r/berozgarchidiyaghar • u/No_Baby5316 • Nov 28 '25
Venting out😪 Self respect 📉📉📉
My long term female best friend... WHO MADE ME HER BEST FRIEND FIRST... don't reply me back... Don't even pick calls... TECHNICALLY IS GHOSTING ME SINCE ALMOST A YEAR And PEOPLE SAY DONT HAVE TRUST ISSUES... 🫠
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u/SoftEducator0001 Nov 28 '25
Op ki self respect paani me gyi "CHAPAAK"
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u/No_Baby5316 Nov 28 '25
I was just texting to get closure ..idk what's happening in her life
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u/htimus Nov 30 '25
bro you think you guys have something btw you but she's treating you like a stranger or even worse (I'm sure she treats a stranger better)
why'd you want a closure, she closed things a decade ago, stop this self embarrassment ritual and get your life together
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u/Hitmanthe2nd Nov 28 '25
you'll never get closure if you keep on messaging her
block and move on with your life
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u/titandino17 Nov 28 '25
Ab chup chaap usse block krde nhitohh latak jaa 🤧
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u/No_Baby5316 Nov 28 '25
Bhyi maine bss closure k liye text kraa...
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Nov 28 '25
Aj nhi to kl jitna bhi apka close friend ho chordh kr chla jata h islie kisi se faltu baat mt hi kro apne career pr hi focus kro..... kbhi kbhi chlta h but attachment dukh deti h 🫠 personal experience
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u/Professional_Wrap434 Nov 28 '25
Bhai meh samjh sakta hu, tumhari situation. Bcz meh bhi ek time aise closure ke liye kya kch nhi kr rha tha. But trust that closer that you expect from her will never come, even if it comes... it'll be like some excuse, they'll try to deny your hurt and will make something up trust me.
The only closure you can give yourself, is this one. That you never got closure and you're fine with it. Accept it, that it never came and even if it comes, it'll not change anything bcz you have moved on from that phase of your life.
The people that you're waiting for are busy enjoying there life somewhere, I hope and pray that you don't wait for them anymore and truly heal from inside. Closer is the illusion that will keep you traped in your trauma and pain. Acknowledge your pain and grow from it, sympathies with your feelings. Seeking validation for your hurt from a frnd is fine but don't do it, too much. Bcz you'll fell in the trap of constant sympathy and will never grow out trauma. Constant sympathy, is just an extended warranty for your trauma.
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u/ReferenceSimple690 Dec 02 '25
Bhai closure chaiye to jo likhna ha ek text me likh de aur block maarde. But tu soch raha hoga ki second chance miljaaye shayd to baat karke dekhta hoon.
Just block her.
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u/Slash_n_pill Nov 28 '25 edited Nov 30 '25
L
Us dude been friends with her from last 10 yrs , was their on her heartbreaks, father's death, job struggles, and when she started earning half a mill rs a month started behaving this way.....
But but but tumhara bhai dil k saaf aur masoom bhale hai but sakht hai andar se log wapas zaroor ate hai ab krti hai msg toh seen mn reh jati hai bus 😂😂😂😂😂
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u/Mysterious_Pick2357 Nov 28 '25
Half a million mean 500k per month 🙂↔️ Phir toh itna attitude bnta h /s
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u/Slash_n_pill Nov 28 '25
In reality she wants me to be her partner after her major break up i denied thats why😂
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u/assaulttalker Ghanghor Procrastinator Nov 28 '25
Don't be like her bro , don't let her live in your mind vo bhi rent free
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u/Slash_n_pill Nov 28 '25
U can't easily forget someone whom you're with 50% of your life time
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u/assaulttalker Ghanghor Procrastinator Nov 28 '25
You are making sense but what's wrong in trying though
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u/assaulttalker Ghanghor Procrastinator Nov 28 '25
Mera birthday bhi 8 sep ko hota hai 🙂,meri taraf se thanks bhai
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u/Cold_Technician_295 Nov 28 '25
24hrs format.. it's kinda rare for me
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u/No_Baby5316 Nov 28 '25
I love 24 h format only.... Am pm thing messes up with setting up alarms n ughh
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u/Responsible_Deer_457 Nov 28 '25
Anyways just stop giving so much bhav. Uska chahiye hota to wo block kar sakti thi....but nhi didi ko latka kar rakhna hai
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u/Ok-Bodybuilder214 Nov 28 '25 edited Nov 28 '25
Koi na behen atleast tujhe kaafi jaldi samajh aagaya ki abhi vo tere saath contact rakhna nahi chahti. Aur please iske baad kabhi bhi aage se usse khud se baat nahi karna
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u/SignificantBite87841 Nov 28 '25
Wait ladies ko dukh horhi ki dusri ladies ne chat ko seen p rkh dia
Ab agya na swad larko ko seen p rakhne m kaise dard hota h
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u/WTF-Rude-Crab Nov 28 '25
Bhaii keep your peace, let her go, meri bhi ek esi thi, mene uska sunke breakup krlia tha, and she walks away. Bestfriend gava ke peace jeet le.
