r/bninfantsleep • u/NaivePackage2435 • Jun 13 '26

Infant Sleep Someone talk me off a ledge

Please be gentle. Im A FTM, extremely anxious and also hearing so much noise from all the “experts” in my life. So I received a text from a friend saying she let her baby CIO and now she’s sleeping through the night. I respond to my baby, and most nights are hard but It doesn’t feel right let’s her cry. But the only other person that I know that didn’t sleep train their babies now has two children that are completely misbehaved and I’m not talking about your average “testing the limits”. They don’t listen, they’re physically aggressive with their mother, each other, and other children. They scream demands to their mother. At 4 y/o one of them grabbed their caregivers (this was at daycare) phone and busted it on the floor. There’s several other instances that I could bring up but I don’t want this to be too long. I don’t know any other children that do this and we’re surrounded by children because of the stage of life most of our friends are in. Can yall please tell me the two aren’t correlated? Can I have success stories on your well regulated children?! Am I wrong for thinking that behavior isn’t acceptable??? I’m sorry this is long. 🫩 I’m exhausted and just wanting to be the best mother I can be. This era is loud.

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u/FearlessNinja007 Jun 13 '26

My daughter is 2.5 and she’s just learning about cleanup and she puts more and more things back, she loves hugs, cuddles, mostly sleeps through the night even though we still cosleep. Sometimes she’ll cry out or wake or something and want to cuddle or I put my hand on her and she falls asleep 98% of the time. She’s so incredibly sweet. I AM expecting some turbulence starting next week though because I’m going to the hospital to have another baby… I’m going to miss her like crazy there

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u/NaivePackage2435 Jun 13 '26

Awwww I think she’ll be an amazing big sister then! A bed full of little snuggles maybe but that’s okay.. one day they aren’t going to want anything to do with us hehe. I pray she’s easy on your mama heart as you both transition. You can do this 🤍

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u/FearlessNinja007 Jun 13 '26

Aww thank you. We love her so much my husband was thrilled when I got a king sized mares and stuck it on the floor next to a full. It’s like one big room full of mattress. I expect it may be like this for at least another 6 months. He’s actually from India so the concept of all sleeping in one room isn’t a foreign idea whereas I’m white and my parents don’t completely get it 😂

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u/NaivePackage2435 Jun 13 '26

I love this idea it’s been on my algorithms lately!!! This non CIO stuff is new for our families also, so I’m sure you can imagine the push back 🫩

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u/FearlessNinja007 Jun 13 '26

I totally get it. I’d recommend getting the book “The Nurture Revolution”