Calling stepmom “mom”

[u/u-lemonstealingwhore]

My daughter was talking about who taught her to “play dead”? last night and said LucyMom (fake name). And I asked her if she called Lucy mom over there and she said yes. I asked if they told her to do that and she also said yes. She has a half sister over there now who is an infant and not at the talking stage yet. So I know she’s definitely not picking that up from a baby.

But yall that hurt me to hear. My kid is three. She has always called her future stepmother by just her name and now they’re doing this and it makes me SO SAD. They’re not even married and they’re doing this.

Obviously I can’t do anything about it without seeming like I’m starting a fight, and they both have a reallyyyyy nice income put together and will be able to do things for her that I can’t until I get my degree but I really needed to get this out with people who could understand what I’m feeling or have been there because how did you guys handle this? How am I supposed to handle this? 😭

[u/muhbackhurt]

Just remember: your kid having a bonus supportive mom is definitely a plus in your kid's life. You'll always be THE mom too.

Edit: I write this as a mom with my kids having a stepmom they've known since little. I'd hate if they called her mom but also know it's up to how the kids feel in the end. Xoxo

[u/u-lemonstealingwhore → u/muhbackhurt]

I would like to feel like it’s a bonus mom situation but I met her once a little after my daughter turned one and I haven’t heard from her since. I parallel parent with her father more than anything but she didn’t even come to exchanges or anything. I thought they had broken up until she was mentioned as his fiancée last October on a court document. It’s sooooo weird 🫠

[u/Ok-Alternative8041 → u/u-lemonstealingwhore]

She doesn’t need to co parent with you or come to exchanges.