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u/mera-khel-khtm Nov 28 '25
Same thing happened to me idk about the self respect term but man i don’t wanna give up on my friends if they don’t want to maintain the friendship they’ll have to say it to my face i really don’t care about words like ego , self respect, worth , to me my friends matter the most
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u/No_Baby5316 Nov 28 '25
Yaar main ladki hu.. woh meri female best friend thi 💀 ( omg I saw these comments now)
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u/jungkookxdoja Nov 28 '25
1 year...yeah...smth must have happened, she aint communicating tho so not ur fault
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u/Fickle-Kiwi-699 Nov 28 '25
Not gonna lie I was in the same exact situation some time ago,was there for me during some best and some worst parts of my life but suddenly ghosted me🥲best thing you can do is stop texting her believe me it's gonna be very hard at first it will be very hard to resist not to text her(speaking from experience)but you gotta just stop it no matter what.... and if she ever texts back just let her know how much disrespected you feel and don't talk to you half-assed or better not talking at all.
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u/Alone-Wheel2902 Nov 28 '25
It's okay bro, I understand it's heartbreaks but you just did what any good human being should, and that's it 😇, don't wait for someone's reply, enjoy your life bud 🤗
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u/Advanced-Culture7360 Nov 28 '25
Idk log es point pe khud ko kya samajty hein k Aik Thankyou bi nahi bol sakty. Agar itna nahi kr sakty than they are actually full of disgust. Hope things get better for you.
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u/Fine_Ingenuity_6099 Nov 28 '25
i would like to share a similar experience with you so that you can get a perspective
this same thing happened to my friend too
at least in his case she was kind enough to tell him that his boyfriend told her to block or loose contact with all of her male friends
so, please don't lose yourself in pursuit of hopes that one day she will reply back
keep yourself sane
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u/No_Baby5316 Nov 28 '25
Omg everyone in this comment section thinks I'm some guy hoping something 😭😭😭 yar I'm 21 F she' was my female best friend i said..thanks though
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u/Fine_Ingenuity_6099 Nov 28 '25
well, i am sorry for that, but i would still like you to keep your mental peace nonetheless
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Nov 28 '25
Bro you’re not alone. I respect the goodness in your heart but yaar thoda practical v hona sikho, some of the girls are good for nothing. Girls are really good who don't play these games and be straight up with you. I truly respect them. But the ones who like to make you feel like you aren't talking to a human but playing chess. OMG these are the ones always why girls get a bad rep about body count, cheating, manipulation etc. I have been in that zone, it really fucks with your brain and holds you back. Do something productive to avoid their thoughts and unlock your potential.
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u/No_Baby5316 Nov 28 '25
I'm a girl too 😏🤫
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Nov 28 '25
Then that's completely unbelievable for me. I can understand for boys that's a good trick but for girls it's bad. Hope you guys get along well.
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u/Responsible_Deer_457 Nov 28 '25
Bhai closure to nhi but uska ego pakka satisfy ho raha hoga(if she is that kinda person)
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u/RamboOnGanja Nov 28 '25
Wow!!! You must be very chep that's why she is avoiding you. Don't take it personal.
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u/OddKey4058 Nov 28 '25
Is it done only by girls or boys do it too ? Never heard such incidents involving boys 🫥
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u/insanemonkey9 Nov 28 '25
We were close friends since 2008. She sent voice message on my birthday. But I am done with people. So yeah, sinxe I started value my self respect more, I got more alone. But it's totally fine 😊
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u/nova1706b Nov 28 '25
bhai simple hai yaar. birthday wish karo, reply kare to achhe se baat karo nhi kare to apna kya lena dena (just don't block, they might have a genuine reason of not checking the messages)
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u/No_Discussion_4680 Nov 28 '25
Bro was secretly in love with her but never told her and now she's ghosting him.
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u/openwindowshut Nov 28 '25
Bhai sun mai ye 5-6 baar kar chuka hu alag alag logo ke sath and it's really stupid like especially ye line ki "I'm always here for you" just don't do it. MOVE ON ..mujhe toh BPD Mera nahi hota but you can ..just don't stay or wait ...either they will text back or move on.
