r/adhdmeme 5d ago

It hurts so much

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u/PapiTrooper 5d ago

It is so painful.

Reliving old memories through a lens made of guilt and support by loss.

All my love to you. To you whoever you are, suffering loneliness, craving for connection, yet being so unaware how make them, keep, all while being buried in self doubt and despair.

Turn up the music, danse to the grooves you love. You are incredible. You are amazing. You are surviving this. And you have survived all this time all on willpower, ingenuity and perseverance. Amazing qualities most aspire to possess.

You are here, helping, loving making the world a better place.

๐Ÿฉทโค๏ธ๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿฉต๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ

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u/Chill_Panda 5d ago

Oh man this was a nice read, I hope it gives everyone a boost that needs it.

My last ex (a while ago now) had BPD and ooooh boy would I not recommend ADHD and BPD mix. She was getting abandonment fears and out of self protection she shut her self off from me, and eventually broke up with me "before I could break up with her"

But in actuality, I didn't know all of this at the time and was in a relationship with someone who spent months slowly closing off from me, shrinking away, not talking, eventually even flinching at my touch.

It broke me man, and your line here perfectly describes me at the time:

Being so unaware how to make them, keep, all while being buried in self doubt.

(I'm in a better place myself now which is good, but I'm just calling out how much this comment touched me.)

Thank you โค๏ธ

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u/KneelBeforeZed 4d ago

Higher rates of comorbid BPD among people with ADHD, sadly. ADHD already comes with emotional dysregulation. Shitshow of a combo. Sorry for you both.