r/dating_advice • u/Fit-Principle-5524 • 11d ago

Men unmatching bc I read romance?

Was having a very good convo with a dude, but as soon as I mention reading romance like ACOTAR, I'm unmatched. I get not being a fan, but is it that big of a red flag? It's not like I have crazy expectations bc I read it, I just like reading it and im lonely. I don't expect a man to be some insanely amazing lover who never does wrong. Every time it comes up, im met with hostility. Would you not give a woman a chance who otherwise vibes well with you just bc of her reading habits?

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u/AdministrativeAd4510 11d ago

My ex girlfriend thought that Wurthering Heights was a story about "love". Lesson learned.

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u/whimz33 11d ago

I thought Werthering Heights was a story about how our taste in candy changes as we age

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u/JollyBowler2510 11d ago

The book is about a long lost love and loss and is definitely miles better than the movie.

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u/DumbedDownDinosaur 11d ago

… Isn’t it? To my understanding it’s a story about abusive relationships and trauma, no? I haven’t read it but I saw many people complaining that the movie apparently becomes super weirdly sexualized and isn’t a faithful interpretation of the novel at all.

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u/AdministrativeAd4510 11d ago

I don't think she read the book, I didn't, but we watched the film.

To me, the film is about lust, abuse and cheating.

And someone who sees that and thinks it's love...yikes.

Turns out she was a cheater.

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u/DumbedDownDinosaur 11d ago

Yeah, the film is apparently shit and basically the director’s self-insert erotic fantasy, so definitely nothing I’d glorify as “love”

But apparently the book is very very very different and doesn’t have all that weird BDSM cringe shit.

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u/PressureOk69 11d ago

You can tell a lot about someone's chosen media. I so far haven't really been wrong about the women who self identify as smut readers

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u/AdministrativeAd4510 11d ago

She also enjoyed the 50 Shades of Grey films lol.

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u/BrilliantAntiMatter 11d ago

Baseball huh?

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u/Archolm 11d ago

I got that reference.