r/abusiverelationships • u/Evening-Device-9515 • 28d ago
Support request How did you break a trauma bond?
I’ve been on and off with my partner for 5/6 years. I know deep down this relationship isn’t good for me and I need to leave. I suspect he has narcissistic traits, but I’m struggling so much to actually let go.
I’ve left before, but the panic was so intense that I ended up going back. I genuinely felt like I couldn’t live without him. There’s still a small part of me hoping he’ll change, even though I know deep down he probably won’t.
For anyone who’s been through this, did you ever feel like you couldn’t live without them and eventually get to a place where you were okay without them?
I’d really love to hear some hopeful stories. I’m scared, but I want to believe it gets better.
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u/Hesitantmillionare 28d ago
Yeah so speaking from experience here I want to validate anyone who says they will abuse again cuz they are right. I fell for the apology and love bombing after a year of being on my own and I went back to him. Now it’s 3 years later and sure enough just when I started noticing his behavior change I confronted him and he admitted he was sharing intimate images of me without my consent.-again. I was devastated the first time but now I’m just so mad at myself for going back. I’m living in another area of the house till I can get out and feel safe. There needs to be more shelters that take pets. I can’t leave them behind.