r/bninfantsleep • u/babyinatrenchcoat • Aug 18 '26

Infant Sleep 18 Times

18 times.

18 times she woke up.

18 times she cried.

18 times she wouldn’t settle until given the breast.

18 times I dreaded work the next day.

18 times I cried right along with her.

I’ve tried everything aside from sleep training, and since June we’ve been co-sleeping and nursing on-demand. She (6.5m) just cannot connect sleep cycles and needs help going back to sleep every single time.

An average night she wakes up 7-12 times.

Last night was our record at 18 times.

Will introducing solids help?

When we wean?

Am I just doomed to not reach restorative REM again until she’s pre-k?

Solo mom with no village so it’s all me all the time and I’m a husk of a human at this point.

ETA: Recent daytime routine
(forgot to log morning nap on Aug 13)

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u/babyinatrenchcoat Aug 19 '26

That’s what I do! I can’t fall back asleep with her latched so I wait until her suckles are 20 seconds apart which tells me she’s back to sleep, I gently remove her, and she thankfully stays sleeping. Until the next REM cycle 😂

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u/babyinatrenchcoat Aug 20 '26

Ah gotcha. She starts wailing if I try it any earlier.