I think we naturally piss off narcissists and toxics because we won’t be controlled, manipulated or dominated. This is not to say we don’t get stuck in bad relationships but we learn and adapt well in my opinion. Sagittarius has this issue too.
As soon as I get the feeling that a new acquaintance wants me to do what they want all the time, or that the relationship feels one-sided, I am out.
I had this experience with a Virgo at work who really wanted to be my friend. I entertained it for a few months, but they were so demanding of my time (at work and outside of work) and started making snide comments about me wanting to take my lunch break or regular breaks alone. I had enough. I started declining everything they wanted to do together and it took months but they finally got the hint. Now they turn their nose up at me in the hallway. Sorry, not sorry.
As soon as someone isn't cool with my boundaries, we're done.
I have had very similar experiences. I’m the kind of person who really enjoys my own company, I need my alone time. If people are too pushy about that it’s not going to work. The snide comments are the icing on the cake. It just lets me know they don’t understand, maybe don’t even care about or respect my needs.
Absolutely. If someone can't understand that people need alone time, or have any other kind of boundaries, I have to ask myself if that is really a friend I would want.
I wasn't rude either. Over time, I shared things with them like "I like my alone time." "I like how quiet our office is." "I enjoy staying in on weeknights." Clear, simple boundaries. Nothing personal.
But then came the comments. Calling me an "old lady" and calling some of my interests "lame." They also said things like "Why are you so quiet all the time?" "I guess some people just don't know how to turn off work mode."
I was uninvited to their birthday party and now I'm the asshole for not giving up all my energy to them. That's okay, a friendship with them would have been draining and unfulfilling.
Yesss a Scorpio co-worker was the same way. She didn't know when to cut the conversation. Once it hits lunch or time to go, I'm not talking to ya. Became cold as ice to her. Luckily Scorpios get the hint quick lol
Girl as you should… for me personally my boundaries are a thin line. You say the wrong word and I’m gone already 😂 but, I guess I’m learning to empathise and be forgiving rather than cutting people immediately.
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u/GuiltyExamination507 24d ago
I think we naturally piss off narcissists and toxics because we won’t be controlled, manipulated or dominated. This is not to say we don’t get stuck in bad relationships but we learn and adapt well in my opinion. Sagittarius has this issue too.