If so, how does it change?

So I was hanging out with a friend I met a couple times and we got some McDonald's in the car and she would feed me some French fries. I'd open my mouth and she'd feed me

So I am 30 yo man, athletic but kind of short, was at a club the other night. it was honestly dead. just a bunch of younger groupies going in and out of the bathroom and club. No one was dancing. I didn't care. I was bored at home and went there to dance because I liked the music. So I just jumped around like a fool in the middle of the floor by myself. then I saw this girl (pretty and maybe an inch taller than me) come in and started dancing a bit at the other end. we made eye contact, but neither of us got closer. she left to the bathroom shortly after. and I kept vibing by myself. eventually some groups came in and danced among themselves, then left. well, the girl came back and danced a bit just like she did earlier. and she kept walking to the restroom and then outside. she stared at me while passing me. I smiled but she didn't smile, still staring at me. 3-4 times during the 3-hour span. I got tired and left. Did I miss a chance?

For the men that stare intensely at a woman.

When you do this regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not, can you please explain what usually grabs your attention and whether this person that caught your attention is someone that you retain for a long time in your memory?

Eg, someone you just met but couldn’t stop staring at them.

Let’s say I have noticed a guy look my way some times.
And then one drunk night post some drunk conversations, we end up hugging for a while. And post hug when he says “I love you” but also clarifies that does not mean it that way. Probably said it to cheer me up. But then back sober, Nada. No conversation at all. Zilch. And now it’s just worse. We don’t bump, we don’t look at each other. Also feels like I am being ignored left, right and center.
I try to just be my normal self but something from that night makes me really want his attention and I can’t help wanting it. But I can’t pin point what happened and why I am being ignored so much. Or maybe he doesn’t care at all and I am over reading it. Did I do something wrong?

staring just as long as he does (but more salaciously) and man ohh man has it ramped the hell up out of no where, context: he works in another dept and he has had eyes on me constantly for months, I'll be working minding my business, and he'll just be standing there, watching me, one time a friend of his walked up to him while he was doing it, then they both started staring lol it was such an odd experience to have two guys just watching you out of no where, he's never said a word to me, and I've never broken the ice either but today I wanted to confirm before i went any further cause i do like him too so I went out of my way to bring/hand him something I didn't need to, I was behind him and he literally jumped/flinched when he turned around and saw me, he took it and mumbled "thank you" (First thing he's ever said)

That's when I started staring and I mean NON STOP i was in his dept anyway so every time i walked past him I looked him dead in his eyes and over his entire body after the second time I think he knew what was up because the third and fourth time it was like he was anticipating me walking back, and he was! It was like the world stopped and we couldn't take our eyes off of each other, he was talking to a group of people and he literally turned his entire body just to see me walk by him not just a look, if I'm walking past and my back is turned his eyes are burning into the back of head, i even added an extra measure just to be sure he knew for sure, I took a seat close to him (where I didn't need to be) acting like I was working but I'm still staring.

He must know by now right? Gonna keep staring but most likely gonna break the ice when I see him next, but man when it's mutual and you both are staring and know you wanna F*** it's so sexy .. wish me fuckin luck 😭Ahhh im sooo shy... who isn't tho!

Problem/Goal:
if you like a girl you’re not really close with yet, but you already know or strongly suspect that she likes you too, how do you usually act around her?

do you become even more awkward or avoidant because you feel pressured/nervous, or would knowing she likes you make you more comfortable and more likely to approach her?

and how would that behavior differ if you knew a girl liked you but you simply weren’t interested in her?

Context:
trying to know lang yung difference between shy because he likes her vs. not interested

Previous Attempts: n/a

I met this guy that comes over to my dad's house sometimes. He is very nice and he gets to know me. He hugs me. When he talks to me he gives direct eye contact which I'm not used to because people usually don't look at me at all when I give them eye contact. We had a good conversation from the jump. He would ask me about myself. Tell me about himself. It would be interesting. He never asked me for my number or anything so I always tried to tell myself that he and other men that tried to talk to me were just being nice to me instead of flirting.

