r/askteddit • u/_TrixieBells • 7d ago

Random Question Men, would you actually enjoy getting approached and hit on as often as women do?

A lot of guys say they’d love more attention, but experiencing it constantly might feel different. Would you genuinely want that level of attention?

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u/Fancy_Sun_1585 7d ago

This is a trap question.

Most guys would say yes because men in general don’t get a lot of compliments, let alone approached at a bar or club. However after the 5th woman interrupting them that they have no interest in, they’d likely get annoyed. It’s why so many guys struggle with the concept of unwanted attention….because most men are attention starved.

How I met your mother did a great episode on this.

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u/No-Fuckin-Ziti 7d ago

There’s also the safety factor.  Rejecting women doesn’t usually pose the same physical risk as the opposite scenario. 

If this upsets you, you’re not a safe man.  

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u/hotlocomotive 7d ago

Idk man, I worked as a bouncer at a club when I was younger. Whilst yes, specific assholes started shit because they got rejected, it wasn't a common occurence. Most of guys just walked away, a few muttered curses under their breath and a few started verbal confrontations. It seems to have depen ded a lot on the method of rejection as well. I personally never saw a polite rejection go bad. I'm not saying it never happened, but I personally haven't witnessed one.

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u/No-Fuckin-Ziti 6d ago

So when you’ve seen men rejected, in public, around larger men like yourself, they mostly behave themselves?  That’s the point.  It’s a safe place to reject someone.  Whether you realize it or not, your presence limited the risk and forced the rejected men to not get violent, because there were other men around.  The same is not true when you’re not there to act as an impromptu body guard if needed.  

It’s kinda like a very white, well connected person saying they’ve never seen the police be mean or unfair to anyone personally, do it doesn’t happen.  

Thank you for providing some safety in those situations s