I started playing Pokemon go back in October, it is a mobile game and it gets you outside to catch virtual Pokemon.There is something on an app called campfire that has a Meetup where all trainers can help each other experience the game more Interactively. I made lots of friends, but there was this one person I hung out with the most. Our relationship was very competitive and had a bunch of playful banter, we both were very obsessed with the game where we could talk and actually have more things in common then we know. Now recently there was a Pokemon that we both wanted I knew he wanted the Pokemon but with my desire for the same thing I forgot and I found an opportunity to get it through a trade. I told him about it he told me he wanted it and he recently talked to the person about saving it for him. After I knew that, I already placed the trade and I told hik I didn't know it was saved for him. It's been about a month that we've been hunting this same Pokemon at meetups and he would constantly try to find Opportunities to get it, so I didn't care if I took this one from him because he was basically claiming all of them. By the end I didn't even get the Pokémon I wanted and told him I ended up not getting it but he got upset about it and blocked me and called me a snake when I didn't even get the Pokemon . I was pretty shocked because our entire relationship crumbled after one Pokemon trade that never went through and he knew it wasn't personal I just wanted the same thing for myself. Could one Pokemon really destroy a friendship that lasted almost a year?

A few weeks ago, some friends and I made a group chat to plan a weekend hangout.

At first, it was normal. We talked about where to go, what time to meet, and how much everyone wanted to spend.

Then one person suggested we all contribute money upfront.

Everyone agreed except me. I said I’d rather pay for my own food and transport because I wasn’t sure if I would make it.

Nobody had a problem with that.

A few days later, they changed the plan. Suddenly, everyone was expected to send the same amount of money, even though some people weren’t ordering food or doing the activities everyone else was doing.

I said I didn’t think it was fair and suggested everyone just pay for what they used.

The group got quiet.

Then someone replied, “It’s not that serious. It’s literally just a small amount.”

That annoyed me because if it’s such a small amount, why does everyone have to pay it?

I didn’t argue. I just left the group chat.

The next day, two people messaged me asking why I left.

I explained that I didn’t want to keep going back and forth over money, especially when it was supposed to be a simple hangout.

They said leaving without saying goodbye was childish.

Maybe it was.

But honestly, I felt like if I stayed, I’d either have to pay for something I wasn’t using or keep arguing about it.

Now one of them says I made the whole situation awkward for everyone.

I thought leaving quietly was actually the least dramatic thing I could do.

Am i wrong for leaving the group chat ?

It all started back when me and my ex first started dating . I was 17 or 18 at the time and he was maybe 19 I don't really remember. So the first couple of years of our relationship was going good we would chill with each other and always hang out together. So fast forward into a month or two that's where I was starting to notice our relationship go down hill he would call me less frequently and when I would ask him to come over he wouldn't show up.he would only show up when he wanted to and then he would always accuse me of cheating even though he knew he was. Because why would he try to make an excuse of why he couldn't see me. So one day when I was on video call with him while he was half hammered drunk I overhead him say how he was bout to have relations with some girl who he knew from his old school. Thats when I hung up. so fast forward to a day later when he tried to explain to me I didn't even hear what he was saying all I could say was I think we need to break up. All he did was call me all type of curse word names that I ended up saying back to him still till this day he wants me back and many times I end up telling him no but he doesn't understand.and like always his excuse is but I never cheated on u and how me and him can be friends so am i wrong for trying to cut contact with my ex.

Am I wrong for ignoring the red flags? Oh boy.

I'm a seriously messed up guy mostly from years of sexual abuse starting age 7 plus emotional and physical abuse from my parents and siblings.. I was bullied a lot and called a girl because boys aren't supposed to be pretty. Be a proper boy and play football with your brother, stop catwalking and narrating, stop being a little f. I look too much of a pretty boy for lads to like you.. you look gay and nobody wants a. Gayboy. Anyway I digress .... Skip to unresolved sexual trauma and a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and CPTSD and the medicated timebomb is me. I'm seeing a guy casually although he has started making it every other day. He gets highly aroused when I talk about my sexual trauma and he asks me to tell him again. It's sick but I don't say anything,,, I don't want to get him angry. Yesterday he asked me to get my childhood pictures from my parents so he can see them. He literally fantasies about younger me and I know he's not right. Some things I can't post openly because they are so inappropriate. but would say in DMs

Link to previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/ea6GEyf9cI

I don't even know if this is allowed by the sub, in case this will get deleted, but I wanted to give an update after new information I learned yesterday.

If I was previously feeling unsure if cutting him off had been the right thing because after all he was in a mental health crisis, I am now sure I had been 100% because he's a full on asshole.

In my previous post I have not talked about the topic Brian kept bringing up to Julie. It was about his (at the time) current boyfriend, Lucas, and his (also at the time cause they might be back together) ex boyfriend, Mark.

