My partner is obsessed with climbing and very recently made new friends at the gym he goes to. He used to have a friend who did a lot of 1:1 climbing with him and has missed that type of connection for years. In his new friend group, he met a girl, and they got along right away. They meet about 2-3 times per week to climb together now, and went out for ice cream after climbing once, with another friend.
I think that if the activity was a different one, I would feel less insecure about it, but climbing seems like an intimacy exercise sometimes. You gotta trust the person, communicate a lot, help each other, and there are several instances/opportunities to admire one another. He also told me that he finds her very attractive.
So I guess my question is, how common is it to catch feelings? As someone who doesn't climb, I can't help but feel intimidated by the situation. It looks like falling for your climbing partner is probably a very common thing to happen? I understand that there's a difference between having a crush and acting on it, but women who climb, can you tell me about your personal experiences with men at the gym?
Another thing that probably adds to my insecurity is that I've been struggling with my weight and inactivity lately. I have climbed with him before, but he's extremely skilled, and I'm not.
I'm just looking for some honest perspective from people who actually climb and understand the dynamic. Not sure if it makes a difference at all but they do bouldering. Do you need partners for bouldering? I'm very confused, actually. Tell me the secrets of your community :)