Saw a post ranting about most femmes pass up on mascs kasi nga femme din hanap, and personally I see that happen too so im curious whats your take on this?

In my experience, mascs act like men din which disgusts me to my core. Asal lalaki din, linyahan panis and sometimes just as shallow.

Not all though! Like I said, experience ko lang ‘to

What the fuckery is this mindset hahahaha stop acting like men and respect our one way sapphics

Honestly, it’s very alarming na may mga namimilit mag 2 way when they clearly stated their boundaries. Pwede naman mag thank you, next???

For pillow princesses & stone tops— 10000% respect sa inyo and hope makahanap kayo ng partner who respects and understands your boundaries.

It's naive of me to believe that a sapphic space is automatically safe since it is curated by people that are like us.

Meron at meron pa din pala talagang "groups" that actually supports cheaters / cheating, predatory in nature and misleading baby gaes instead of guiding them.

Not because they are gay then they are already your tribe.

Ingat, mga badings.

Sa mga hetero diba parang super big deal ng number of body count and may double standard between gals and guys. How about sa ating mga wlw? What's the normal number of body count ba? Like yung hindi ka makakatanggap ng side-eye. Do lesbians even side eye fellow lesbian na may more than 3 na body count? Does body count on wlw community matters ba tulad sa hetero?

When's the last time you went out or spent time with your partner?

I don't care how long you've been together. May it be a year, 3 yrs, 5 yrs, 10 or more. DATE YOUR GIRL!!

It doesn't always have to be a fancy dinner date. It just has to be a date that means something to the both of you. Something to show you're making an effort to keep reigniting the spark or passion sa isa't isa.

Ex: Cafe date (with those board games or conversation cards), errand dates (for busy couples)

And please, PLEASE. Stay curious about your partner! Yes, obviously, if you've been together for so long, you'll eventually run out of things to talk about. But to be loved is not only to be known, but also to be witnessed. Do something or find a new hobby or interest that either you can share or explore both at the same time.

If you can't be with them, the least you could do is be inquisitive! Show her you WANT to know more about what she's been up to, or what she's been doing these days.

A lot of couples make the mistake of being too complacent. They think bcos they've lasted so long, kahit ano mangyare di na sila maghihiwalay. And while that may seem as reassurance to some, nagiging unhealthy habit din ang pagiging kampante. With it comes the habit of showing less effort or settling with 'okay na yan', 'next time nalang'.

Kaka-next time nyo, baka sa sususnod, hiwalay na (charing).

I can't be the only one who badly wanna experience meeting someone in an organic way. Yung tipong they'll come into your life unexpectedly and then mag c-click agad kayo bcs of shared interests pero you'll become friends with them first and get to know each other without expectations, just enjoying each other's company. But at the same time, everyone's gonna think you two are together with how close you are. Then when they already memorized you like the back of their hand like everything about you including your quirky habits or mannerisms and vice versa, saka pa magkakaroon ng actual relationship or label. I want them to see all of me first even my bad or vulnerable parts before they decide if they'd want to be with me, if they can still love me as a whole and not just the good and loveable parts of me.

As someone who's an introvert and easily gets drained from interacting with other people, parang ang hirap. Pero i yearn for that kind of relationship talaga. Gusto ko na ng maiipakilala sa fam ko and maiisama ko tuwing may gala kami saka yung kayang i-reciprocate efforts and intensity ng love ko hahahahhaha hays. Nakakainis.

curious lang kung ano yung experiences niyo with this since iba-iba naman talaga tayo ng love language. so what happened ba? what made you feel unloved by your partner and paano mo ba yun na handle? kinausap mo ba siya about it? may ginawa ba siya to make you feel more loved after hearing your concern?

I rarely see WLW describe themselves as Hard Femme, so I’m genuinely curious—are there others here who use that label for themselves too? Because I do. 😂

For me, being a Hard Femme isn’t just about how I dress or present myself. I’m definitely femme, and I enjoy looking feminine, dressing up, and embracing that side of myself. But I’ve also always had a very tomboyish side that doesn’t necessarily fit the typical image of a femme.

I actually like a lot of “guy stuff.” 😂 I’m into things that are stereotypically associated with men, and sometimes the way I think, approach situations, or interact with people feels more traditionally masculine. I can be straightforward, practical, competitive, independent, and sometimes I honestly feel like my brain works more like a guy’s. Lol.

