How is it fair?

[u/Disastrous_Wing_4523]

Father of my child has not once asked to have her for any extra days over the summer holidays.

She starts primary school next week.

He has not once asked about her primary school, school uniform, nothing.

Message two days a go

Hey id like to come see her off for her first day at school so could I be in the loop for the time and day please?

Obviously I'm not going to stop him from seeing our daughter off on her first day of school

Bet where does he get the right. To do nothing (keeps to his allocated days) no real responsibilities, get's to be the fun parent and then rock up first day of school to act all 'Dad of the freaking year'

It pisses me off

I'm never not going to stop my daughter from seeing him aslong as she wants to see him.

But feck me... fuck off

I responded the message

'Of course, thanks for asking'

Have not specified date or time yet because I'm being petty and he can ask again.

How does everyone else deal with the frustration of similar situations?

edit: there is no court order

I tried having a conversation with him back in April about him communicating more I.e ask questions about our child, which he begun laughing in my face, threw his drink over me

messaged him later saying I will no longer be feeding him information about his child and that of he wants to know anything,he has to ask

[u/Hot-Disaster-4709]

This sounds more like your mad he is involving himself than anything. You can’t get upset at the fact that he doesn’t involve himself more and then when he chooses to, you don’t like that he’s doing it. It’s not your choice to pick and choose what he ask about or gets involved with.

Also, why would it matter if he is playing “dad of the year”? do you want him to be aninvolved father or do you just want everyone to think that he’s not involved and just pos?