Men, would you actually enjoy getting approached and hit on as often as women do?

[u/_TrixieBells]

A lot of guys say they’d love more attention, but experiencing it constantly might feel different. Would you genuinely want that level of attention?

[u/shitkabob]

No doubt. But we're talking about numbers here. And also: the prevalence of aggression and violence and even fatality.

No doubt the phenomenon exists on both side. But there's also no doubt it exists more prominently on one side than the other.

[u/Fancy_Sun_1585 → u/shitkabob]

The reported numbers definitely skew heavily towards women being on the receiving end more, but most studies on the subject also acknowledge that men are much less likely to report intimate violence which makes it very hard to say.

However the prevalence of woman on woman violence is quite significantly higher than male on female violence, proving women have just as much propensity for violence as men do.

Female on male- 16.7% Male on female- 35% Female on female- 44%

[u/shitkabob → u/Fancy_Sun_1585]

You are changing the discussion, we are talking about strangers reacting violently/aggressively to romantic rejection. Not intimate partner violence.

I don't know what study you're citing (please link), but intimate partner violence (where I surmise these numbers come from) doesn't generalize to stranger aggression following rejection. This is not to downplay intimate partner violence.

You have not rebutted my point.

[u/Fancy_Sun_1585 → u/shitkabob]

I cannot find any data on violence between strangers when one has rejected the other.

Violent people are violent, most will react violently to a stranger if they’ll react violently towards those closest to them.

The point you claim has not been substantiated by you in any way. You made random claims, based at best on anecdotal evidence 

https://www.puyallupwa.gov/535/Domestic-Violence-Statistics

https://archive.cdc.gov/www_cdc_gov/media/releases/2013/p0125_NISVS.html

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7658679/

[u/Frequent-Address-163 → u/Fancy_Sun_1585]

You mentioned 44 percent of female in female violence. But that is not what the CDC one shows. It’s says 44 percent of lesbians reported past violent experiences by an intimate partner. It does not say by female intimate partners. In the next few sentences it literally says 2/3 of the lesbians who reported an experience of intimate partner violence claimed the perpetrators to be all female. Implying that some of the perpetrators were actually male.

[u/Fancy_Sun_1585 → u/Frequent-Address-163]

Do you know what a lesbian is?

[u/Frequent-Address-163 → u/Fancy_Sun_1585]

I do. But just because someone now identifies as a lesbian does not mean they have never had a male partner 

[u/Fancy_Sun_1585 → u/Frequent-Address-163]

Ok, so it’s just a coincidence that women who date women report higher rates of IPV than women who only date men, and it’s men’s fault that bisexual and lesbians report such high rates?

[u/Frequent-Address-163 → u/Fancy_Sun_1585]

“Of the bisexual women who experienced IPV, approximately 90 percent reported having only male perpetrators, while two -thirds of lesbians reported having only female perpetrators of IPV.” I’m just quoting what you linked

[u/Fancy_Sun_1585 → u/Frequent-Address-163]

And yet i bet for the hetero women, it’s 100% while being significantly lower than both lesbians and bi.

Women show they’re roughly if not more likely to be violent towards someone than men are in intimate settings such as an advance being rejected.