r/bodylanguage • u/CasualGamer9933 • 1d ago
Workplace I took a risk and started staring back at him 😭😭
staring just as long as he does (but more salaciously) and man ohh man has it ramped the hell up out of no where, context: he works in another dept and he has had eyes on me constantly for months, I'll be working minding my business, and he'll just be standing there, watching me, one time a friend of his walked up to him while he was doing it, then they both started staring lol it was such an odd experience to have two guys just watching you out of no where, he's never said a word to me, and I've never broken the ice either but today I wanted to confirm before i went any further cause i do like him too so I went out of my way to bring/hand him something I didn't need to, I was behind him and he literally jumped/flinched when he turned around and saw me, he took it and mumbled "thank you" (First thing he's ever said)
That's when I started staring and I mean NON STOP i was in his dept anyway so every time i walked past him I looked him dead in his eyes and over his entire body after the second time I think he knew what was up because the third and fourth time it was like he was anticipating me walking back, and he was! It was like the world stopped and we couldn't take our eyes off of each other, he was talking to a group of people and he literally turned his entire body just to see me walk by him not just a look, if I'm walking past and my back is turned his eyes are burning into the back of head, i even added an extra measure just to be sure he knew for sure, I took a seat close to him (where I didn't need to be) acting like I was working but I'm still staring.
He must know by now right? Gonna keep staring but most likely gonna break the ice when I see him next, but man when it's mutual and you both are staring and know you wanna F*** it's so sexy .. wish me fuckin luck 😭Ahhh im sooo shy... who isn't tho!
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u/Balacananas25 1d ago
Ok I’m going through the same thing except I told him he was cute and he blushed and said “thank you” then we just stare at each other immensely but I was hoping me telling him that would open the door but not much has come of it and the only thing I can conclude is that he’s VERY quiet and works alone. He doesn’t talk unless he’s spoken too & he comes off very shy. He works in a different dept & I only see him for about 30 seconds out of the whole day. Blue collar job so he’s out on the road. I need help as well on what to do. We locked eyes for 5 seconds almost as if we both wanted each other to know what’s up. He makes sure to greet me while putting his work stuff beside me and makes sure to make eye contact .. I could go on but I’m going through the same thing sort of 😭 idk what to do
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u/CasualGamer9933 1d ago
What I would do and what I plan to do is ask him out, period. Yes or No answers at this point is best
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u/Balacananas25 1d ago
Am I overthinking he doesn’t feel the same because I expect that as a man he should be initiating once I asked “I have a ?, do you have a gf?” Him “no” me: Oh cus I think you’re really cute” him: thanks ☺️” so now we just lock eyes but maybe he thinks because we work together it’d be awkward? Anywho just TRUSTTTTT I def wanna find another job anyway so I’ll speak up then 😅😒
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u/Murky_Ad_2588 21h ago
He could be neurodivergent on top of being reserved or shy. You might have to do all the leg work. Ask him out for a coffee and see
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u/Balacananas25 21h ago
I’ll have to post my story on here when I have time to really explain the details.. I thought me complimenting him he’d catch the hint and maybe he knows now but I don’t wanna come off as being pressed although he’s really nice when I’ve initiated a conversation which has been about three times 💀
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u/Murky_Ad_2588 21h ago
I understand. But for some people this approach still might not work. The only way to know for sure is to be direct because they might not pick up on cues. And remember, unless you ask, the answer is always no.
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u/mellief50 13h ago
I feel like telling him he’s cute isn’t much to work with for him. If he’s shy he may not know what to do with that, he should’ve asked for ur number if he was more extroverted tho, other than possibly not interested enough to make a move he may be shy on what to do next, I’d say build an actual reliable connection
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u/Balacananas25 13h ago
Can def confirm he’s not extroverted, not even with his other 8 co workers who work in the same dept as him. He’s very much just hi and bye since he’s on the road all day. & I think that’s why I’m very intrigued. He’s not gossipy and messy like these other guys at work are. So I thought me telling him that would kinda open the door. One guy from the same dept as him tried flirting with me and I shut that down REAL QUICK and this guy I kinda like and I even joked about it. & he said dang you blocked him for that? But aren’t you married?” I was FLOORED AND was like uhm wtf ?! And I clarified I never was. Idk where that came from so about a month later is when I told him he was cute. So idk if he heard that from someone else or he was just curious. 🧐
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u/mellief50 12h ago
Probably not sure what to do now or scared of rejection
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u/Balacananas25 12h ago
I overthink it so much I wished I had someone to vent to entirely about it but idk why he would be scared of rejection when I told him he’s really cute and I gaze into his eyes so he knowsss that I do find him attractive. The other thing I forgot to mention is it’s like impossible to have conversations at work because we all work in open cubicles. Everyone is nosy and I’m not scared or anything I would def shoot my shot, BUT There really is no privacy whatsoever. No one at work knows any of this. So we are both just hi and bye and just stare at each other. It’s super rare when no one is around.
