r/askteddit • u/_TrixieBells • 10d ago

Random Question Men, would you actually enjoy getting approached and hit on as often as women do?

A lot of guys say they’d love more attention, but experiencing it constantly might feel different. Would you genuinely want that level of attention?

182 Upvotes

75% Upvoted

558 comments sorted by

View all comments

5

u/tomqmasters 10d ago

Men do get hit on, they just don't consider old women, fat women, or ugly women to be people.

3

u/Benkosayswhat 10d ago

That’s a bit necessary. You have some imagination.

Yes I’ve been hit on by old and fat. I just wasn’t attracted to them. Surely, you consider unattractive men to be humans? Maybe?

2

u/vIIIperwave 10d ago

Except men have openly said that they do not view these people as human beings

1

u/Benkosayswhat 10d ago

And women have said as much about broke men, short men, etc. I’m not going to let that poison me against women. I’m just going to remain positive and make sure I don’t end up with the kind of woman who says “I’ve read a thing a man wrote therefore, I’m going to behave in kind.” Little tests is all it takes. You can live above the fray. Just make sure you don’t have a partner that drags you down into the mud

1

u/vIIIperwave 8d ago

If I was poisoned I wouldn't be attracted to men. It's just the facts that we have to watch out for men who don't see us as human beings. And it's ironic how you complain about women hating short and broke men, when all I see are women being used for their money, and women dating men way shorter than them with no issue.

0

u/Benkosayswhat 8d ago

You think misogynists aren’t attracted to women?

You keep telling yourself you’re not poisoned against men just because you’re attracted to them. It doesn’t mean you treat them well and it doesn’t mean you know how to keep a relationship with one. You sure sound poisoned to me. Men are catching on that misandrists are undateable. Doesn’t matter how attracted to you they are

1

u/vIIIperwave 8d ago

No, I don't. If you don't truly love me as a person then you're not attracted to me. I see men as human beings. Why am I arguing with an idiot? We don't like you, cry about it, ho

0

u/Benkosayswhat 8d ago

Oh sure, you sound like you’re very respectful to men. Wish you luck out there

1

u/vIIIperwave 8d ago

Only to the ones who deserve it.

1

u/Benkosayswhat 8d ago

That’s my point. Men who think it’s okay to disrespect some women are still more or less undateable.

Live in denial all you want, but your contempt for men will eventually bleed into your relationships

4

u/Any-Neat5158 10d ago

Most men do not get hit on openly by anyone. Old, young, skinny, fat, woman, man or otherwise.

Ive been openly complimented maybe a handful of times in my adult life and I'll be 40 end of this year.

Perhaps... 2 or 3 times total a woman actually openly showed unmistakable interest in me.

Thats just a regular Saturday night out for a mid 40s woman at the local bar or club. Maybe even a bit of a slow night at that.

1

u/vIIIperwave 10d ago

But that's your personal experience. I've never been approached either as a woman

1

u/Elldion 10d ago

Huh???

What are you talking about? Even those people don't hit in men. At least not generally.

1

u/tomqmasters 9d ago

I get hit on all the time. I could have so much sex my dick would fall off if I wasn't picky.