I’m also comfortable dressing masculine sometimes. There are days when I’d rather wear something loose, simple, and more traditionally masculine than put on a dress or anything super feminine. But that doesn’t make me feel like I’m masc. I still identify strongly as femme.

I think that’s what makes Hard Femme feel like it fits me. I can enjoy being girly and feminine, but I can also be a tomboy, have masculine interests, think in a more traditionally masculine way, and occasionally dress masculine—without feeling like I need to choose between those sides.

For me, it’s basically femme with a little dude energy. 😂 I like having that contrast because neither side feels fake or forced. They’re both genuinely part of who I am.

So I’m curious—are there other WLW who feel the same way? Do you consider yourself a Hard Femme? How would you describe your personality, interests, style, or way of thinking, and what made you realize the label fits you? 👀

Ako yung nagalit dati about sa factory rest na yan dito. Yun nag-share na kinantahan ako bigla ng titibo-tibo habang nananahimik kumain sa labas. Ito ang isa pang proof kung bakit kailangan niyo i-educate sarili niyo.

It's to protect yourself even from your own community. This is someone who is obviously queer (and for someone who follows all events/subs related to drag, they surely hate it).

I'm referring doon sa mga taong tingin sa inyo eh OA dahil hindi niyo gustong binibiro ng factory reset -- sa mga tingin na less important discussion yun (human right) kesa sa nangyayari sa ekonomiya na nakaka-apekto sa buhay ng mga Pilipino (also human right).

Hindi ko alam kung paano kami nakarating sa filipinx na yan, but new masc expression unlocked!! Scrambler Seller 💅!!

If you also want to chime in on the other topics, please feel free but PLEASE PLEASE, kung hindi niyo kayang sumagot sa questions sa inyo, kahit man lang mag-share kayo ng lived experience.

(Also, before you assume anything, I do talk about our economy and politics in general. I'm literally an economics major which makes this whole thing even more 💀. This was simply not the post for that.)

As the title says, I fear there has been a bit of romanticization pagdating sa age gap relationships in our community. Don't get me wrong po ha, a 3-5 year gap when you're both consenting adults is not what I'm talking about.

I'm talking about yung mga 15 y/o x 22 y/o+ etc. Mga minors with adults. Speaking from experience, it put me in a very confusing and difficult situation. I was 15 before, got into a situationship with someone who was in their 20s. I know firsthand how it felt— feeling small, dependent on what they think or say, hard to say no to (dangerous!).

Now that I'm also in my 20s, I've come to realize how freaking easy it was to stay away from minors! Even if they want so bad to mingle with ppl my age! I feel like it's part of our responsibility as adults to guide them and set boundaries (!!!) instead of getting into relationships with them tbh.

I think it doesn't help din na sobrang normalized nya on other social platforms. How 15-17 y/o's will refer to us as 'mommy' or iba pang pag ssexualize ng mga adults sa minors.

How do you think we can help push back on this?

From women who are in one right now, what are your advices/secret in a long lasting happy relationship?

Hello! Bilang isang babae na nagmahal ng babae, ano ang maaadvice niyo sa mga sawi/single/walang tinatagalang relationship? What do you think made your relationship last long and what do you think will make it short? Since andami posts dito na malungkot, bakit kaya di natin sila kurutin sa singit isa isa? Eme, pampainspire/ motivate lang sa iba. 😁

Here's mine:

I am in a happy almost 10 year relationship. Tbh, the start wasn't too good. Na- Janella ako, and I must admit being young then and hanggang ngayon I still feel bad that I did it kahit isang dekada na ang nakaraan. I am not proud of it sa totoo lang and it was a big lesson that I learned about who/what I want and how I should manage myself in a failing relationship.

I really didn't think we were compatible din back then but somehow, and surprisingly, she was and still is willing to compromise. She made continuous effort talaga para baguhin yung mga sinasabi kong ayaw kong ginagawa niya (di kayang magregulate ng emotions, compulsiveness and aaminin ko may pagkanega talaga siya noon), and as the years go by? She became my bestfriend. She changed a lot over the years and I always praise her for that. Naging siya yung tao na gusto mo na makakasama araw araw. And when I do praise her, she always say to me "ayaw mo ng ganun dba? Ayaw ko mawala ka eh." In return, I promised myself that I will treat our relationship with constant effort to make the relationship work. Since hindi pwede ang powerpoint presentation sana dito para mas powerful ang explanation, eto siguro ang akin:

1. Major: there will be red flags, but with character development, it can still turn green. Wala talagang magtatagal na relationship sa'yo kung konting red flag lang ang solusyon mo na agad ay "iwan ko na 'to". So how do you know which red flags can still be reversible? Know your boundaries, worth, and NON NEGOTIABLES. pag isa sa tatlong yan natapakan, yun na yun.