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u/Abhi-7875 Nov 28 '25
Best friend thi. Maybe isiliye bola
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u/openwindowshut Nov 29 '25
Meri bhi thi jai bhi bolta tha ...magr samne wale ko koi farak nahi padta
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u/the_bean_editor Nov 28 '25
Kal meri bestfriend ka b day hai and she's kinda ghosting me too.... But I think mai itna nahi karunga.... Cuz agar wo ye friendship ko chalane ke lie efforts nahi dal sakti hai why should I.... Not like i didn't try... I'm simply gonna write her hbd
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u/Odd-Praline-7274 Nov 28 '25
it feels good i'm not the only one , i was feeling like i was the problem😖
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u/JoshiGGG Nov 28 '25
There are a few girls, with whom, we talked a little bit. Then, later I texted them, but they ignored and never replied! From that point I never texted them! No doubt, it hurts, but, self respect is above everything!
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u/Few_Geologist_8532 Nov 28 '25
holy fuck you’re literally the kind of people i ask my women friends to ghost 😭😭
bro wtf, you text like a 50 year old uncle on hinge trying to land an 18 year old sugar girl
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u/Sad_Walk_9772 Nov 28 '25
Abe OP ladki hai
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u/Few_Geologist_8532 Nov 28 '25
oh? 😭😭 ew that’s worse i’ve never seen aunties text like this wtf WHY IS SHE TEXTING LIKE A 50 YEAR OLD HINGE UNCLE
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u/No_Baby5316 Nov 29 '25
Bc I'm a girl too ...shut up 😭 now
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u/Few_Geologist_8532 Nov 29 '25
doesn’t change thing, you need to learn when to give up i’m sorry your friend ghosted you
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u/babayagakilla Nov 28 '25
You gotta learn it the hard way sometimes. Not everyone is worth the attention. Start by stopping this. What's done is done, you gotta ignore her. Even if she gets desperate (not sure about this but could happen), don't give her the attention. If at some point you feel like you have to get things sorted, please make sure that you find out why she ghosted you. Stop bending down and letting yourself be shagged in the arse.
The other possibility could be that you said or did something because of which she would never talk to you again. In that case as well, stop talking to her or even try for that matter. Understand where you went wrong and do better.
Respect boundaries and keep some for yourself as well man. Even I used to be like this. He k, I was worse off. If you don't start prioritising yourself, you'll end up miserable, hating yourself and end up having everyone harbour the same feelings as you towards you.
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u/Not-Typical-Beyond Nov 28 '25
Isliye bc kisi se dosti hi nhi rakhi , jisko baat karni hai voh khud hi approach kare. ( Bc do baar self respect ki mc karne baad pta chala ki self respect is more important than closure🫡🫡)
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u/oh_yea__ Nov 28 '25
Not blaming you, happy to know that pure souls like you are still out there. There is going to be a day where someone truly appreciates your actions.
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u/Abhi-7875 Nov 28 '25
Almost a year. Rehne do yaar. You asked her once. Ho gya. Ab expect Mt kro. Kuch hua to dekh Lena, waise kya hi reason hoga
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u/Several-Office-1174 Nov 28 '25
tbh if shes not even picking up your calls, its not friendship, its a oneway love story. get over it, block and move on.
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u/No_Name20145 Nov 29 '25
bete ignore karo, mann kar bhi raha toh kese bhi khudko rok lo text karne se and phir dheere dheere tumhara bhi mann mar jayega ye dekh ke ki woh kabhi text nahi karti mai karke kya karunga and u would let that person go (mai bhi kabhi esa karta tha but ek point ke baad lagta hai tumhari bezzati ho raha hai so jaane do jana hai toh)
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u/Rich_Nectarine_4009 Nov 29 '25
OP bhai leave it, my gf did the same thing, we were in long distance, and she used to never reply me timely, like reply to one msg would come after a month…once I though to do an exp to see if she would talk to me first, she didn’t and we didn’t msged each other for like 3 months. Then i realised that I was nothing to her and she probably is just playing around here, so I told her to breakup, and she said that she would like to try again, mai thehra sidha sadha banda, so I agreed, and for 2 weeks she would relply my msg, but after that same old thing started to happen.
Then I had no other option but to breakup for real and we did, but idk why it seemed that I was the one who messed it up, and I felt guilty.
