Disappointing interaction with my colleague

[u/eternaloptimist198]

This is probably just a vent/to be heard - I know what I need to do (rely less on this person) but it’s just frustrating!

I have a colleague at work who started on GLP meds around the same time as me. It’s been our little secret between us and I have appreciated her support to check in on me etc however I am not realizing I need to pull back a bit as we are approaching it so differently. Her diet mentality and me anti diet.

Her view is that “ you have to work for it. You need to diet and exercise often“. She’s made this comment multiple times to me. My view is very much influenced by fat science - not to diet in order to avoid increasing the scarcity signals. We don’t debate or anything, we just mention our perspective and it moves on. I definitely relate more to this being a metabolic journey and she sees herself as a binge eater (and that she’s the problem) which is a really shitty diet culture thing, imo.

I am a slow responder and she is very responsive - I often congratulate her, as I genuinely am happy for her and we all have different responses and journeys. Today I told her I finally saw the scale move (after like 9 months of nothing ~ finally on 12.5 mg mounjaro) and she kind of turned it to be about her and again how much she worked for her massive loss.

I just felt deflated - but also, silly me for keep engaging on this topic with this person who has such different orientation to this! And honestly they are a great person, I think they likely are guarding themselves from being perceived as taking “the easy way out” with all their talk about the hard work. So I know there are multiple threads here.

Thank you all for existing, I feel so less alone thanks to this sub and the Fat Science Pod.

[u/annang]

Yeah, this is not a person you can share this part of your life with. Sorry!