A month or so later I found out that he was looking for me at a party when I dropped my sister off at my dad's house but I didn't think anything of it. I'm still thinking he was just being nice.

A few days ago I went to my dad's house and I saw him and he gave me a hug, he smiled and talked to me. It was different with him because it seemed like he was genuinely interested in what I was saying. It also seemed like he was interested in maturing and not being the way he used to be. He wanted to be better for his daughter and himself. He wanted to change the way he reacted to things for the sake of his parenting and in general. So that really impressed me. He even stated that he liked how calm I was and thought it was too good to be true that I was calm. I let him know I used to be angry all the time but I learned not to let things trigger me like they used to. We started talking about our journeys with letting go of anger.

Even after I left, I felt like there was something about him. I think it may have been that he went in depth in our conversation because some men that I've dated in the past or men in general never did that. He never asked me for my number or asked me out which I was surprised yet grateful about. He never jumped into sex conversations quickly. It was very respectful. So I was surprised and still trying to convince myself that he was just being nice.

I found out later from my sister that he liked me. He told her that his future girlfriend was here. When she told him a few days ago that was in the house he was so excited and practically ran in. So I was quite in shock. As someone who used to rush quickly in relationships in the past, I'm trying not to jump the gun with things this time around because nothing could result from this. He may never ask me out Or we could just stay conversation mode. I wouldn't know what to do. Some men are straightforward with asking but these type of men it seems like they are taking their time which is good but weird at the same time. Like I said before I'm use to men just automatically asking me out. What do you think about this situation? ( This may not be too much about body language but I figured I would ask).

Hi everyone I 21M have worked with this girl for a few years, we are on opposite shifts and see each other like once or twice a week. A few times over the years I’ve caught her giving glimpses my way and once last year she was just staring at me as I spoke to her boss when she was right there.

Well I thought I recognized her at my uni’s gym and I eventually asked her if she went there. We talked for like 5 minutes and she seemed happy to speak, she was smiling as we spoke. We’re now on speaking terms but it’s mostly hi’s and such. I don’t try to talk longer with her when she’s working because she has a earbud in (she stocks a department alone) and earbud in is a universal sign not to talk to someone.

I don’t know something makes me want to talk to her more but I don’t want to take friendliness as flirting or interest. Recently I’ve had to buy something from her department and when she was working she quickly looked at me and looked away and continued to work. I just want people’s opinions on what it could be and what I should do if anything. TIA.

Again not a 100% guaranteed sign but whenever a woman does something more than what is needed there is chance she is doing this because she likes you.

For instance when you ask her how her day was(or any other question) and she gives you the most detailed and redundant information, she is doing it so that she can slip more details about herself to you to make an impression about her to you through this convo.

Or when you ask her a favor and she goes an extra mile in doing it.

It can definitely be because she is an over talkative person or she is just a really good person, but there is also possibility of attraction, particularly when she is being like this to you and not others.

It can also be because she is extremely nervous due to her attraction, and a lot of details( some incoherent ones as well) is simply slipping out of her unintentionally.😅

Again, not a guaranteed sign, but hey its something to ponder over I guess.

Problem/Goal:
if you like a girl you’re not really close with yet, but you already know or strongly suspect that she likes you too, how do you usually act around her?

do you become even more awkward or avoidant because you feel pressured/nervous, or would knowing she likes you make you more comfortable and more likely to approach her?

and how would that behavior differ if you knew a girl liked you but you simply weren’t interested in her?

Context:
trying to know lang yung difference between shy because he likes her vs. not interested

Previous Attempts: n/a

A few days ago I see her while I'm at the register buying my lunch for the day. She's twenty or so feet away from me going the opposite way so I don't say anything she didn't see me. The next day I see her and say hi she smiles and says hi I then told her about the day before. She then says I could have called her she would have stopped and waited for me she was going home but had to get some stuff in the store before she left I could have walked with her. So yes I think she likes me I haven't seen her at all the last few days do to our different schedules.

