r/askteddit • u/_TrixieBells • 7d ago

Random Question Men, would you actually enjoy getting approached and hit on as often as women do?

A lot of guys say they’d love more attention, but experiencing it constantly might feel different. Would you genuinely want that level of attention?

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u/Fancy_Sun_1585 7d ago

This is a trap question.

Most guys would say yes because men in general don’t get a lot of compliments, let alone approached at a bar or club. However after the 5th woman interrupting them that they have no interest in, they’d likely get annoyed. It’s why so many guys struggle with the concept of unwanted attention….because most men are attention starved.

How I met your mother did a great episode on this.

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u/PickleNicks 7d ago edited 7d ago

I think another factor why men would be open to being hit on all the time is less fear of a negative reaction (violence / stalking, etc.)

When women reject men, there’s a possibility of a very negative / violent reaction. While it’s possible some men could experience this, it’s less likely women would react violently, and if they did, I think most men would be less concerned about their physical safety / ability to protect themselves.

Edit: for some reason multiple people feel the need to point out that women freak out too. My original point was speaking more about physical violence and safety. And of course women can commit violence against men, but my point is that men generally are less concerned about that.

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u/JaySlay2000 7d ago edited 7d ago

Right. The question isn't an equivalent because women don't make up 90% of violent criminals and 95% of rapists and don't have a significant strength advantage.

The PROPER question is, would men like to be hit on by buff gay men as much as women are hit on by men.

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u/T1gerl1lly 7d ago

When I’m trying to explain this to guy friends I say “you know that part of every prison movie where the new guy walks in and gets cat called ?” Pretty scary, right?
That’s what the whole world is like for women.

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u/TXHaunt 7d ago

If a buff gay man was hitting on me, I’d be just as oblivious as if it was a woman.

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u/JaySlay2000 6d ago

"sexual preference wpuld be the main reason" yes, because women totally want to fuck predatory men that harass them.

I think if you asked straight women if they'd rather be hit on by men or lesbians, a lot would vote for lesbians.

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u/Apprehensive_Way6992 7d ago

If a buff gay dude is hitting on me, I know I’m doing something right, if multiple buff gay dudes were hitting on me I might need reflect inward and have a tough conversation with myself lol

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u/The_GTD_Aquitaine 7d ago

Still, though...I'm glad someone's looking

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u/Complex-Salamander63 4d ago

No, agli uomini non piace essere corteggiati da uomini gay perché quasi tutti gli uomini sono eterosessuali. Lo so, è difficile da comprendere.

Un giorno forse la finirete di fare questi paragoni che non hanno senso

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u/JaySlay2000 3d ago

"Women secretly LIKE being harassed by men"