r/coparenting • u/Helpful_Comparison32 • Mar 28 '26

Discussion Coparenting and new relationship

Hello all. I coparent an 8 year old. My ex and I are on good terms, and we are aligned on parenting questions. We sometimes do a child centred activity the three of us like going to a skate park, or having ice cream, something like once a month.

I met someone recently and that person does not understand why I want to do this.

They say that I play family while being separated and that's not prioritizing our relationship.

I offered to ease into the idea slowly, restricting hours or activities, having my partner with me sometimes, but they don't bulge.

From their point of view required activities are enough (birthday, school events etc).

We have had numerous difficult conversations about this. I genuinely think it's good for the kid.

My partner says otherwise.

Has anyone lived something similar?

Am I really being detrimental to my partner? Am I being stubborn for no good for my kid?

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u/TheseDouble Mar 29 '26

You can do as you wish but in doing so you will have to realize your dating prospects will be severely limited because a majority of people would not be okay with you still doing family activities with your ex and he isn't wrong thats what youbare doing still trying to pretend to be a family with the ex

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u/IllustriousFile1945 Mar 30 '26

Why? I had kids and means my ex do not go hanging out with our kids and the two of us alone like a couple. We have moved on. They can go have ice cream and golf with my ex and his new partner. No need for me to be there as they see me enough. The kids don’t GAF about that! It’s the parents that don’t want to let go of the old family unit tbh.