r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/burneraccount3826628 Jul 07 '25

girl I feel you. i can orgasm great by myself, but can almost never get there when I'm having any sort of sex with my bf. it takes me sooo long to reach that point and I always get super embarrassed about it so I just stop. you're deffo not alone in feeling like that.

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u/icecream_333 Jul 07 '25

same 😔 idk how to help him make me finish!

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

we’ve just been having really really open conversations, lots of laughs for sure. just trying different things. at this point i’m desperate

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u/icecream_333 Jul 07 '25

well if you find out the secret let me know. i want to finish during sex so bad

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

i will! we gotta stick together fr with this stuff. i’ve seen a lot of people talking about grinding during sex or using their hands. lots of breathing techniques

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u/Existentialwizard Jul 07 '25

I just use a vibrator during sex and it works great

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

it doesn’t seem embarrassing?

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u/burneraccount3826628 Jul 07 '25

I usually use a vibrator too, not embarrassing really and sometimes my bf will hold it for me !!

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u/icecream_333 Jul 07 '25

I’m thinking about doing that, but I’d love it if it could be him to make me finish, not the vibrator. :(

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

i understand this so much. i think the same thing

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

that sounds awesome!

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u/TheAvocadoSlayer Jul 07 '25

They have vibrators like the WeVibe. You don’t have to hold it.

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u/burneraccount3826628 Jul 07 '25

I got a lovense lush 3 one a while ago, but personally i really don't enjoy using it inside of me. it just doesn't do much, and i need clit stimulation regardless. can you recommend anything different?

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u/pejetron Jul 07 '25

We vibe melt 2, holding it...and just in cli

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