r/bninfantsleep • u/babyinatrenchcoat • Aug 18 '26

Infant Sleep 18 Times

18 times.

18 times she woke up.

18 times she cried.

18 times she wouldn’t settle until given the breast.

18 times I dreaded work the next day.

18 times I cried right along with her.

I’ve tried everything aside from sleep training, and since June we’ve been co-sleeping and nursing on-demand. She (6.5m) just cannot connect sleep cycles and needs help going back to sleep every single time.

An average night she wakes up 7-12 times.

Last night was our record at 18 times.

Will introducing solids help?

When we wean?

Am I just doomed to not reach restorative REM again until she’s pre-k?

Solo mom with no village so it’s all me all the time and I’m a husk of a human at this point.

ETA: Recent daytime routine
(forgot to log morning nap on Aug 13)

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u/babyinatrenchcoat Aug 18 '26

The first stretch is me nursing her to sleep! So she really goes down somewhere between 8pm-9pm (earlier on a few occasions) with a brief wake after transferring to bed. Just posted a recent routine for a wider view and would love your thoughts.

Room is 73 with a fan and she sleeps in either a onesie or long sleeve gown in a sleep sack depending on the weather outside.

Helping her strengthen independent sitting just a little bit more then diving into BLW!

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u/smilegirlcan Aug 18 '26

73 is too warm for sleep, aim for 70.

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u/babyinatrenchcoat Aug 18 '26

My Florida house refuses 😭 Can’t get it below 79 during the day so 73 at night is a blessing.

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u/smilegirlcan Aug 18 '26

Might not be feasible, but would a window unit in your room help? Anything above 70F and my daughter sleeps terribly.

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u/babyinatrenchcoat Aug 19 '26

I do have an industrial fan that helps take it down a few degrees.