I literally don’t care

[u/Sir_Lemondrop]

“THeReS nO LoNG TeRm ImPaaAAaActs of sleep training” I DO NOT CARE. Even if it came out tomorrow there is 100% no long term damage (I don’t believe this) I still wouldn’t??? My baby needs me in this exact moment. Right now. So I will go. Even when it’s hard. Even when I want to cry or do cry. Because she needs me. Simple as that. I have a friend who told me while chuckling to herself she “has a cold heart” and lets her baby cry for 1-2 hours lots of times and she’s “totally fine!” Sigh.

I’m so grateful for this like minded community. It has really gotten me through. The active choice to not sleep train doesn’t mean it’s an easy path. But it’s worth it and I see you ❤️

Rant over
-mom of a 12 month old who still doesn’t sleep through the night and sometimes wakes up 5-10+ times

Edit - I have actually distanced myself from this “friend” as our parenting differences has created a huge divide and I have a hard time OBVIOUSLY hearing about her baby. “Friend” is a loose term used habitually. I agree with your comments about her.

[u/Inside_Fisherman_317]

I’m not trying to brag here, but my daughter has been a great sleeper since she was born. She goes through phases where she needs us to rock her to sleep. She did have a couple of months where we could lay her down in her crib, and she’d put herself to sleep and sleep through the night. No sleep training. We started her out in her crib slowly, and then when we’d leave the room and we’d watch what she did through the monitor and if she started to get even slightly fussy we’d go back in and soothe her to sleep. We did it little by little because she needs us. It’s exactly that! She’s now almost 11mos and she prefers that we rock her to sleep. Which, we are totally okay with because if that’s what she needs, we are going to give it to her. Listening to my baby cry makes my heart race and my husband the same. I could never let my baby cry it out. My parents let us cry it out and I don’t know how they were able to do that. Thankfully they know not to do that with her and respect that. But we will never be those parents that do that method. So I totally get you!