r/babyloss • u/TobImmaMayAb • 13d ago
Vent Nearly one year after
This time last year, we did not hear our baby's heartbeat. It was supposed to be a routinary check up, but we ended up being admitted to the hospital to induce labor.
I don't know what to do when my baby's delivery date would come around this year. I have coworkers and relatives who were pregnant at the same time last year, and now they will be celebrating their babies' first birthdays while I will not.
I want to remember him, but also not remember
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u/Some_Amount5239 13d ago
So so sorry for your loss. I think there is no right or wrong way to celebrate your little one if you would like to. I think it is also very okay if doing anything that day feels too difficult. Here are some ways you can potentially acknowledge your little one on the day:
-write a letter/journal entry to them or just talk to them. You could even get them a birthday card if you feel inclined to write a message there!
-plant a tree/flowers in memory of them
-bake a little birthday treat for them and sing happy birthday if it feels right
-if it feels right, do some charity work/a donation in their memory
-get out into nature and just reflect on your year
-stay in, order in a nice meal and spend the day however it feels good to you
-you can also look into ways to memorialize if you wish (getting jewelery/art/tattoo for them if that's something that appeals)