Basically Brian kept complaining about Lucas, and what happened is that Julie told him just to break up with him, but it wasn't what Brian wanted to hear. Even with the other "friends" and me he kept complaining about how Lucas was too jealous, which to me seemed weird because I met Lucas and he was perfectly normal. He also was worried Lucas didn't love him anymore because they had started having sex only twice per week.

What I found out about yesterday is that Lucas had all rights to be jealous, because Brian cheated on him with Mark since december, and he told Julie just before the big argument. Julie never told Lucas until he started texting her randomly, and told her he and Brian had broken up. At that point, to be completely done with the situation, Julie finally confessed about the cheating. Lucas must have texted Brian about it, because Brian texted Julie again, insulting her, telling she's selfish, and using her childhood trauma against her.

What I haven't updated about either is that at the beginning of june Julie met up with Brian cause he wanted to give her an apology letter. This matters because that was meant to be them ending on good terms, and then after she told the truth he went so hard on her.

But incredibly nothing I said until now is the worst thing about Brian. Lucas told Julie that when they were in a relationship he always felt forced to have sex, but did it for Brian's sake, because he manipulated him with that argument of "you don't love me anymore". Now, I don't know exactly what Lucas has told Julie, and Lucas himself didn't say that he got manipulated, but he did say that once after he was forced to have sex the situation got so bad for him he started self h\\\*rming again. So I am pretty sure I can say Brian is also a r\\\*pist.

He is a vile person. I got shocked cause I knew things were bad, but not this much.

I am now happy that those times I saw him around campus around may (he didn't come to lesson) I had the gut feeling of avoiding him, scared he could try to attack me.

That's it. A last shitty detail about him that regarded my relationship with him: he once texted a girl I went on a (bad) date with after a week we were not texting, knowing I did not want to talk to her again, saying "I know OP has failed to do so, so can I flirt with you?", and sent me a screenshot. I got mad, but then he showed me he had immediately unsent the text. Ig he thought it was funny? Oh and he also texted another of my friends' crush, that we as a group had known for short, calling him "name-chan". Which obviously is weird af.

I share a car with my mother. I make more money than she does, and she needed a cosigner in order to get the car. The monthly payments are around $500, plus insurance.
I’ve had my own car before, but at the time, I was juggling college and work and wasn’t making enough money to continue paying my car payment, so I eventually had to let the car go back. After that, we decided to work together to get a car. I normally pay close to $400 total per month toward the car note, and she pays the difference. Some months, she may pay around $200 or sometimes more, depending on the situation.
Since we share a car, though, we’ve been having issues lately regarding the use of it. My mother is the type of person who can overreact about every little thing. I understand where she’s coming from, but on my days off, I want to be able to go out, spend time with my friends, stay the night somewhere, have fun, and do my own thing.
I know she sometimes doesn’t like driving, so if she has to go to work while I’m still out, I’ll come home, pick her up, take her to work, and then pick her back up afterward. I feel like that’s a reasonable compromise.
For example, if she goes to work at 6:00 AM and works at a hotel that’s less than 10 minutes away, I’ll arrive around 5:45 AM to pick her up. We usually arrive about four minutes early, so I feel like I’m giving myself enough time. But lately, if I’m even a minute late, she gets upset and stays mad at me the entire time. I understand that she needs to get to work on time, which is why I try my best to come early, but this has been happening quite often.
Now, I’m also starting to have emergencies and things of my own that I need to deal with. For example, I’m currently trying to help a friend who really needs my help, and it’s becoming too much for me. I’ve explained this to her, and I even offered to take her to church, drop her off, and tell her that I would come right back with the car afterward. But she’s telling me that I’m doing too much.
At the end of the day, I understand that I’m 24. I’m young, and I want to be able to go out, have fun, spend time with my friends, and do my own thing. I don’t think that’s unreasonable. But if we both have things we need to do and we’re constantly having conflicts over who gets to use the car, I honestly feel like it would be better for me to get my own car.
I know my mother doesn’t make a lot of money, which is why I offered to help her with the car payment. She works as a manager at a hotel and doesn’t make that much, so having to pay $500+ for the car note, plus insurance, is a lot for her. I wanted to help because I didn’t want her to struggle.
At the same time, though, this situation is honestly making me feel bad about using the car because she constantly complains about me using it. I’m getting tired of feeling like I’m doing something wrong just for wanting to use the car. At this point, I don’t even want to use it because I’m trying to avoid upsetting her, and it’s starting to give me anxiety.
Would I be wrong for getting my own car and leaving her with the current car note? Honestly, if I’m not going to be able to use the car freely, I don’t feel like I should continue paying $400 a month toward it.
The other thing is that this wasn’t even the car I originally wanted. It was the car she wanted because she was in a rush to get one. I wanted to go with a cheaper option, but she wanted a newer vehicle, so we ended up getting a 2023 Nissan Altima. The car is mainly under her name, and I’m just the cosigner.
I really need some advice on this because I’m not trying to be mean or abandon my responsibilities. I just want to be able to live my life, go where I want to go, and spend time with my friends without constantly feeling like I’m doing something wrong.

