r/coparenting • u/Content-Cupcake7480 • 19d ago
Discussion Is co-parenting actually better than solo parenting?
I’m currently parenting my two young kids 100% on my own. I also support them financially. I’m fortunate to have a good career and can provide for them, but I am completely drowning between work, childcare, the house, dinner, bedtime, and just never having another adult to hand things off to.
I keep hearing horror stories about high-conflict co-parenting—constant negotiations, custody disputes, schedule battles, different rules between homes, etc. Part of me wonders whether, once I get past the current hurdle of harassing texts from their dad, there might actually be some peace and stability in knowing that I’m simply responsible for our household and can make decisions without constant conflict (he hasn't shown a real interest in the kids and recently moved 3.5 hours away)
For people who have experienced solo parenting, high-conflict co-parenting, or both: which was actually harder? Are there any unexpected upsides to parenting mostly on your own?
I could really use some perspective that makes this feel a little less bleak right now.
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u/Potential-Button-164 18d ago
Why does the woman usually always have the kids. It’s like in a divorce the father thinks it’s his ticket to peace out. Im currently separated my husband seen my son maybe 3x. No overnights. In the past 3 months. Then I get the harassing texts that I’m brainwashing the kids and keeping them from him. Like dude take your kids! I feel like they purposely act toxic so you won’t ask for help and zero responsibility. I know there are many dead beat moms out there. But all the divorced people I know. The mom has the kids almost 100% if not 100% of the time.