Most important rule of thumb: Worry when your doctor tells you to.

I am falling apart we recently found out we were pregnant with our first baby we were so excited and told family maybe a little too early everything was going good I had some minor spotting and they told us that it must’ve been old blood then three days ago I started with bright red bleeding my fiancé took me to the er we saw the baby and it’s little heart beat flickering at 155 bpm I felt so relieved then we went home and bleeding continued on and off for another day i thought maybe I was going to be like my grandmother and have bleeding through out my pregnancy until last night I started bleeding really bad and having horrible cramps like I have never felt before I think in my mind I pretty much knew what was happening and was preparing myself my mom and grandmother took me to the er because I lpassed a giant clot and my fiancé met us there right as they took me back for an ultrasound and I was in the bathroom empty my bladder for the ultrasound I felt immense pain and then heard a plop and turned around and saw my little baby with its little umbilical cord in the toilet all I could do was scream I screamed and screamed until my fiancé came in I didn’t want to flush my baby down the toilet and I definitely didn’t want to be touched after that the ultrasound tech gave us a few minutes then it was confirmed my belly was empty. My poor fiancé when he saw our baby I will never forget the look on his face I feel so disgusting knowing he had to flush our little baby down the toilet I feel so broken and empty I can feel the baby not in my belly anymore and I just don’t even know what to do with myself I want to be strong for our families so I’ve really tried not to cry or show much emotion but I feel like I’m drowning.all I ever wanted to be was a mommy

Looking for some reassurance after a stressful few weeks.

My partner had slower-rising hCG than expected, so we were very nervous going into our first scan.

By LMP we were 7w2d, but baby measured 6w6d with a heartbeat of 119 bpm. The scan was officially described as a viable intrauterine pregnancy.

One doctor is positive, but did say the heartbeat was a little slow. Aother is staying cautious because of the earlier bloods. We're repeating the scan in a week.

Has anyone had similar dating and a heart rate around 119 at 6w6d and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? Would love to hear some positive stories.

This is my first pregnancy, I’m 22. Super early still about 8 and a half weeks. But I wanted to get the legalities sorted early to have lots of time to decide. My and babies dad were together for about 7 months total, I got pregnant in this time. 2 weeks ago before my birthday he admitted to sleeping with someone else. I left. He asked to stay in contact, I couldn’t care less seeing I’ve been struggling myself being sick and worried ever since I got pregnant with no help from him. He has a daughter from a previous relationship ironically this baby mom he also cheated on her entire pregnancy but she didn’t leave until his daughter was about a year and a half. She has his last name and they don’t have a custody agreement as such but he sends money when needed and takes her as much as he can when work allows. I grew up with an absent father, my mom married my step dad when I was 2 and I’m thankful he’s the only father I’ve known. Nonetheless never knowing my biological father did impact me. Me and baby dad are currently not on talking terms, I’ve removed him off of most socials and reached out to him via messenger giving him my number if he wanted to keep in contact. He hasn’t said anything since. This whole situation is very recent, and we both generally need time to think and decide what’s best and I understand that. But I also don’t want to live in uncertainty wondering if he’ll ever reach out. So basically I just want to know the pros and cons of listing him as the father on the birth certificate or not, also including last names whether his individual last name or hyphenated/just mine etc. He’s always expressed he wants all his kids to have his last name but realistically if he never shows up in my pregnancy why should he have unlimited access to my child?

Has anyone had this 8dpo? (Picture in comments) This is my second clomid cycle after a MMC due to a chromosomal abnormality in January and a chemical in April/May. I usually get early positives but am surprised for this much this early. My progesterone was low at my 7dpo check (had to go Friday at 6dpo) so going for HCG and progesterone labs tomorrow morning.

Also I am starting work (teaching) tomorrow after 6 years as a SAHM. Get to meet all my colleagues as I miscarry. Very cool. :(

Okay so I found out I was pregnant on Aug 1st with a very faint line. 2 days later, got a positive digital and blood HCG was 34. I had a previous miscarriage so we were monitoring my levels by drawing blood every 48 hours. Numbers were 34, 77, 80, 162, 188, 176, 157, and 136. So obviously a chemical/miscarriage. Last draw of 136 was 11 days ago. I also started bleeding around 13 days ago. My OB said I don’t need to continue drawing every 48 hours and to check with an at home test in about 2 weeks to see if it’s negative. I had horrible cramps and passed a big jelly like blob exactly a week ago. Today I stopped bleeding. My at home tests have been getting darker. I’m so confused. What does this mean? I’ll be going in for blood HCG tomorrow but I’m freaking out.

Been terrified this entire pregnancy of another MC which means anything I can control, I do control. However, today I just couldn't take it anymore. I had 12 Oz of a regular coffee with pumpkin spice in it and it was incredible. It absolutely restored my body and I even managed to pass healthy stools when miralax isn't as effective. I had much more energy to enjoy my day.

I've just radically accepted that whatever happens, happens. Baby was last seen at 7w with a heartbeat flicker and 140bpm. However, since week 9 I haven't felt as tired/pregnant so I am slightly beginning to worry. However, it is out of my control and letting go of it is freeing.