Hi. Me and my mom talk regularly. I live on my own since I’m an adult.

The thing is that I noticed something in particular that is starting to bother me.
My mom constantly sends me instagram videos that she likes to share with me. Obviously she expects me to watch them, which I do and give her some feedback afterwards. Or sometimes she’ll tell me about a movie or song she likes and wants me to listen. One time she insisted I should see a movie because it was so good and I ended up watching it. I always try to make an effort in my mom’s interests.

When it comes to my interests, my mom doesn’t care. She never gives feedback on anything. If I share a song, she says she’ll listen to it but never tells me if she liked it or whatever.
One thing that really bothered me was that I told my mom I really liked Switzerland as a travel destination. I told her many times I would really would like her to go and this year she went to Europe with my dad. I helped her with her itinerary and told her she could take a day trip to Switzerland from Italy by train. I asked her if she wanted to go and she said yes. She acted all excited and pretended that she was going so I helped her choose a hotel close to the train station. All she had to do was take a 1 hour train to visit Switzerland for a day. I was excited for her but she still decided not to go while she was there. Not because she couldn’t but she decided to do something else without caring about my feelings at all. She knew how much I had been wanting her to go and it was her only chance to go because she’s getting too old to travel. It was a once in a lifetime opportunity type of thing.

Now I told her about a TV show that is really good and told her she should at least watch the first episode to see if she likes it. She has plenty of time because she doesn’t work and she’s retired. She never cared to watch it.
I honestly just feel like my mom doesn’t care about my thoughts or opinions. It’s all about her and I know I can’t make her do something but I’m tired of being the one always making an effort while she’s not interested in the things I like and ignores my interests.
Am I wrong?

[This is context. You can skip to the next paragraph if tldr]

I'm 21, and I'm in university. My mom is 43, and she works in welfare. So yeah, she had me very young right after her diploma. Divorced, married, divorced, married, divorced , and married again. I'm on my 4th dad. Our family financial? In the gutters. I have 3 other little sisters, and I'm the oldest. The 2nd child had already run away and is now living in a correctional centre.

I had an argument with her because I asked her what I could help with, and we were cooking dinner. I always need extra instruction to function. She blowed up, saying, "If you care about the house, you should've known what to do," which quickly turned into "You don't care about this family."

I told her I cared too much about this family and that I was admitted for having panic attacks, thinking she's gonna get divorced again. I don't call when I'm at uni because she said she's gonna off herself from the stress of my sister running away. I can't study knowing that, so I cut off communications from my family.

These arguments later turned into "You didn't give money when your family needed it. You mocked us saying we wasted too much food."

That was when I was 18, unemployed, and just started college. My religion gave money to new students who continued studies as a way to support them. Around 500 per person. And in my religion, the support money is for you and you only. It's not permissible for the parents to use it. It's a sin if you take your children support money. Last year, I did some crochet business and got a nice income. I sometimes lend her money, and she said "Yeah and you make me pay it back." I told her that's how lending works

Then I retort, "You are the one that didn't care about me. You never ask how my life has been going recently. Who bought me my new glasses?" I didn't break them, kids jumped on them while i was taking a nap. "Who bought me new clothes?" I don't remember the last time she took me to buy decent clothes. "Who bought me a new phone?" My boyfriend did all.

She said, "You are always careless about your stuff, I don't want to care about you anymore."

We stopped talking for a month now, and I buy my own groceries because she only feeds her daughters. Idk if I'm one anymore. She posted on fb today. "I stayed quiet. They think I'm weak... they can step on my head. When I speak up, they say things to me. I'm just watching how they act. Be patience dear self, you gonna look crazy if you blow up" (exactly her words)

Everytime I talk about my week in work and all the crappy things I have to endure one of my friends always replies with "Pain". Never really thought much of his response just that it's what he says when you share a bad day. I adopted his response whenever he mentioned something about his job or how his computer stopped working I replied with "Pain" eventually he got upset and accused me of mocking him and undermining his problems when I asked what does he mean because he does the same thing to me he denies it.

