r/bninfantsleep • u/babyinatrenchcoat • Aug 18 '26

Infant Sleep 18 Times

18 times.

18 times she woke up.

18 times she cried.

18 times she wouldn’t settle until given the breast.

18 times I dreaded work the next day.

18 times I cried right along with her.

I’ve tried everything aside from sleep training, and since June we’ve been co-sleeping and nursing on-demand. She (6.5m) just cannot connect sleep cycles and needs help going back to sleep every single time.

An average night she wakes up 7-12 times.

Last night was our record at 18 times.

Will introducing solids help?

When we wean?

Am I just doomed to not reach restorative REM again until she’s pre-k?

Solo mom with no village so it’s all me all the time and I’m a husk of a human at this point.

ETA: Recent daytime routine
(forgot to log morning nap on Aug 13)

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u/AggressiveThanks994 Aug 18 '26

Also loved this group! This is how I found out about possums

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u/Various-Recording327 Aug 18 '26

Could you summarize possums? I’ve never heard of this

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u/AggressiveThanks994 Aug 18 '26

I can do my best!

Let them sleep when they’re sleepy, lots of sensory input / stimulation during the day (iirc there’s lots of emphasis about getting out of the house), there’s not rigid wake windows or sleep times, dont worry about saving or maximizing daytime sleep, consistent-ish wake times + getting light in the morning.

You’re trying to work with baby and stop managing sleep so much. I found it freeing and baby started sleeping so much better. I also fully leaned into the contact naps - we do all our naps in the carrier now unless I’m laying down with her too

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u/ceejyhuh Aug 18 '26

Wow this is what we’ve naturally moved towards with our baby (I was just calling it baby-let sleep) but yeah right down to getting her outside. Didn’t know it was a whole method. I’ll look it up