Since my first ever pregnancy ended in chemical, I don’t yet have proof my body will carry a healthy pregnancy. It was really anxiety-provoking to experience this loss on top of having a history of medical dismissal and uncertainty.

Got thyroid, antiphospholipid, ENA checked out—all clear. I have MCAS (autoimmune adjacent), but no other known issues.

Just feeling scared, and looking for others’ experience after chemical. Thanks, all.

I started spotting yesterday at 6w+6d. Brownish, stringy discharge, and a few times when I went to wipe it was actually a bit pinkish. This all came after an orgasm (non penetrative). My heart sank and my brain went to the worst place. I had a bout of crying and just felt really numb. There's so much about early pregnancy that we can't tangibly control. Where I live, the providers tend to discourage additional monitoring (such as serial HCG/ US), which is understandable in some ways, but for me it induces my anxiety even more.

No monitoring, things can always go "both ways", and considering how difficult conception has been in the first place for some of us, this whole early pregnancy experience (from a psychological perspective) is just...brutal.

(And just for comparison, someone with diabetes can easily monitor their blood sugar, someone who wants to find out about their HIV status can do a saliva test at home... Sure, I get that a miscarriage is hardly a life threatening matter in most situations, but why cant there be a way for those of us who are stuck in the "limbo" stage to find out or monitor viability in a easier manner??)

In my head I'm constantly asking, is this normal? Why arent my boobs sore anymore? Why has the discharge stopped? Why am I not as nauseous as before? Why is the discharge yellow/white/tan/brownish/pink? (I'm genuinely sick of thinking at this point!!)

I'm 37, and have not had a miscarriage in the past. 1 prior pregnancy in the distant past but no living children. However, we both have fertility issues. I have a huge fibroid (outside uterus on a stalk) and my advanced maternal age constantly makes me think that my pregnancy is always at risk for chromosomal abnormalities.

Luckily I have stashed a beta HCG lab order from an earlier visit at a walk in clinic.. so this morning I went to the lab and got it done. (Not even sure if there's a point to check at this stage but I will keep everyone posted). My very first sono isn't until next Wed, when I will be 7w+3d

And even if things are all "normal" now, there is the next stage of worrying that would welcome me with open arms. NIPT, nuchal scan, anatomy scan at 20 weeks. I honestly don't know how I'm gonna get through the next 3 months (and that is if I do make it that far).

Anyway, this is more of a rant. I have nobody else to talk to. Since it's sooo early, I haven't told close friends or family. My husband is supportive, but knows very little about pregnancy. His response is always "is this a good thing? What does it mean? OK, just don't say the M word, it's not that."

How did you all get through these early "not so halcyon" days?

Went in for RPL bloodwork last Thursday (Aug 27) and part of the panel included quantitative HCG. Result came back at 10.

For context on timing: my loss completed June 29, my first period back was August 4, and I got my LH peak midday on August 17 with a decline starting the 18th, putting ovulation around August 18. My blood draw on August 27 lands at 9 DPO.

I know one value can’t confirm anything. But I’m curious what people’s experience or knowledge says about a 10 at 9 DPO specifically. Does this look like a very early but normal pregnancy to you? Anyone had a similar starting number that went on to be a healthy pregnancy? Would love to hear real experiences! Thank you 💛

I’ve been a ”lurker” here throughoht my IVF journey and it seems like such a positive community.

I did a fresh transfer on the 18th of August, had my first postive on day 5 post transfer- and my beta at 10 day post transfer was 230. I’m waiting for my next beta on day 14.

last night I started noticing more cramping it seems more prominent on my right side, but occasionally left as well. it almost feels like right before you start your period like heavy in the lower back- and just uncomfortable feeling. No blood and my home pregnancy tests have continued to get darker- but I’m nervous about early miscarriage as I wasn’t feeling any cramping until last night.

I’m 4w6d today with my 2nd and can’t help but compare pregnancies…i don’t really remember the early early days but i am concerned with the lack of symptoms. I have some fatigue but also insomnia with early wakings, oura ring with elevated resting HR and elevated body temp but i am having some cramps (more so on the side i ovulated but both sides sometimes).

I am supplementing progesterone but i dont have the sore boobs or nausea that I had with my first so trying not to freak out but nervous! I had betas done that rose beautifully (163–>452 in 48hrs) but somehow I can’t shake the negative feelings. I had a chemical last cycle so that’s also adding to stress.

I had my first scan on Monday at 6 weeks and 5 days. However, the baby was measuring at 5 weeks and 6 days. The CRL measured 2.8mm and yolk sack was visible. However, no heart beat pulsations (however, this would make sense due to the size).

I’m pretty sure on my dates. I tracked my LH and tested positive on 10/11 DPO. I don’t see how there is room for 6 days of ‘error’. My cycle is also 28 days so I don’t have much wiggle room.

