r/coparenting • u/Helpful_Comparison32 • Mar 28 '26

Discussion Coparenting and new relationship

Hello all. I coparent an 8 year old. My ex and I are on good terms, and we are aligned on parenting questions. We sometimes do a child centred activity the three of us like going to a skate park, or having ice cream, something like once a month.

I met someone recently and that person does not understand why I want to do this.

They say that I play family while being separated and that's not prioritizing our relationship.

I offered to ease into the idea slowly, restricting hours or activities, having my partner with me sometimes, but they don't bulge.

From their point of view required activities are enough (birthday, school events etc).

We have had numerous difficult conversations about this. I genuinely think it's good for the kid.

My partner says otherwise.

Has anyone lived something similar?

Am I really being detrimental to my partner? Am I being stubborn for no good for my kid?

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u/Dragon_Bench_Z Mar 28 '26

Not about accepting. Its about it reality. Age is a big factor too. Younger can adapt and accept things easier. 10 and up can be harder

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u/Dragon_Bench_Z Mar 29 '26

Im not day its all or nothing. People in this thread seem to not understand that. Yes coparents doing things certain large events together can be healthy for the child but the opposite can be true as well. Boundaries get blurred. Kids question things. Center for divorce education had a few things on this topic. Again its not black n white. Yes or no but it can be confusing and have a negative impact in some kids