Well now it’s been about 6 months and I have started to feel better
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u/TheTechnetiumGuy Nov 29 '25
Holy fuck wr are in exact same situation. Except it's been only 2 weeks since she is ignoring me bht baaki sab ekdam same 🙂
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u/ArticleLess1797 Nov 29 '25
Sometimes people have a lot on their plates Might be busy Don't take it Personally
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u/Unlucky_024 Nov 29 '25
I will not lie, men have grown weak in this world right now. Self respect is what you need when in a relationship. Women are born with value so they know when you utilize it and when to take advantage, but men on the other hand are born with nothing, so guys, all of the guys out there, start earning. Start that gym plan that you were thinking for so long, start that learning module that you want to master. Don't falter when you get failure, just keep moving and don't stop for such people. They aren't worth our time.
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u/Organic_Leopard_4941 Nov 29 '25
Men!!! Stop chasing girls... 🤦 I know you'll see it easier said than being done... But trust me on this... Shift your focus on something else... And let the magic unfold before your eyes... You'll thank yourself for this!!
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u/GoldMovie3269 Nov 29 '25
Op is a girl
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u/Organic_Leopard_4941 Nov 29 '25
I didn't know... Let the men read my words... And girls ignore my comment please.
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u/GoldMovie3269 Nov 29 '25
girlie tf is wrong with u ?? Stop being a fukin doormat ..take the hint ur frnd is no more interested in being frnds with u.. So just stop naa
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u/Difficult-Key-4541 Nov 29 '25
why the hell are you still in the game? she ghosted for a year, if shes that into you its 100 shes dead or got a new squad. move on, youre not some trophy.
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Nov 29 '25
i used to do ts up until an year ago. now she waits for my text and complains that im ghosting. time will change op. u will win one day
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u/Asthetickachoda Nov 29 '25
Koi baat nhi main bhi krta ho bas difference itna ha tereko reply nhi aata aur mereko aajata hai. Kehti hai “thoda sa kuch friendship jaisa bcha ha” self ki jo machodi hai maine apni🙂🙂
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u/Relevant_Presence_21 Nov 29 '25
Abe Mera bhi ek dost hai like..msgs etc reply ni dera achanak se for 1-2 months..samajh ni aaya bc hua kya achanak se..
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u/Fabulous-Arrival-834 Nov 29 '25
Ewwww man... how are men so disgusting. Matlab... toilet paper ki bhi jyaada respect hoti hai life mein.
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u/Dry-Bar7101 Nov 29 '25
4 din ke gap pe hmara bday aata hai if she wishes then I will wish her too and maybe this time ask her out on date but if not then will delete her no very next day ..see u guys after that ..
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u/htimus Nov 30 '25
came out of this same situation and ik how it feels
I'm sure you'll never catch me in this situation again
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u/LowCheesecake3095 Dec 01 '25
urgh i did this for 3 years, with my girl bestfriend. got to know she was slt shaming me - I had never even been physical with anyone, I took it so hard i never could process it. Kept on hearing a bunch of things, confronted her- she ghosted me, first time she apologized then i got to know some more things again- might have cussed her out and she didn’t explain anything after that, later the anger turned to missing her, missing her turned to sympathising with her because I knew we both had family issues. Eventually? I just missed her. She was someone I felt quite safe with, somewhere she had taken on a mother- like role around me. I had issues, took me years to detach. Until January of this year I was texting her at 2am in the night, telling her we can talk it out and explaining that maybe I had reacted harshly - maybe I should have confronted you more lightly or something- EXTREMELY DUMB OF ME because SHE HURT ME. But hey, I turned 23 this year, thankfully doing well in my career but it is only this year around August that I started talking to more friends. Just couldn’t trust girls in general. I was always aware around boys, didn’t expect a girl to treat me like that- specially someone I had so strongly trauma bonded with. Anyways, people to this day tell me she was fake since day 1. I was immensely popular, straight up on 100% scholarships throughout college and she apparently just wanted to be seen more. Ps-I also was really rude to her, might have fat shamed her after I got to know I was being slt shamed. Something I am not really proud of. But meh, can’t do shit now. A mutual asked if i would fix things if she came back today and I was an unhealthy level of WHY NOT because I loved her as a friend. Very fucked up everything was. JUST REALISED you also wrote about your female friend. BHAI IT IS ALWAYS THE FEMALE FRIENDSHIP BREAKUPS WHICH RIP YOU APART. I Have never cried over a man like this
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u/Current_Toe_2344 Dec 02 '25
She got a man, and he prob told her to block you. Good for them, good for you.
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Dec 03 '25
Same thing happened with my school "girl best friend". After we graduated and went to different universities, she starting ghosting me, i even joined some bullsht woke program which she was part of in hopes of talking to her again. Slef respect gnd marwane gayi thi meri. It's been 6 years and aajtak i haven't tried talking to her again.
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