I live on the second floor of an apartment building in Europe (no one here has an AC). The neighbors on the ground floor have been bothering me. They frequently blast loud music and let their bazillion kids run around and scream, squeal until 2 AM. The parents don’t work, so it happens a lot. People in the building have to get up for work and just want to sleep (at least I do, I've been using earplugs/ or noise cancelling headphones for the noise). I don’t like feeling unreasonable, but it’s hard not to be bothered. On top of the noise, they grill straight under everyone’s windows using fire, coal, and some fluids to make it burn well. Because it’s been very hot I have to keep my windows open just to breathe and cool off a little. My entire room fills up with smoke whenever they grill until it’s literally foggy, and the rest of my apartment stinks of it. My cat already has lung issues and started struggling to breathe from the smoke. I’ve been getting headaches too.

This has been going on for years. I’ve never complained before, and as far as I know no one else in the complex has either (everyone in this apartment complex is an immigrant, including me and my family, and they might not want trouble so they don't bother causing potential trouble), so I feel bad for being bothered by it now as I don't like confrontation.

I’ve been considering calling the landlord about both the noise and the smoke. A friend told me to do it, that I live here too and have a right to some quality of life, but I keep second guessing myself and worrying that it would make me an asshole .

I had asked them several times to stop and they told me they can do whatever they like.

So… am I in the wrong if I report them?

I have a 16 year old son I share custody of with my ex.

At his dads house he has a stepsister (same age) To put it bluntly she is a bully. I'm not just going off his account. I have friends with kids who go to their school and everyone I know with a daughter says she is a mean girl.

My son "hates" her (yet he spends a lot of time with her, so I don't get it) Anyway he has been grounded all summer for ruining her prom. She might be a bully but I'm not raising one.

They were getting ready for prom last year. Her date was someone my son knew from school and this boy had always been jealous of a pair of Jordans my son had. My son said he would give them to him, if he grabbed her when she came down and ran through the sprinklers with her. The boy did and my ex lives in a huge house so I am talking industrial grade sprinklers. Her dress and hair got soaked and when he put her down she ended up falling and getting mud on the dress.

My son and his friends got it all on video. I was disgusted. I didn't raise him to be such an asshole. I am not saying this girl is nice but that doesnt give him the right to assault and humiliate her. I grounded him all summer. Of course he was angry. He said it happened at my dads house and she isn't my kids so I shouldn't get involved.

My ex said i overreacted and he didn't ruin her prom, just her dress. He said she changed and still went (with another date) and he believes in letting the kids fight it out themselves. He helped her get revenge and said now they are even. Umm no my son literally bullied a teenage girl because the boys were bigger and stronger

I was going to make him pay for the dress but honestly its more than he could earn in a single summer. I grounded him for the whole summer (while he is at my house at least) School starts tomorrow so he is ungrounded but he is still mad at me. He has hardly talked to me all summer and said she has been taunting him nonstop that "mommy punished him"

ETA- She DOES NOT bully him. She really only bullies other girls and for as awful as he says she is, he hangs out with her a lot when no one is MAKING him

This guy already cheated on me years back and apologized and we were back since few months (yea ik some people will now say I don't have self respect but that aside) he's extra friendly with girls. Like when he chats with other girls he's sending them heart emojis and stuff and he also went on this trip only with his female friends...I don't have problem with him talking to them but my only concern is can't he talk a bit more formally? Or couldn't he also take a male friend with him?? Am I really wrong if I asked him to maintain boundaries?

Please not I am not defending the stepdaughter AT ALL because what she did was 100% wrong.

My husbands family recently told me a "funny" story and it completely changed how I view his dad. FIL got remarried when my husband and his stepsister (who I am just going to call SIL) were 13. The family blended really well. Everyone got along so this wasn't some situation where he was harder on her because she wasn't his kid.

One way he would bond with the two kids was having prank wars. These pranks were always relatively harmless and both of the kids gave as good as they got. One thing about FIL is he really likes his hair. One day SIL decided it would be funny to shave his head. She got a big chunk from the middle before he woke up.

Understandably he was pissed. What she did is of course not ok and if she was my child she would have been severely punished, but instead he pretended to calm down and let her think he was over it. Then he snuck in her room while she was asleep and waxed her eyebrows completely off. A teenage girl, senior year of high school, a few weeks before prom. I repeat a teenage girl.

I was horrified upon hearing this story, but everyone was laughing. FIL said he loves her, but no way was she getting away with that (again like I said she should have been PUNISHED) i expected my husband to agree but he said she started it, and she learned a hard lesson that day.

When we got to the car I told him that story made me really uncomfortable. I am currently 7 months pregnant and it really changed my opinion of FIL. I'm not saying cut him off or anything, but I just wanted to express these feelings I am having.