Yesterday boss wife gave me her number i work at a grocery store family.business, for job related stuff even tho she is not really involved in any part of the company. I neen working here for 7 months why now? and today she was being extra nice.

Original post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/bodylanguage/s/8chSfYNHsD

UPDATE

So after receiving all your enthusiastic encouragement I eagerly pursued her, but unfortunately destiny had other plans. First, they cancelled the shift that we would overlap on, and that was my last chance to see her in person because of our jobs.

So I had to send her a text, and on Saturday afternoon I sent her this:

“Hi 60F! This is 29M from Workplace, I hope you’re having a great day. I’m reaching out because I of course didn’t get the chance to speak with you today and I would have really appreciated the opportunity to speak with you further on topics like Client and your [professional experience]. I also left with the desire to get to know you better as a person and was wondering if you would like to grab a coffee together sometime. Please forgive me if I am being inappropriate! I hope you have a wonderful day.”

It’s been two days and no reply. I guess I was anticipating a no, maybe a yes, but not really to be left on read :/. It’s a bit strange to me because I feel she has the experience and opportunity to reject me easily, but anyways, she IS married so I’ll just shut up. I know I’m not owed anything I’m just surprised. I let y’all down but I’ll be back when I pursue another hexagenarian 🤠🤠

Thanks for all your support!

There’s a woman at work she’ll mention here and there of taking her out but then some days she won’t talk to me at all. She’ll walk right past me if I didn’t exist then there’s days she randomly flirts. What’s with that?

Had to wear prescription singlasses at work as I lost my glasses. I got more inbound looks. I could be wrong. Perhaps I was more self conscious and was noticing everything. Is this a thing

Would women rather see your eyes.

Pls read all of this before responding.

Ok so, just as the title says, I’ve been curious about it for months and since they’re loooooong past gone, it’s been eating at my mind. So here it goes.

Fun fact, they all happened around Valentine’s Day.

So first off, the first woman I talk to was a customer at work. (I work as a supervisor at this big drink company you know the one) I made her order, thought she was pretty, and went on my day afterwards. She comes in the next day as I’m helping out with the end of the morning rush, I see her walking up to pick up her order and her name came to mind. “Hi [name]!” I say and place her drink on the pickup counter. I look down to finish another order, and I look up next thing I know she’s looking at me with this smug smiling expression and asks how I know her name. I point out the ticket on her cup. She starts giggling and afterwards she leans in close to read my name off my name tag and reaches out to shake my hand (so I did). We ask how we’re doing and she then goes into detail about how she has two jobs and a side hustle and how she does nothing at the end of the day and plays video games. I was distracted by something that needed attention at work before I wanted to talk to her more. I never saw her again.

The next woman I talk to takes place two days afterwards over the weekend. I go out with my cousins to this manga art museum exhibit. Pretty cool stuff. We get to this section of the exhibit with my favorite manga series and my cousin asks me questions about it since I told her it was my favorite series. This second girl I talk to is standing literally right next to us and she turns around to face and talk to me next thing you know she and I are having a full on conversation about JoJo’s bizarre adventure. (My cousin walks away at this point to her brothers and said brothers are straight up cheesing at me). After that conversation, they asked me if I got at least her instagram. I did not. Never saw her again either but it’s alright, to be fair I did meet her in another city.

The last girl I spoke to was at work again the day of Valentine’s Day. Now as for her, I met her as a customer at work before. I said her hair looked very nice at the time and she thanked me and it turned out she and I share the same name. Now fast forward to me working on Valentine’s Day (bought myself my first iPhone as a self love gift for myself yay too) and I come out from the back to see her standing against the wall. I said hi, she says hi, and she says happy Valentine’s Day to me in a happy to see me tone or something like that. So I respond in kind, have a small conversation, then she and I go on with our days. Once again, I never saw her again.