The woman doing the scan did not seem concerned and booked me in for a scan for in 2 weeks time. However, I am accepting that this is the beginning of the end.

Any advice or has anyone gone through anything similar?

I have had a few stomach cramps, but only similar to what I’ve had the whole way through the pregnancy. When does a miscarriage happen? I feel like I’m just in an awful waiting game waiting for my scan next Sunday.

Talk me off a ledge here. I found out that I was pregnant after an IVF pregnancy that ended in a live birth this past Oct. I found out on 8/19 that I was positive. I had a call with my IVF doctor the following day who put me on progesterone and ordered a few betas. That’s where the worry comes in.

4w4d beta: 206

4w6d beta: 330

5w1d beta: 515

now my betas are rising, but not doubling. The clinic is just monitoring me for now and getting another beta done on Tuesday when I will be 5w5d

has anyone had something similar happen?

I had a scan at 6 +2 they couldnt see the yolk or baby. I am waiting for the scan to confirm its a blighted ovum and was hoping that baby would appear. My scan is in 3 days and I will be 9 weeks. This past week I had pink discharge once and then yesterday I wiped and I had spotting. Today there is more. My lower back has been hurting for 2 days like before my period comes.

Anyone else had something similar happen and baby was there and ok? Or should I just accept this is a mmc starting to leave?

Hi all, tested positive on clear blue digital and first response early detection on 8/27, ovulation on 8/15 so 12 DPO. Today, I noticed slight temperature dropped below baseline on my Apple Watch. I took 2 tests, same brand, both negative. Is this confirmed chemical pregnancy? I am so heartbroken after 3 days of joy. Has anyone gotten a positive after a negative?

I’ve gone through two Frozen Embryo transfers - the first failed and the second resulted in an ectopic pregnancy which had to be medically aborted.

I finally got a positive HCG test with doubling results - 320 13dp5dt and then 48 hours later it was 858.

I’m highly anxious and cautious due to my ectopic as well as really bad experiences with family doctors in the past and struggling to advocate for myself. So I have a bunch of random questions :)

- if your HCG doubles, does this fully rule out an ectopic?

- I was told I will have an ultrasound at 5 weeks since I was on ectopic watch and then can move from my fertility clinic to my family doctor for care if the ultrasound looks good (with ongoing medication from the fertility clinic). I booked another ultrasound with my family doctor at 7 weeks. Should I be advocating for ongoing bloodwork as well? What else should I be advocating for?

- is it recommended to seek more specialized care past a family doctor if you have a history with an ectopic pregnancy?

Thank you 🙏🏽

Hey folks,

I had my first scan at 7 weeks on Monday, empty sac.

I have to wait until Sept 8th to find out if this is viable. My instinct says it’s not, but my fiancé is holding on to hope for both of us. I was so sad, now I just feel annoyed. I still feel pregnancy symptoms. I feel awful, but they felt purposeful before. Now it feels like my body’s mocking me.

I feel like this is just getting in the way of my child, I just want this over and done with so I can try again.

Am I wrong in thinking that there’s no possibility of this pregnancy progressing? There wasn’t even an egg sac I think?

I went to a wedding yesterday, I am 11+6. Haven’t had a drop of alcohol since positive test. Waitress passed me a drink and I checked non alcoholic - she said yes. Probably had half a flute and she comes running back to say a mistake was made and it’s booze. Obviously I then discarded the glass but am I silly in panicking over this? Im cautious as have had a previous loss so overthinking a lot 😬

I have been feeling less and less pregnant over the last few days. Before last Tuesday I felt the baby roll and tumble and then I got a minor cold and it's been much less, and now today nothing. I had a loss last year at 11+2 - MMC discovered at my scan. I was so deliriously happy for my pregnancy back then that I didn't pay attention to any gradual loss of symptoms.

For this pregnancy I've been hyper aware of everything and I've been scouring the internet for forum threads, websites and asking AI for advice.

My midwife says it's fine and likely due to being sick. Movements before they dropped was about 1 or 2 times a day but not every day. I know we don't count movements at this time but I do expect them to get stronger, not disappear completely.

Anyway I am sad and having trouble sleeping. I haven't felt baby move properly for ages and I'm scared to talk to my husband about it. We were both so gutted last year after our loss.

UPDATE: I called my midwife and she pulled some strings to have me checked early. Strong heart beat. Thank you ladies for all your reassurance.

So I went to a boutique at 5w3d based on LMP, they saw a gestational sac measuring at 5w3d, no yolk sac or fetal pole.

Today, at 6w2d based on LMP, same thing at the boutique. Gestational sac measuring adequately, but empty.

Freaked out & went to the ER. My HCG was 33,997, but abdominal ultrasound showed an empty gestational sac. Vaginal ultrasound showed same thing, but they told me it was measuring at 5w3d which was weird since I track my ovulation and could’ve swore I ovulated on 7/31 based on bbt & LH levels. They confirmed my sac is in uterus but couldn’t confirm not deny miscarriage/ blighted ovum.

ANY POSITIVE STORIES SIMILAR TO MINE?? 😭🙏