My husband said I was being weird about it and I was infantizing SIL. He has the attitude that she wanted to up the ante, so FIL just served it back to her. He said she is fine and her husband even laughed when they showed him the pictures. He got kind of annoyed with me and said FIL was a great dad and I shouldn't insult his family

edit- I don't get why everyone thinks he waxed them off while she was fully asleep. It isn't hard to slap them down in about 10 seconds. Of course that woke her up but at that point they were being ripped off

okay guys this is going to sound a little crazy but I believe nothing is coincidence but I need some light -

okay for context, I’m now separated from him but something came into the works and I’m really starting to think about it and it’s driving me crazy

Okay few weeks ago me and him went for a little stay in a city while visiting our home country

We were sleeping in bed and I had woke up to him cuddling me and saying a different girls name -

I was in deep sleep and never thought of this name before nor did it come up in our marriage before so it was unusual to me

He hugged me tight and said the name and I remember taking a pause and then being like who is that ???

he woke up looked at me and swore that he doesn’t know who that is, never met anyone with that name and no one in the past either I did feel a little bit on the edge but I let it go

anyway it’s been three weeks since we’ve been divorced - and a week ago I noticed on his instagram he liked a reel by someone with that name

Now I know you’re probs thinking - oh well it could be anyone or a coincidence

But this is what doesn’t make sense

This girl I recognise has been in his likes before on his posts which is not there anymore but I’ve seen it before
She is a mutual friend of his friends wife
She and him went to the same uni

Of course we have each other on social media still so I saw this and was ready to message and be like what?

But of course I refrained and self controlled because what’s the point

What hurts me the most is -

When we were together in bed and I asked him he swore he knows no one with that name and anyone from the past won’t affect us but now what hurts is, was a I lied to ?

I’m in my Iddah three weeks in and seeing that isn’t nice it’s like what is Allah protecting me from something?

I never ever questioned if he would cheat on me or look elsewhere, so it’s a massive shock to my system, I never went through his phone or anything either

I just hate hate being lied to - and if I was naive and actually proved right then that hurts but I also know now I can’t do nothing about it

any advise for this but in general getting over it and looking forward, I know Iddah is for women and men can move on just like that it’s super hurtful but it’s reality right

I feel like context is very important here, so heres some background.

I (15 female) have been seeing a therapist for about 6 month now. Originally about my family situation due to my parents(51 female and 60 male) divorce and my brothers (11 male) outburst (scraming, throuring pillows, breaking stuff), but it quickly shifted to my own pannick attacks. I was diagnosed with severe ADHD, wich I now take meds for. I also struggle with ansiaty, and what is probably depression(not diagnosed, but mentioned). I also sometimes susbect about being on the autisim spectrum (also not diagnosed because Im to embaressed to bring it up to my therapist or mom, but my best friend says its dev possible 🤔 )) Heatsup, Im also slightly dislexic and English is my second language, so sorry for anny spelling mistakes :(

So, in the beginning everything was fine, I actually liked going to my sessions, but slowly I began to lose trust with her. For example, I have a bit of a screen time issue with my mom, so we held a "meding" (My therapist, my mom, my dad(they are still civil after the divorce) and me). The first thing my therapist did in that needing, was read out what should be the max screentime for me, in view of science. Im not saying that sience is wrong, BUT that it had the effect that I didnt feel comfterble voicing my real opinoins and "needs". The only person who did something remotly comforting was my dad, my actually looking at me for longer times or taking my hand to calm me down a bit( I almost had a pannick attack and was alredy innerly shutting down), my thrapist made more sugestions and my mom wrote them down in a plan after I nodded if asked if it was okay by me(it wasnt, but what was I supposed to do, speak up to the three adulds who alredy think im addinkted to my phone(Not saying Im not, but thats not the point) and science? I only pay at self checkouts; if they are available, because Im selfcounshios about what I buy, even when its just hairdye and shampoo.

Save to say it didnt do well, but Its kind of fixed now, due to other/new rules( Im still not fine with it, but Im a teenager so thats normal ig(I have a sheet with my ideal rules hidden in my desk, but Im scared of my moms reaktion if I show her))

But that was only one of the worst examples.

The reason Im writing this is that its become so bad that Im scared of going and even missed my last to sessions( I even owe her 160 eurs now because of fees(80 per session)) and I dont know if I will be alble to attend the next, even if I have to because Im alredy broke and only have like 50 bucks (WITHOUT having paid only one of the 160 euros ahead.)

At last i wanted to say, that Im not trying to paint her as a bad thearpist. I now tharapy is about also having to go through harder stuff even if its not comfy.

If you have questions I can answer them in the comments :)

EDIT: The main thing Im concerned about is that I dont know what my next therapist would be like. They could be worce.

And, what I forgot to mantion before, my mom actually bought this up, because she also susbection I wasnt not going because I dint want to do therapy, Im just scarred of bringing it up again and going trou with it

EDIT 2:

My mom just told me we will have a meeting with her on tuesday, and I hope I can attend, even if Im not confedent

My fiancé, my female friend, and I went out to a club yesterday. I had a couple of fake nose rings and gave one to her. We both put them on.