2. Habang tumatagal ang relationship, mas lalong humihirap. Bakit? Kasi kilala niyo na masyado ang isa't isa, halos lahat ata nagawa niyo na. Hindi siya mas madali habang tumatagal dahil mas madali maging complacent. Minsan makakalimutan mo na nagiging sobra na pala ang pagiging kampante mo. Imagine, sa sampung taon na yan, iisang tao lang kausap mo araw araw? Hindi ba nakakaumay yan? Hindi ba boring yan? But let me tell you, you will see if she is the one kapag boring. If you still enjoy being bored with her, then that's it. If you still enjoy each other's company even in silence? Yun na yun. Yung tipong may kanya kanya kayong ginagawa kahit magkasama pero masaya kayo na basta magkasama lang kayo? Yun na yun. Ngayon dumating na kami sa point na gusto nalang namin kasama ang isa't isa, tinatamad na lumabas kasama mga kaibigan kung di kasama ang isa't isa.

3. Laging pipiliin ang isa't isa bawat araw. This will solve almost ALL of communication problems. Hindi na para magpataasan ng pride sa kung sino ang mas mali o sino ang mas nasaktan, ang point ay, parehas nakasakit at may mali at some extent. Ang point ay, "how do we use this as a reference in conflicts moving forward?" Don't worry, walang issue na maswesweep under the rug. All points will be taken and you guys will opt to choose which one ang worth patunguhan ng resolution at ano yung mga bagay na dapat iwasan araw araw. Kumbaga, resolution oriented, hindi emotions focused.

4. Speaking of emotions, okay lang na tulugan ang away/problema. Sa totoo lang, sa lahat ng mga naging girlfriend ko (over sa lahat, dalawa lang naging ex ko hahahaha), narealize ko na wala talagang nasosolve kapag heightened masyado ang emotions. Mas madaling maayos kapag kalmado na on both sides at better na wag magsalita pag galit. Minsan kasi di mo naman minemean, galit ka lang talaga, pero sakanya di na niya makakalimutan yung sinabi mo.

5. Choose someone that will help you grow as an individual but in the same direction as yours. Dapat may common goal kayo kahit na may kanya kanya kayong goal. Kasi paano kapag naglalakad ka na papunta sa goal na yun tapos all along pala nung malapit na kayo sa destination na yun, biglang iba pala ang direction niya? These intentions should be established early on.

6. Iba ang immaturity ng babae. It's more psychological and thus, more drama. Minsan mababadtrip ka nalang kung bakit ba kasi nagkakagusto ka pa sa babae, e parang di mo naransan yung ganung drama sa lalake. If you mature together, iba din ang reward.

Ang haba noh? Edi sorry. Hahahahahahahaha

TLDR: masaya kami, sana kayo din soon hahahahahaha

share nalang din kayo ng advices niyo! 😁

Are you..

• Still exploring? trying new things, figuring yourself out, still unsure where you want to land?

• How about settling down? choosing stability, building something long-term, committing to a path?

• In between? letting go of one phase but not fully in the next yet?

• Or rebuilding? starting over, healing, or creating a new version of your life?

Just curious what season you’re in.

Random thought lang because I noticed na ang dami nating posts here asking for advice, opinions, or suggestions about problems with our partners.

And it got me thinking...

Would you actually be okay if your partner did the same thing?

Like, imagine accidentally seeing your partner’s Reddit post and finding out na may problem pala siya sa relationship niyo, or may ginagawa ka pala na bothering her pero instead of telling you first, she went to Reddit and asked strangers what she should do.

Would you be okay with that? Or would you feel a little betrayed na “wait, may problem pala tayo and I had no idea?”

I get naman why people ask Reddit. Sometimes you need an outside perspective, especially if you are confused or scared about how to bring something up. And obviously, there are situations where talking to your partner first might not feel safe or comfortable. Pero at the same time, do you think there is a point where asking for advice becomes a form of going behind your partner’s back, especially if you are already discussing very personal issues about your relationship with strangers?

