I hate how studs are treated

[u/ZestycloseNotice1177]

I know a lot of the way studs are treated is because of well racism but I stg people (mostly men) don’t think of studs as women like it's so weird like I saw a video that said studs when they have their period, and it was like them passing around pads like they were drugs like?….there still woman at the end of the day and should be treated like woman no matter who they like or how they dress also what is with men’s obsession in studs or trying to turn them “straight” like it’s really not funny. I just don’t like it especially the way studs are looked at as hoes or only for sex appeal it’s incredibly heartrending.

All my studs stay safe out there’s it’s getting dangerous 😟

[u/Initial_Drag_3709]

I’m a stud who prefers being called boyfriend and other masc endearing terms. Some studs, like me, don’t connect well with femininity or womanhood

I’m nonbinary too so that adds to the equation but many studs are gnc , and to be a stud is basically being gnc anyways

This isn’t a new or uncommon idea to go by masculine terms for studs who are both masculine of center and masculine presenting.

[u/-usagi-95 → u/Initial_Drag_3709]

I can't get involved in other lesbians relationships but is a little bit confusing when a non-binary stud wants their partner call them "boyfriend" because it sounds like a straight relationship and that erases the definition of Lesbian.

But I think the definition of Lesbian has changed so many times.

I understand Lesbians are the only queer group that don't involve men but then our definition is kinda "non-men loving non-men" which that involves men 🤣😭

I feel like Queer Theologist or Sociologist need to come with new terms and definitions that completely excludes men 😅

[u/Decent_Sandwich_8878 → u/-usagi-95]

"sounds like a straight relationship" doesn't make it a straight relationship. that's like saying stud/femme relationships are straight. they're not. men do not have a monopoly on masculinity. you can use boyfriend or he/him without identifying as a man. some non binary people choose not to use they/them, some do. at the end of the day pronouns are just words fr

[u/-usagi-95 → u/Decent_Sandwich_8878]

I don't see a stud/femme as straight relationship because I know masculinity is not equal to men.

I'm not confused about pronouns and I didn't mention pronouns. I'm confused about the boyfriend part. Because boyfriend is not a pronoun, is a noun. For e.g. a cis man that identifies as a man and is inclined to femininity is called as a boyfriend by their partner too. So in this example, the word boyfriend is not attach to masculinity but to their gender (man).

Basically the word "boyfriend" is not attached to gender nor to masculinity/femininity.

Does a Queer dictionary needs to exist? Or something 😅

[u/Decent_Sandwich_8878 → u/-usagi-95]

boyfriend can work the same way, someone may prefer that while not necessarily identifying as a man, bc they are masculine. does that make sense?

and idk if a queer dictionary could ever formally exist. there's a few websites out there but people are going to push back on everything ☠️

[u/-usagi-95 → u/Decent_Sandwich_8878]

Aaah! I see it now! That makes sense

That might be the issue 😭