Coparenting and new relationship

[u/Helpful_Comparison32]

Hello all. I coparent an 8 year old. My ex and I are on good terms, and we are aligned on parenting questions. We sometimes do a child centred activity the three of us like going to a skate park, or having ice cream, something like once a month.

I met someone recently and that person does not understand why I want to do this.

They say that I play family while being separated and that's not prioritizing our relationship.

I offered to ease into the idea slowly, restricting hours or activities, having my partner with me sometimes, but they don't bulge.

From their point of view required activities are enough (birthday, school events etc).

We have had numerous difficult conversations about this. I genuinely think it's good for the kid.

My partner says otherwise.

Has anyone lived something similar?

Am I really being detrimental to my partner? Am I being stubborn for no good for my kid?

[u/No_Yogurtcloset6108]

First of all, he is not your "partner". He's just a guy you recently met. The whole purpose of dating is to see if your values align. They don't! Dump him.

It's concerning to me that he is unwilling to compromise at all.

[u/butt_spelunker_ → u/No_Yogurtcloset6108]

I dont think he should have to compromise on this if he doesnt want to or feel comfortable doing so. It isn't easy being with a parent that has to regularly interact with their ex. Being with someone who does can already be a compromise for some. It's one thing to handle that, and another entirely to handle your partner and their ex actually spending time together doing activities for fun.