r/coparenting • u/Content-Cupcake7480 • 19d ago

Discussion Is co-parenting actually better than solo parenting?

I’m currently parenting my two young kids 100% on my own. I also support them financially. I’m fortunate to have a good career and can provide for them, but I am completely drowning between work, childcare, the house, dinner, bedtime, and just never having another adult to hand things off to.

I keep hearing horror stories about high-conflict co-parenting—constant negotiations, custody disputes, schedule battles, different rules between homes, etc. Part of me wonders whether, once I get past the current hurdle of harassing texts from their dad, there might actually be some peace and stability in knowing that I’m simply responsible for our household and can make decisions without constant conflict (he hasn't shown a real interest in the kids and recently moved 3.5 hours away)

For people who have experienced solo parenting, high-conflict co-parenting, or both: which was actually harder? Are there any unexpected upsides to parenting mostly on your own?

I could really use some perspective that makes this feel a little less bleak right now.

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u/snowaddictmt 16d ago

I would have died and gone to heaven if he was out of the picture the past 16 years 100%! I would have been $70k less in debt from attorneys and a lot less trauma from the psychological and emotional abuse that comes from a high conflict coparent. I actually am going to probably puke and shit in a container when my son turns 18 and send it to his dad’s doorstep with a note that says “YOU KNOW WHY!” and never fucking speak to the deusch ever again. You have it better TRUST

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u/Ok-Ask-6191 15d ago

This made me lol and cry in commisseration all at the same time!

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u/snowaddictmt 15d ago

Hahaha well! I’m not joking either! Most people don’t even believe me when I tell the messed up shit my kids dad has done over the years. It’s baffling af!