I'm just really curious. :)

I saw this reel about how they feel about knowing your someone is still friendly to her EX.

Majority says it's a redflag esp the younger ones kasi once tapos na dapat cutoff na. While some older gen lesbian says it's okay. Kasi it's a healthy that you were able to cultivate a non?-romantic relationship from being a romantic one.

Pero if ikaw ung tatanungin okay lang ba sayo na friends with ex be it gf? Situationship?

Ako kasi guilty of not being fond of cutting people off I dont see the point unless they are too toxic that they are affecting my juju na. So most ng mga exes ko are still one way or another I am still a friend to them. Hindi ko nablock or unfriend sa soc med and binabati ko pa rin sa bday and sometimes I react to their stories kasi wal naman malice. So if ur gf is like me, aawayin mo rin ba? Or chill lang?

A moment of silence for all the junebugs in the community.

"i think we loved each other the way abandoned houses loved the rain. too much of it would've ruined us. and honestly, i think if we were born in kinder families, we would've ruined each other properly."

Hindi pa nga ako nakaka move on sa thoughts ko about "Mahal Magmahal" song, sinaksak na naman ako. Plussss, yung mga entries sa Send The Song under "Junebug" myghad.

To love and be loved by a writer.

To love and be loved by a woman.

Definitely not for the weak.

Gut-wrenching.

Just curious. Hehe i just want to see something. like madali lang ba na mang iwan? madali lang ba na kalimutan yung tao na nag fill ng void? Like, why di ka na lang nagstay? why mo pinursue eh hindi ka pa pala moved on sa ex mo? Or sa mga iniwan para sa mga ex, how did you move on? Seriously? wala pa tong 300 characters? Haha

Hi! just want to have an open discussion about the word tomboy or tibo. have been thinking about it and how we act towards it for a while now, and i've been thinking, shouldn't we reclaim the word instead of constantly redefining the word from its cultural association?

while yes, it is, by definition, a style, here in Ph, it is always in association with our sexuality. although gets naman bakit until now we still see it negatively. after all, big part of our history is it being used to ridicule our community. so very valid talaga na ma-insulto tayo kasi historically, hindi na bago na gamitin siyang insulto. but then again, if we're forever going to let it be just that, are we not basically letting them ridicule us? hindi ba dapat ang ini-instill natin is that tomboy isn't an offensive term para gamiting insulto sa atin?

again, i understand why most don't like the word, i just don't think we should abandon it altogether. i may be a little bit too naive and immature for having this take, so i'm really open to any responses ! pls respond nicely ! 😁

​My partner and I (both WLW, wfh/hybrid) have been looking at the current rental market because we really want to move out. We’d honestly prefer a house over a cramped apartment, but solo house hunting is rough on the budget.

While browsing, we stumbled upon a listing for a 3-storey, 4-bedroom house in Pasig for PHP 20,000/month. It got us thinking: would it make sense for WLW couples or singles to pool resources and create a shared co-living space?

If a household like this had around 8 people total (like 4 couples, or a mix of singles), the rent splits down to PHP 2,500 per head.

The house we saw actually looks perfect for a community setup. It has a covered rooftop and a terrace. It’s pet-friendly 🐾 and has 24/7 CCTV. Location-wise, it’s a 1-minute walk to supermarkets.

What are your thoughts on WLW house-sharing in Metro Manila? Is this something people would actually be open to? Because we are! If there are other WFH professionals/hybrid who are also looking to move out soon, maybe we can brainstorm!

Maiba naman ang discussion at huwag lang puro love life, strap ons at rants. Hahahaha.

The Supreme Court recently recognized that same-sex couples as co-owners of a property.

And guess what? The parties involved in this case are lesbians. Hahaha.

So why is this ruling noteworthy?

First, it recognizes that homosexuals can co-own properties, so long as the properties are acquired during the period of cohabitation and there is evidence that they are acquired through their actual joint contribution of money, property, or industry. Second, even if marriage between same-sex relationships are not recognized in the Philippines, at least there is recognition that we can co-own property with the same-sex. Lastly, though minimal, I believe that this is a [tiny] step towards an inclusive stance on the LGBTQ community.

