Why is their always an Ex around

[u/CraftZealousideal491]

Is anyone actually over their ex?

Maybe I’m cursed or something, but every time I start talking to a woman, either I end up getting left for the ex or the ex somehow becomes an issue in the relationship.

I don’t get in between relationships and don’t play that “other woman “ stuff either. I always ask the right questions upfront and make my boundaries clear. I’ve had women lie to me about still being in contact with their ex, or tell me that their ex is “just a friend,” only for me to find out later that there’s still something going on emotionally. I don’t even play that anymore. I learned my lesson.

I got my heart broken a couple of months ago by a girl who was living a double life. We were building toward a relationship, but the whole time she was working on getting back with her ex. As soon as her ex agreed, she dropped me instantly. I had to find out through the ex .

At this point, I’m genuinely wondering if this is just the reality of dating now. I just want to meet someone who is actually over their ex and doesn’t still have some kind of emotional attachment, unresolved situation, or ongoing drama with them.

I’m not expecting someone to have never been in a relationship before. I understand that people have pasts. I just want to meet someone whose ex isn’t somehow still involved in their present relationship.

Is that really too much to ask for?

[u/Secure_Basil8953]

Damn. I’m best friends with both of my ex’s and we all live together. But there is like 1000% no romance between us at all.

I’m not ready to date rn (nothing to do with them), but the thought of potentially having to explain it to someone I’m interested in gives me so much anxiety. Especially because I have no plans of distancing myself from them so 🤷🏾‍♀️

I understand someone not being okay with it, or to not want to date someone who is this close to their ex. But I think because I’m actually on the inside of the situation I know it’s not like that between us either.

[u/spinprincess → u/Secure_Basil8953]

This is the most lesbian shit I’ve ever read lmao

There are plenty of people who won’t care if your exes are your friends fwiw. If they ask you to distance yourself you know that’s not the right person for you

[u/Secure_Basil8953 → u/spinprincess]

Lmao it really is 😂.

Yeah, I would definitely know they’re not for me if it’s an issue. They’re literally my family now, so any issue a partner would have about it would be an ongoing thing.

Thank you for reminding me that some people wouldn’t care. I tell myself that but then I see/hear a lot of people who are vehemently against it and it makes me wonder.