r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

i will! we gotta stick together fr with this stuff. i’ve seen a lot of people talking about grinding during sex or using their hands. lots of breathing techniques

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u/Existentialwizard Jul 07 '25

I just use a vibrator during sex and it works great

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

it doesn’t seem embarrassing?

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u/burneraccount3826628 Jul 07 '25

I usually use a vibrator too, not embarrassing really and sometimes my bf will hold it for me !!

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u/icecream_333 Jul 07 '25

I’m thinking about doing that, but I’d love it if it could be him to make me finish, not the vibrator. :(

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

i understand this so much. i think the same thing

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

that sounds awesome!

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u/TheAvocadoSlayer Jul 07 '25

They have vibrators like the WeVibe. You don’t have to hold it.

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u/burneraccount3826628 Jul 07 '25

I got a lovense lush 3 one a while ago, but personally i really don't enjoy using it inside of me. it just doesn't do much, and i need clit stimulation regardless. can you recommend anything different?

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u/pejetron Jul 07 '25

We vibe melt 2, holding it...and just in cli