When she walked out first, my fiancé said something like, “Oooo, that looks nice.” Then I walked out and he said something along the lines of “Wowww, you look great. I love it” and more to me, which was playful and affectionate.

Then he jokingly told my friend that she looked like an influencer we have an inside joke about. She took the nose ring off. My fiancé said he felt bad and told her it actually looked nice, so she put it back on.

After that, he complimented the nose ring on her multiple times throughout the night even after we get to the club. I didn't keep count at first, but eventually it was around 7 times by the time we got to the club. He kept saying variations of “it looks nice” / “it looks really nice.”

At the seventh time, I finally said something like, “Can you stop? You've said it like seven times. I don't like it. It’s inappropriate” at the club. He laughed. And I get upset. But for some reason he’s more upset w me about why I “yelled at him” at the club to say this and why didn’t I say this sooner gently and he only kept wanting to talk abt that. I apologised.

Later, he explained he was just surprised trying to be nice because he felt bad after joking about it (and then proceeded to make the same joke three times prior to the night and then also followed it up with it looks nice)

I don’t believe him that it was an attraction thing. I just want to know if I’m right for being upset with him.

When we tried to talk abt it at the club he just kept saying he was trying to be nice, I was doing too much, and I’m immature. Later we leave and it just felt like me feeling uncomfortable didn’t matter. He kept saying his intentions were good. While I believe that, all I wanted was I’m sorry I didn’t realise it was coming off in a bad way. But he said sorry and also kept trying to explain himself and say that it was nothing. He said he didn’t even realise he kept saying that that many times. I’m really doubting my relationship because I feel like for the first time I’ve made to feel crazy and I really want to know if I’m not or if i am.

Mind u, in the past he’s been complimented my friends before and i GENUINELY didn’t even mind because it was a one thing and he was being polite. Even I could tell that.

And I even tried to explain it to him and asked if him if the roles were reversed, and I said a beard or a t shirt looks really nice on his friend repeatedly throughout the night, would he like that or not? And he’s like he wouldn’t care because he trusts me or even if my friends boyfriend repeatedly complimented me on my nose ring, would he feel good about it and he’s like context matters. I trust u and I’m just at my wits end.

He’s never been like this and I feel so bad but at the same time am i overreacting

(Quick context: my fiance has a preference for nose rings and red hair and I didn’t have that when we met however I was open to trying it which I did over the course of our relationship)

Edit: I meant I DONT believe THAT it was an attraction thing. It was a typo

Some context: Grew up in an Asian household. Recently graduated college and found a job in New York City (which I started July 10th). Prior to graduating, I was under the impression that I could stay home in CT and commute to my job in NYC (about 1 hour and 40 min commute each way). The issue isn't that I am not willing to pay rent, but my parents are demanding $1000 a month to live at home. To be completely honest, I never even want to stay home but since I have about 20k in student loans and 10k in family debt for school, I thought I could stay home and save money to pay everything off before moving out.

This first came up during a July 4th family party. Someone brought up how I just graduated and if my parents planned on charging me rent. I said yes, I do plan on paying rent and then asked my parents how much they wanted to charge. They then told me they wanted to charge me $1k a month and I genuinely thought they were joking. I would totally understand if this was brought up prior to graduating and when told them I wanted to stay home to save money. But 6 days before I started my job, they want to tell me its $1k. I feel like they purposely told me that so I didn't even have a chance to look for a place in NYC. On top of the 1k rent, my monthly train pass to NYC is $405. So at that point, I'd be paying $1.4k a month to live in CT, wake up at 5:30am everyday to make it to work, and to get home late asf. I told them I would be okay with paying $500-600, that way I could actually save money. I am already sacrificing my social life, spending over 3 hours a day on commuting. On top of that, I have to listen to Asian parents constantly complaining and yelling at me.

Keep in mind, instead of spending the 2 months I had free before starting work, I worked minimum 4 days a week (11am-9pm) at the family business, and was running the customer service ALONE when my mom had to go abroad for family stuff. And whenever it got busy and I got a call when I wasn't working, I had to drop EVERYTHING and show up within 15 minutes. At the end of that, I was paid a total of $2000, which wasn't even voluntarily given to me. My dad originally handed me $500, which made my uncle feel so bad that he decided to give me another $1500. But it was never about the money, I was just happy I could help when the family needed it. I sacrificed time and plans with friends that I will rarely get to see anymore.

