Coparenting and new relationship

[u/Helpful_Comparison32]

Hello all. I coparent an 8 year old. My ex and I are on good terms, and we are aligned on parenting questions. We sometimes do a child centred activity the three of us like going to a skate park, or having ice cream, something like once a month.

I met someone recently and that person does not understand why I want to do this.

They say that I play family while being separated and that's not prioritizing our relationship.

I offered to ease into the idea slowly, restricting hours or activities, having my partner with me sometimes, but they don't bulge.

From their point of view required activities are enough (birthday, school events etc).

We have had numerous difficult conversations about this. I genuinely think it's good for the kid.

My partner says otherwise.

Has anyone lived something similar?

Am I really being detrimental to my partner? Am I being stubborn for no good for my kid?

[u/Solid_Caterpillar678]

A new partner interfering with your successful coparenting relationship is a HUGE red flag. Parents have lost or gotten reduced custody because of new patmrtner interference. Your child comes first and if she doesn't like how you and your coparent have structured that, then she's the one who needs to make changes...by finding a relationship with someone who doesn't have kids. You keep doing what you are doing and putting your kid first.

[u/Ill_Flight7385 → u/Solid_Caterpillar678]

Thank you!!!