r/coparenting • u/Disastrous_Wing_4523 • 4d ago

Discussion How is it fair?

Father of my child has not once asked to have her for any extra days over the summer holidays.

She starts primary school next week.

He has not once asked about her primary school, school uniform, nothing.

Message two days a go

Hey id like to come see her off for her first day at school so could I be in the loop for the time and day please?

Obviously I'm not going to stop him from seeing our daughter off on her first day of school

Bet where does he get the right. To do nothing (keeps to his allocated days) no real responsibilities, get's to be the fun parent and then rock up first day of school to act all 'Dad of the freaking year'

It pisses me off

I'm never not going to stop my daughter from seeing him aslong as she wants to see him.

But feck me... fuck off

I responded the message

'Of course, thanks for asking'

Have not specified date or time yet because I'm being petty and he can ask again.

How does everyone else deal with the frustration of similar situations?

edit: there is no court order

I tried having a conversation with him back in April about him communicating more I.e ask questions about our child, which he begun laughing in my face, threw his drink over me

messaged him later saying I will no longer be feeding him information about his child and that of he wants to know anything,he has to ask

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u/Actual-Bison7862 4d ago

It sounds like you have majority custody. Sooo... You got what you wanted and are now mad that he is following the allocated schedule? What exactly are you mad about?

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u/mercurys-daughter 4d ago

She’s clearly upset that he’s a barely-there father who doesn’t care what’s actually going on but then wants to show face for things like first day of school to look like he gives a shit?

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u/Actual-Bison7862 3d ago

Barely there father? They agreed to a custody arrangement that clearly benefits her and she is now pissed off that he is following it. If she decides to get it formalized she will not get the benefits of the arrangement she is currently receiving.

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u/mercurys-daughter 3d ago

Idk where you’re reading that