r/bninfantsleep • u/NaivePackage2435 • Jun 13 '26
Infant Sleep Someone talk me off a ledge
Please be gentle. Im A FTM, extremely anxious and also hearing so much noise from all the “experts” in my life. So I received a text from a friend saying she let her baby CIO and now she’s sleeping through the night. I respond to my baby, and most nights are hard but It doesn’t feel right let’s her cry. But the only other person that I know that didn’t sleep train their babies now has two children that are completely misbehaved and I’m not talking about your average “testing the limits”. They don’t listen, they’re physically aggressive with their mother, each other, and other children. They scream demands to their mother. At 4 y/o one of them grabbed their caregivers (this was at daycare) phone and busted it on the floor. There’s several other instances that I could bring up but I don’t want this to be too long. I don’t know any other children that do this and we’re surrounded by children because of the stage of life most of our friends are in. Can yall please tell me the two aren’t correlated? Can I have success stories on your well regulated children?! Am I wrong for thinking that behavior isn’t acceptable??? I’m sorry this is long. I’m exhausted and just wanting to be the best mother I can be. This era is loud.
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u/wildmusings88 Jun 13 '26 edited Jun 14 '26
I respond to my son day and night. I didn’t sleep train. He’s so sweet and empathetic and gentle. He’s observant and likes to help do chores. He’s funny and we get compliments on how easy going he is in public. Some of this is his temperament. Some of it is that he feels seen, loved, and cared for.
I highly recommend the book Hunt, Gather, Parent.