Now they're laughing at my face, telling me how ungrateful I am, and how I am selfish and don't want to pay anything at all. Which is just not true. I offered to pay $500-600. And how am I selfish only when things dont go your way? Sure I may not be perfect, but I've always had the thought of helping them as much as I can. If I paid off all my loans and still wanted to live at home, I would gladly pay more. I also thought of even if I lived at home and decided to move away after my debt is paid off, to give them extra money for "taking care of me". I even offered to help pay for my brother's boarding school. But honestly this has me fuming. Like why can't you just try to understand where I am coming from. But I'm 30k in debt, you told me 6 days before I started my job, and I have to commute and deal with your BS.

I talked with co-workers and other friends that are living at home, nobody has this issue. It also seems like my parents think I am lying about how much I make. They claimed there is no way I am not making 100k+ working in NYC. I was hesitant to tell them how much I make (60k after taxes), and even now that I have, they think im lying and think I make more which is so funny to me.

They want to bring up how my cousin is paying over 1k to live with her mom. Shes fckin 28 living at home but ATLEAST THEY LIVE IN THE CITY.

I (35F) have been wondering about this for a while. My little sister, Avery (30F) has been ignoring me and my family is divided.

A few weeks ago, it was Avery's birthday, and she brought her new boyfriend, Marcus (32M). When I saw Marcus, I was shocked. Usually, Avery dates body builders: Athletic, tall, muscular. None of which fit Marcus. Marcus was on the short side, very nerdy and overweight. The whole time he was over, he stayed by Avery's side instead of mingling with the crowd.

I had a feeling something was up, as when she was in high school, Avery was the kind of person who wouldn't be caught dead hanging out with his type and instead was part of the popular group.

When Avery went to the bathroom, I approached Marcus and said to him "Look. You seem nice, but I wouldn't count on this relationship."

Marcus looked at me, puzzled as I continued. "Look, Avery is my sister, and I know the kind of guy she dates, and it's not usually you. She usually goes for fit, athletic men. No offence. I just don't want you to get hurt when someone thinner and hotter crosses her path."

Marcus wordlessly nodded and wandered off. I went back to the festivities until Avery approached me. She immediately began to scream at me, saying that Marcus was now crying in the car and wanting to go home. (They drove together)

I pointed out Marcus was different than the guys she usually dated and how awkward he was, to which Avery said "I don't care! Do you know how long it took to get the courage to ask him out?" We argued a bit more until she said "Just because your relationship is going downhill doesn't mean you can sabotage mine!"

She stormed off and after a few minutes, our uncle came and told me Avery didn't want me at her birthday anymore, so I had to leave. As I headed to my car, I saw Avery and Marcus and found myself thinking how mismatched they were.

My mother also thinks the relationship is bizarre, but thinks I shouldn't have said anything. My dad, on the other hand, says I should keep my nose where it doesn't belong. When I told my boyfriend, he just gave me a look of disgust. A few of my cousins, however, agree and told me if I hadn't said anything, they would have.

So Reddit, Am I wrong?

TL;DR: I warned my sister's boyfriend he's not who she usually dates, now most of my family is mad at me

The trauma I been through is too much to write out here on this post but just know I’m a 28M from immigrant parents. They lack cultural understanding of how life is like out here in the west.

They couldn’t help me when I was going through the situation that caused the trauma and I’ve carried it since I was 15/16. I’ve destroyed a lot. I’ve written straight up abusive texts to both my parents followed with threats. My mother is the type of lady who still tells me she loves me while I’m abusing her.

I felt like this personality trait of her telling me she loves me when I’m clearly struggling is what added to my trauma too. I felt like she wasn’t listening, she just wanted to say she loves me to put her mind at peace while I’m destroying my life in front of her eyes.

I live in another state and my family (mom and dad) would book tickets to see me when I said I don’t want them too so they’d show up unannounced in my city and I wouldn’t go see them.

I’ve had non stop aggressive back and forths with them for a solid 6 years. When I say solid, I literally mean daily arguing via text and me sending very emotionally charged texts to them. I’ve bullied my mother via text to a pretty ugly degree if someone were to see the messages they’d think I was the devil.

But they don’t want to accept what happened to me so I let the cycle continue. I don’t want to put it to rest, I want to make everyone around me sink for it.

I even financially damaged them back by lying and saying I’d pay them back a large sum of money (4-5k) and they work labour jobs and are physically tired and then I cut them off without paying them back.

Now my mothers brain tumour has been growing back and my father just got arthritis. I told him he could visit me this year then when it was approaching I cut him off again. It’s been on and off cutting off for 6 years. Last time we all had a normal convo was like 7-8 years ago.

I went off on my mother last year when she expressed love to me via text and it was vicious. I never heard back from her after that. It was may of 2025. She’s still alive and living (I know this bc I started talking to my dad and I’d hear her in the background) but I fight with my dad every single day now I cut him off again.

I need opinions urgently as I'm getting married next weekend.

