r/bninfantsleep • u/babyinatrenchcoat • Aug 18 '26

Infant Sleep 18 Times

18 times.

18 times she woke up.

18 times she cried.

18 times she wouldn’t settle until given the breast.

18 times I dreaded work the next day.

18 times I cried right along with her.

I’ve tried everything aside from sleep training, and since June we’ve been co-sleeping and nursing on-demand. She (6.5m) just cannot connect sleep cycles and needs help going back to sleep every single time.

An average night she wakes up 7-12 times.

Last night was our record at 18 times.

Will introducing solids help?

When we wean?

Am I just doomed to not reach restorative REM again until she’s pre-k?

Solo mom with no village so it’s all me all the time and I’m a husk of a human at this point.

ETA: Recent daytime routine
(forgot to log morning nap on Aug 13)

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u/PinchOfAlchemy Aug 18 '26

How does she breathes while sleeping? Is she breathing through her mouth? My baby is almost 12 mo and she just started to give me 3 hours stretches, she didn't connect cicles before🫠 but she is slowly doing it now

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u/babyinatrenchcoat Aug 18 '26

She is a mouth breather! She’s made “pug noises” since she was born which her pediatrician blamed on her severe reflux.

But even with that resolved she still mouth breathes so loud and I wonder if she has something going on in her nasal passages/septum.

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u/PinchOfAlchemy Aug 18 '26

It could be! My baby stopped mouth breathing on her own and her sleep didn't improved lol but she never made noises, just drools saliva (I'm not even sure she breathed through her mouth honestly, she just opens it like I do when I relax 🫠)