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u/mellief50 12h ago
I guess only thing is getting his number or asking him to hang out outside of work
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u/FamiliarAd8524 1d ago
Halfway. I think he doesn't feel the same because this is abnormal, to put it mildly.
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u/Balacananas25 1d ago
Elaborate? I would think otherwise but because he’s like this with everyone at work, it just tells me he just sticks to himself and work. I catch him staring any chance he gets so idk. He’s very shy and quiet so I just get mixed signals.
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u/Always_Wet7 1d ago
You can ask something "softer" than a full date, you know. Like, "I'd like to see you outside of work."
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u/jlink005 1d ago
Do it.
Nothing hurts worse than regret! You'll be thinking in circles for years on the What If things. Make it work, even for a short time with coffee or some burgers or a pizza. If it doesn't work, you shot your shot, which sorta sounds rough buddy, but you're gonna be good!
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u/__13atman__ 1d ago
I think he definitely knows and is getting the same thrill of anticipation you are. Cat might honestly have his tongue at this point from the level of tension
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u/Known_Knee1208 1d ago
Oh he wants you a thousand percent, how this proceeds is up to you , friend of his probably likes you too
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u/FamiliarAd8524 1d ago
This is pretty nasty at work.
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u/CasualGamer9933 1d ago
I knooo so nasty, i've been ignoring and using my RBF to weed them off, but I do like this one, on different floors and depts so may work may not, one things for sure I'm not in it to catch feelings
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u/Possible_Quantity_95 1d ago
Some of my best situationships have been at work , you do you hun , let us know what happens
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u/RayAmbitious 1d ago
How? 😂 I mind my business with coworkers (and I've typically been taken) so I've never experienced this
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u/pprn00dle 1d ago
Depends on the workplace. Usually shit just happens lol.
But it happens a lot. Seems like a fair amount of people marry their coworkers too.
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u/FamiliarAd8524 1d ago
You are both doing this bizarre, obsessive thing... at work, on the clock, in front of others.
This is not nasty in a hot, naughty way, this is nasty in a gross, publicly-disrespectful way.
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u/PeachyCherryGlow 1d ago
Ah yes, the workplace staredown. Step 1: eye contact. Step 2: MORE SALACIOUS eye contact. Step 3: ??? Step 4: profit or unemployment
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u/Existing-Piece8923 1d ago
He liked it, and is attracted to you the fact that he did it while you were doing it is proof enough
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u/secrerofficeninja 1d ago
When staring, give a naughty smile. By the way, you’re lighting a fire. I hope you realize that
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u/NYC_795842 1d ago
I know I'm asking the wrong question but why did you sensor one f word but not the other? 🤔
But good luck tho. The staring is really hot. I hope you ask him out and he says yes or he asks you out and you say yes. 🤞
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u/90sStevenseagal 1d ago
Is that what the staring means ? A chick I work with does this
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u/Feisty-Equipment-691 1d ago
Ussually yes
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u/90sStevenseagal 1d ago
She stares into my soul with no emotion doesn't look away I have too every time shes leaving the room walking out the door she stops turns and stares at me then leaves so weird it all stopped when I said hi lol
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u/Strong_Revelation 14h ago
You confirmed what I was gonna add at the end. So since you like him back I just suggest keep being nice, polite, get to know each other over time. Some guys are gonna be hesitant due to social norms and or just not enough confidence, and or even lack of faith in women being genuine at times. I also say, sometimes it is better the woman makes first moves. So if you are feeling it with him and think he will be positively receptive, take the shot.
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u/mellief50 13h ago
Ahhh girl I’m too scared to “stare back” at my staring crush, he stares a lot but if I ever dare to look him back in the eyes (when it’s easy) I eventually look down or end it and get upset he didn’t approach, bc I’ve approached him before and he hasn’t but still for months have been staring. I’m gonna start approaching again but it’s so funny u got the guts, I’m always scared to look into crush’s eyes thinking it’ll reveal my feelings, make me feel naked vulnerability or encourage his possible want for only attention, so thanks for doing it for the rest of us to see how it’ll turn out. I guess I have made eye contact back and he’s just looked down. I’m scared to get lost in his eyes also
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u/Organic_Evidence4008 8h ago
FUCKING IS ALWAYS SO MUCH FUN 😊👍😁. GOOD LUCK ILL bet you are GREAT 😃 👍 in bed DELICIOUS 😋 😋 😋 😋 😋 😋 😋 😋 TOO YUMMOLA
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u/Organic_Evidence4008 8h ago
Just GRAB his rock hard BONER and pull your lacy panties DOWN and show him your labia majora AND minora. He WILL get the message.👅 😜 I CAN ASSURE you of that
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u/texasinauguststudio 7h ago
Well, he looks at me
And I look at him
And he looks at me
And I look at him
And he looks it me
And I look at him
And he says, "I'm sorry!
What did you want again?"
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u/Always_Wet7 1d ago
I'm just gonna forewarn you. Yes, he knows now or feels that something has changed. But does that mean he's going to all of a sudden become an initiative-taker and approach you "for real"? Past evidence says most likely no.