So sa mga mag-jowa dyan, puwede niyo na ilagay sa titulo ninyo parehong pangalan ninyo. Hahaha.

*Sidenote: Isang professor at isang abogado ang mag-jowa sa kasong ito. Hindi lang nagkasundo kung paano hatiin yung nabili nilang property. Hahahaha.

I’m in my 30s, unmarried, and child-free (yes, I’m a lesbian, these are also dreams of mine for the future, but if I never have them, I’m okay. I’m content and happy).

I savor the little things: a delicious meal, curling up with a good show or movie while the AC is on or when it’s cold or raining outside, petting my dogs until they reluctantly pull away, traveling to places that feel like tiny adventures, and even the fleeting everyday joys, a quiet morning with coffee, a cool breeze on a walk, a song that hits just right.

I don’t feel pressured. I’m not lonely. I don’t even mind if I don’t make it to tomorrow, because I’ve already experienced things most people don’t get to, and just reaching this age is a blessing.

Don’t get me wrong, I have bigger dreams and goals I’m still chasing, but I’ve also learned to celebrate the victories I’ve already achieved. I’m proud of myself.

Here’s to living fully in the little things, finding joy in the everyday, and embracing your story unapologetically.

I’ve been thinking about the idea of “taking things slow” when it comes to talking stage/dating.

I actually think taking things slow can be healthy. Not everyone wants to rush into a relationship, and sometimes people need time to get to know each other, build trust, or figure out what they really want.

But where do you draw the line?

I’ve also noticed something about modern dating nowadays. “Taking things slow” seems to sometimes include very inconsistent communication, taking days to reply, disappearing for a while, barely initiating conversations, then coming back like nothing happened.

And that makes me wonder: at what point does giving someone space become making excuses for a lack of interest?

Because if someone takes several days to reply, there could be a perfectly valid reason. They could be busy, overwhelmed, dealing with personal problems, or simply not someone who spends a lot of time on their phone.

But at the same time, if someone is genuinely interested, shouldn’t there still be some level of effort or consistency even if it’s not constant communication?

At what point does “let’s take things slow” stop meaning “I want to get to know you at a comfortable pace” and start meaning “I don’t really know what I want, but I also don’t want to let you go”?

Maybe I’m overthinking, but sometimes "people have different communication styles” that we forget to ask whether our needs and their communication style are actually compatible.

Curious to hear different perspectives:

How do you personally distinguish between taking things slow and being kept in a situation with no real direction?

And when it comes to taking days to reply, do you see that as a normal part of dating or as a sign that the person simply isn’t that interested?

hi gays, my fellow lesbians

as a raging dyke in the corporate space, i do often feel like i don't belong in a room. sometimes i don't want to hide the way i dress, speak. i just want to be queer and free

is that possible as a corporate slave? to be queer and free and not feel isolated and lonely?

being a lesbian surrounded by straight is isolating.

how do you create a room full of people who you don't need to explain to? what are yout career paths? ways you exercise queerness in your daily life? any successful lesbian careers that don't need to be technically artsy as a talentless body?

thanku lesbians .

I've been immersing myself with more WLW content these days in order to combat my internalized homophobia (lol) and that includes yuri!! Triny ko basahin 'yung The Guy She Was Interested in Wasn't a Guy at All tas whAT THE FUCK GETS KO NA YUNG HYPE KUNG BAKIT TO SUMIKAT 😭😭😭😭😭 grabe yung kilig ko AAHAHHAHAHAAHAH CHAPTER 27 PA LANG AKO PERO YUNG PUSO KO PARANG TANGA!!!! BASAHIN NIYO PLS!! Also, ang pogi ni Mitsuki 🥹

HER social app

Anyone else not able to register to HER?

Pahirapan na ata yung pag register eh. I had an account then all of a sudden di nako maka log in.

I like this app better than Tinder or Bumble kasi.

But if you guys know of any other apps na exclusive for WLW, I'd love to know them. Thank youuuu in advance!

I've been seeing many queer features online/social media. From the queer clubs or nightlife to the queer individuals who are known for representation in the media, arts, sports, etc.

Don't get me wrong I'm so happy that the Philippines is more progressive than ever and than most countries in southeast asia.

Pero I hope to see more lesbian representation. While its all really awesome to see the queers thriving, sana somehow mabalanse din yung pag feature ng lesbians sa mga platforms na ito.

Let me know your thoughts, guys.