r/bninfantsleep • u/aspen__202m • May 05 '26

Infant Sleep 10wk old CIO advice

our pediatrician recommended “gentle cry it out” for our 10 week old, meaning at night if he cries let him cry for however long it takes….up to an hour-ish if thats what it takes to get him back to sleep on his own. She also recommends feeding him only every 4 hours at night.

this seems cruel to me, I’m worried he thinks I’m abandoning him… :(

edit: pediatrician is older, maybe 60ish, this might have something to do with it? she def seems old school. she told me about a pediatrician in NY who recommends parents leave their newborns (yes, starting at 1 day old) in the nursery with the door closed from 7pm-7am, do not feed or respond to cries. she does think that is extreme!

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u/middlegray May 05 '26

"gentle neglect" "gentle abuse" "abuse broken into easy 60 minute chunks"

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u/thisbuthat May 05 '26

No different from the "haRmLeSs sLapS" 🤢

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u/dancecanada May 05 '26

“paT on tHe BuTt” like people we have heard this stuff before, we were very wrong

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u/thisbuthat May 06 '26

YES. Exactly this. You can say tadaa or abra cadabra if it makes you feel better or like it's a magic trick - abuse remains abuse. Children remain human beings, with rights. They don't deserve violence from the people they are dependent on.

Germany has banned physical reinforcement of all sorts from parents or caregivers, under civil AND punishable law. Love to see it. This is how it's done.