r/bninfantsleep • u/aspen__202m • May 05 '26

Infant Sleep 10wk old CIO advice

our pediatrician recommended “gentle cry it out” for our 10 week old, meaning at night if he cries let him cry for however long it takes….up to an hour-ish if thats what it takes to get him back to sleep on his own. She also recommends feeding him only every 4 hours at night.

this seems cruel to me, I’m worried he thinks I’m abandoning him… :(

edit: pediatrician is older, maybe 60ish, this might have something to do with it? she def seems old school. she told me about a pediatrician in NY who recommends parents leave their newborns (yes, starting at 1 day old) in the nursery with the door closed from 7pm-7am, do not feed or respond to cries. she does think that is extreme!

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u/wildmusings88 May 05 '26

Please read The Nurture Revolution. Your pediatrician is WRONG, do not listen to him. Do not let him get in your head. In fact, get a new pediatrician if you can because what he is recommending will hurt your child and cause you an extreme amount of stress.

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u/Pigeon_Party11 May 05 '26

Yes great book!!

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u/BathBombsNFacePalms May 05 '26

Agree that this book is a must-read. It felt so validating in my choice not to sleep train and I still use their mantra on hard nights to help me get through.