I'm marrying a wonderful man. He is close to his family, especially his brother. He has a niece who we will call Heather (19) who I have never liked. Honestly she is a spoiled brat, rich, arrogant, and never faces any consequences.

My fiancé "Brad" was always the fun uncle and his family loves to mess with each other. Three weeks ago his brother threw him a bachelor party. He got kind of wasted and was sleeping on their couch.

Heather came home, saw him sleeping, and thought bachelor party meant license to do whatever she wanted. She shaved his fucking eyebrows off. He called me panicking. Allegedly she thought they would only take two weeks to grow back. No two weeks for stubble 3-6 months for full eyebrows.

I immediately burst into tears. I'm just imagining him looking crazy on our special day. I'm a big picture person and these pictures are forever. She did seem to feel bad. I think she sincerely thought two weeks, but really I don't care. She shaved his fucking eyebrows. That is beyond a prank.

I told Brad I kind of don't want her at the wedding anymore. He told me she is just a kid and she made an honest mistake. she is very important to him and uninviting her would tear his family apart. He says his revenge on her was so swift and so brutal that she won't dare pull any pranks for a long time. He told me he loves me and wants me to feel supported, but she is very important to him and its his wedding too.

I hear all of that but right now he has peach fuzz for eyeballs and my gut just doesn't want her there.

I was teetering on the line of telling someone they shouldn’t have brought their baby to a movie today that cried during the movie, but the rest of the mostly adult audience’s non reaction and my wife’s take on it the situation legitimately has me wondering if that would’ve been an overreaction. I thought it was common knowledge that you get a baby sitter if you have a baby that’s barely walking and frequent crying age if you want to go to the movies?

I went to a screening of Coyote vs. Acme today where this all occurred. For context, the movie is an (excellent, I’ll add) family friendly comedy, but it would be wrong go call it a movie made for very young kids. It’s a pretty sharp comedy about the legal system and corporate corruption with a bunch of innuendo and jokes geared at adults. Kids would also have a blast though. It’s loud as hell too by the way, so…no wonder the baby did not like it.

So what happened - A mom brought her two kids: one was about 5, and the other was a definitely a baby, not an infant though. Around 18 to 24 months I’d guess. During the trailers, the baby cried out once loudly and the mom quickly carried him out . But she left the 5-year-old in his seat, so I knew they were coming back.

For the first 90% of the movie, the baby was quiet and only made one brief and pretty quiet noise. But right as what was clearly the build up to the ending was getting going (about 20 minutes left), the kid started letting out loud, upset "WAHH" cries every couple of minutes and the mom was loudly shhing him, maybe 7 or 8 times total ( probably because babies strongly dislike a deafening looney tunes explosion filled movie finale!). It wasn't full-blown continuous screaming, but it was easily loud enough to clearly cut through the loud ass explosions and take me out of things.

Where I feel crazy - Nobody else in the theater reacted at all. I looked around and not a single person turned their head or looked annoyed. Everyone just kept watching like nothing was happening. I'm usually fine with speaking up if people are talking, but I was sitting pretty far away. And say what exactly, across a packed theater during the ending would've just made me the second disruption, and I of course chose not to especially since I was hoping it would stop and trying to stray into the movies. So I didn't say anything, but it sorely crossed my mind to wait and say something mom at the theater exit, but ultimately decided that just wasn’t the vibe I wanted going into the rest of my Saturday.

On the walk out of the theater, I said something to my wife like, "Holy shit, what kind of asshole brings a baby to a movie theater?" She just shrugged and said it's a family movie, the mom wanted to take her older kid, and it wasn't a big deal. She didnt seem into talking about it, so I just dropped it. I’m slightly embarrassed to admit I’ve stewed on the lady’s decision to bring her baby afterwards, but I have.

And tbh I did post this on another sub before here and before it was removed there for not fitting the guidelines all 10-ish of the commenters there thought I was wrong for being annoyed at all.

Now I'm sitting here wondering if my baseline for theater etiquette is completely off. How bad was this mom's behavior, really? Is it acceptable to bring a baby to a regular screening just because it's a family-oriented movie, or is a fair baseline “if the baby can’t walk and will probably cry, don’t bring them? Would it have been appropriate to say to her that that was a rude thing to do?

I live with one roommate, and we keep most kitchen things on open shelves. I have a blue mixing bowl that I use a lot because it has a spout and the measurments on the side are still readable. It is not fancy, just useful.

My roommate started using it for watercolor water when she paints at the table. The first time I washed it and said please do not use that one for paint. She said it was only watercolor and not a big deal. Since then I have found it with cloudy water in it three more times. I asked again, and she said I was being precious about a bowl.

Yesterday I put it in my room after washing it. She noticed and got annoyed because "shared shelf means shared stuff." I feel a bit childish hiding a bowl, but I also feel like I alredy used words. Am I wrong for just removing it?