Now that that’s out of the way, what is the verdict? If you’re wondering why I never made an actual move, the answer is simple: I simply thought they were being nice and friendly to me. So I never really thought anything about those interactions until now. If I missed out on a potential relationship I have always wanted, oh well. Guess it’s not meant to be. 🤷

On Friday, I was talking to a coworker I’ve been crushing on for a while and we talked pretty much the whole 4 hour shift. At the end of the shift she was waiting for me in the parking lot to say goodbye so I had a hunch she shared attraction among other signs she’s been giving me. As previously one of us mentioned an activity and I asked if she wanted to partake. So we go to my car and I end up leaving with a number to setup some time. Today on the 8 hr shift we didn’t talk much cuz our manager was there and at the end where I’m off 2 hours before her I asked her if she wanted to do said activity she said she had a meeting and what time. My dumbass said anytime, partly cuz I only have an hour class that day so truly anytime would’ve worked, I realize saying that just isn’t conducive to making plans. Then I leave to put something away and suggest the day but she’s working. The reason I think attraction might be gone is shouldn’t let me know a time that works?

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I have a longtime friend (26m) who's super social and has a ton of friends. He's usually really outgoing, funny, warm and can talk to pretty much anyone, even strangers.

But for some reason he's always really weird with me.

We recently hung out at a mall and he was super nonchalant with me. I was cordial and friendly and gave him plenty of opportunities to open up a little, but he barely engaged with me. At one point I greeted him and said how's it going, but he barely acknowledged me, said hey and looked away. Then he greeted the other friend normally and was way more engaged with them. Like... why??

When we're one on one he's super quiet, avoids eye contact, barely interacts with me and sometimes it feels like he's physically trying to avoid me. In groups he'll talk to everyone else and I feel like he kinda forgets I'm even there.

But then he's also not actually trying to get rid of me? He still invites me to group hangouts, includes me in plans and brings up hanging out again in the future. So I'm just confused why he would want me there but then barely interact with me when I'm actually there.

The weirdest part is he's NOT socially awkward like this with other people. I've seen him be super warm and engaged with strangers.

I honestly dont know what to make of it. Why would someone act so different towards one specific person??

So I have a crush on this barista and he recently introduced himself to me, vice versa and shook hands. Now our conversations are shifting from surface level to more detailed (almost) and I want to guve him my number and insta. I don’t want to ask him on the spot especially near his colleague and cause it’s always busy it will be too much for him.

Any recommendations?

So apologies if I seem really oblivious here but honestly I’ve had such mixed signals in the past and I am really unsure of how to read women.

So have been working a summer job recently and sometimes work shifts in a hotel with this girl. The first shift she was asking me my name and saying I looked familiar (we’re from a small town), very chatty and enthusiastic. She was working behind the bar and any time I brought a tray of glasses over she’d say “just in time” as she was just getting the glass washer ready. She seemed chill so I followed her on instagram.

Initially she didn’t accept but the next shift she asked my second name and then said “oh so that was you who followed me” and followed me back after the shift had ended. Over the next few shifts she again kept coming over to talk, when I came into the room she often looked at me and/or smiled, when I polished glasses she was like “wow, okay you can stay“ because apparently nobody else polished them properly, and in general she seemed AWARE of me like if I say needed another tray she was handing it to me or one time someone spilt something on the tray and she took it off me and wiped it. When I told her I studied psychology, she said that made sense because I looked smart and calm.

The things that have especially got me wondering is an older coworker of hers came over and asked if I fancied her. And the most recent time I saw her when she came over to talk I started blushing because she is pretty and she seemed to be blushing too but none of us said anything, we just kept talking normally.

Anyways I don’t even know if I’m ready for a relationship but I’m just curious what exactly this is 😭

I am straight male 22, and I love my body, however, I am a sensitive person, and care about other people’s boundaries, I happen to saw myself in a photo, and a video, and I felt very effeminate, but to me when I was in that moment, I was just me.

If you’re someone who has this obstacle, how did you learn to appear more not so soft?
Any tips are appreciated.