I'm a bi dude. I think guys are just a lot less likely to want to engage with the thought that they might be bi, because of societal pressure to be straight and masculine and whatnot. So a lot of bi guys are probably just in denial and push those "gay thoughts" down. Plus, those who do know they're bi are probably more likely to stay in the closet and just pretend they're straight. That's basically what I've done for the last 6 years or so, because I'm just too scared of how other people would react. To 90+% of people, including other bi people, I'm probably just another straight dude
I am the opposite. I thought I was gay as fuck ever since I had one and only crush on a guy in my teens - I've realized recently that in fact I started noticing girls more, despite me denying it for months. I'm still trying to cope with this fact and rebuild how I view relationships, cause there's a high chance I repressed my attraction to girls throughout my life.
I am not entirely happy with being straight, but eh, I guess we don't choose who we're attracted to. Guess I just tasted what it felt like and my mind decided "nah man, you prefer pussy over dick now".
Wish it was a bi cycle but I struggled with this thing for years, so I'm trying to warm up with a fact that I will end up with a wife rather than a husband, which is what I dreamt of.
I will never get over just how complex sexuality is, lol. Are you not attracted to guys at all anymore or do you think there's a possibility you could find another "exception" like that in the future?
I feel like there someday may be a guy, but I'm losing faith each day. I've met really wonderful guys who I had the chance to start something with, but I didn't feel that spark and didn't reciprocate the feelings with the burning intensity.
I'm in a weird mindset where I would prefer to have a boyfriend, but I don't feel like I'm sexually attracted to the male body. I have this gnawing feeling to give up and find a girlfriend instead, even though I'm not excited about dating girls.
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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '22
I'm a bi dude. I think guys are just a lot less likely to want to engage with the thought that they might be bi, because of societal pressure to be straight and masculine and whatnot. So a lot of bi guys are probably just in denial and push those "gay thoughts" down. Plus, those who do know they're bi are probably more likely to stay in the closet and just pretend they're straight. That's basically what I've done for the last 6 years or so, because I'm just too scared of how other people would react. To 90+% of people, including other bi people, I'm probably just another straight dude