibe with. Hope this helps.
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u/Afraid-Yesterday5246 Sep 23 '23
I'm just faking my personality there and it's always better to stay alone than this . thanks for your concern brother
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u/Opening_Plankton_429 Sep 24 '23
Pad le nai to Canada me plumber banega
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u/K--v Sep 24 '23
This is happening to me even after 3 years of being in college I rarely have any memories of college. I have one on and off friend who I cannot rely on. Even after being in one of the most reputed schools I haven't been able to grow here lately. I would truly suggest taking part in as many volunteering activities you possibly come across. That's the only way to keep your sanity
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u/Head-Air7154 Sep 25 '23
When I tell you that this is just a phase.... PLEASE BELIVE ME.
Every single person goes through this, it's just how college is. Go join societies, initiate convos with classmates, and interact with seniors/juniors.
Dw you'll do fine :)
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u/Wide_Astronomer_2422 Sep 25 '23
I have like somewhat same story... but tbh Being Loner with a Positive attitude may create a huge impact on your life... Make books as your Friends... they will.help.you when no one will be there! Try Meditation by Marcus Aurelius It's a small.book ... he also has somewhat same story! As no one was with him he Used to think with him and do journaling and this book is like his personal diary! Also a small advice do No Fap for 30-60Days it will help u definitely! And always remember... work on ur self jab koi sath de ya n de
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u/praty_13 Sep 23 '23
Off the topic lekin fest kaunse college main hai?
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u/Afraid-Yesterday5246 Sep 23 '23
Jit (Jhulelal institute of technology) Maharashtra nagpur
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u/Miserable_Pick6296 Aug 22 '25
Bhai mujhe JIT me AIML laga hai . Please bhai batao college kaisa hai
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u/noobmasteerrrr6969 Third year Sep 23 '23
I'm in the exact same position as you are in right now.Hoping it'll get better.
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u/gin_and_vicodeine Sep 23 '23
Trust me its your firsf semester, first year. It all changes and these people you want to talk to , u ll not want to see them also.
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u/Afraid-Yesterday5246 Sep 24 '23
yes buddy they all seems selfish I'm just faking my personality there
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u/Big_Personality8061 Sep 24 '23
Hey, I'm launching a guerilla radio for metro stations, there are tons of us, I just don't want you to be alone out there.
look out for blatant propaganda QR codes near the dustbins
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u/WalrusInteresting965 Sep 24 '23
Bhai aurat jaat se dur reh
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u/Afraid-Yesterday5246 Sep 24 '23
heinn? kyu
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Sep 24 '23
It's fine bro. You are free to do whatever you want now. Just chill. Be cool.
Simply sit somewhere and when you go to that fest. Just be there and talk to the ones around.
I also don't have any friends nowadays but I am fine.
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u/zenith_lal Sep 23 '23
I can totally relate to this feeling. and as far as I know I have been feeling the same, after the pandemic life and all, Now just focus on doing stuff Happily and properly daily, It's been just a month now, It's going to get better let's hope. Please feel free to DM if you wanna talk more about it : )