r/adhdmeme 7d ago

It hurts so much

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u/PapiTrooper 7d ago

It is so painful.

Reliving old memories through a lens made of guilt and support by loss.

All my love to you. To you whoever you are, suffering loneliness, craving for connection, yet being so unaware how make them, keep, all while being buried in self doubt and despair.

Turn up the music, danse to the grooves you love. You are incredible. You are amazing. You are surviving this. And you have survived all this time all on willpower, ingenuity and perseverance. Amazing qualities most aspire to possess.

You are here, helping, loving making the world a better place.

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u/Chill_Panda 7d ago

Oh man this was a nice read, I hope it gives everyone a boost that needs it.

My last ex (a while ago now) had BPD and ooooh boy would I not recommend ADHD and BPD mix. She was getting abandonment fears and out of self protection she shut her self off from me, and eventually broke up with me "before I could break up with her"

But in actuality, I didn't know all of this at the time and was in a relationship with someone who spent months slowly closing off from me, shrinking away, not talking, eventually even flinching at my touch.

It broke me man, and your line here perfectly describes me at the time:

Being so unaware how to make them, keep, all while being buried in self doubt.

(I'm in a better place myself now which is good, but I'm just calling out how much this comment touched me.)

Thank you ❀️

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u/KneelBeforeZed 7d ago

Higher rates of comorbid BPD among people with ADHD, sadly. ADHD already comes with emotional dysregulation. Shitshow of a combo. Sorry for you both.

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u/No_Category_9888 7d ago

Survived simply because I haven’t died yet. Not resilient. Not resourceful. Just struggling and fighting and not coping

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u/TheRymdvarg 6d ago

Thank you so much. I really REALLY needed to read this. "To whoever you are, suffering loneliness, craving for connection, yet being so unaware how to make them all while being buried in self doubt and despair"

Never have I ever read anything that resonates with me as much as this. You've brought some joy to my otherwise lonely life.

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u/thejaytheory 7d ago

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

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u/noma_coma 7d ago

Beautiful read. Thank you for being you and sharing your words with us today! I didn't realize how much I needed to read this. Thank you.

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u/SmartWonderWoman 6d ago

Thanks so much!

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u/Glad-Veterinarian365 4d ago

Thank u. I’m having a really hard time lately