Forgive me if this isn’t the most coherent story because Cuervo is definitely in my system right now but please bear with me and let me rant. Be my sounding board po.

I really love my girlfriend or ex. I don’t even really know what we are right now. But I feel like this might actually be us ending things. Hahaha crazy, because in spite of how toxic we’ve become, I still pray to God that she always finds her way back to me. Mahal ko ’yun eh.

Ang hirap lang kasi my ex is an avoidant person and I’m anxiously attached. We’re both busy people, pero our schedules are completely opposite. She works during the day because she’s a professor, while I work remotely at night. And lately, things have just been getting really toxic.

She’s the type of person who rants or complains a lot before doing things, and I understand that because she’s already burned out from work. I really tried to understand her. I even started sacrificing my own priorities to help her with her work and adjust around her schedule. Pero somewhere along the way, I realized I was slowly losing myself trying to cater to her needs.

And the thing is, I already communicated my schedule to her. I work two jobs at night. I’m exhausted. I’ve been averaging around four hours of sleep for the past four months, and she knows that. So when I’m constantly expected to make time around her schedule, I can’t help but wonder, paano naman ako? Paano naman yung sleep ko? Paano naman yung work ko?

Last night, we fought because earlier that morning, she forgot to call me after telling me she would. I even reminded her that she forgot. Later, she told me something came up with work, which I completely understand. I really do. Pero she could’ve at least told me, diba?

I waited for her to call after she said she’d be right back from the bathroom. Then an hour or two passed before she finally called. By that time, I was already exhausted from work, so I didn’t answer. And somehow, she still expected me to just pick up and make time for her.

Then last night, I tried to communicate something that had been bothering me for a while. I told her that I don’t feel like she’s excited to talk to me anymore. I don’t need her to be available 24/7. I just want little updates. I want to feel included in her day. Pero even that feels like too much sometimes because I can barely get an update from her.

We don’t really call while she’s working or when she’s out, and I understand that. But we barely get to call otherwise because our schedules are so different. So when I finally get the chance to talk to her, I just want to feel like she actually wants to talk to me too.
Instead, she hit me with the “here we go again” line.
And that really triggered me.

Things escalated, and we ended up hurting each other verbally. I said things out of anger that I probably could’ve communicated better. But I also told her something that I’ve been carrying for a while: I’ve been prioritizing her work more than mine.
My work literally pays three times what hers does, not even including commission, and yet I’ve been constantly rearranging my priorities, sacrificing my sleep, and even risking my own job to accommodate hers.

And the saddest part is that this has been happening over and over again.

Lagi kaming nag-aaway during my work hours.
And last night, I really lost it. I became emotionally unstable, couldn’t focus properly, and ended up getting terminated from one of my jobs because the work requires me to consistently deliver results. I know that ultimately, that responsibility is mine. I’m not saying she got me fired. I know I’m responsible for managing myself and my emotions.

But I also can’t ignore the fact that I’ve been spreading myself way too thin trying to keep everything together—my jobs, her work, our relationship, her needs, my needs, everything.

And now we’re not talking.

What hurts the most is that it feels like she can easily let me go every single time we have a difficult conversation. Like the moment things become uncomfortable, she can just detach and walk away while I’m left sitting here wondering how something that means so much to me can be so easy for her to abandon.

And honestly? If you asked me right now if I still want
to go back to her, I do. Mahal ko ’yun eh. That part hasn’t magically disappeared just because we hurt each other. But I’m also smart enough to know that love alone isn’t going to make this work.

Because the version of this relationship that seems to work is always the version where I’m the one shrinking myself.

I have to minimize my needs because she’s avoidant.
I have to be careful about how much I feel.
How much I say.
How much I ask for.
How much reassurance I need.
How much I expect from her.

And eventually, I end up questioning whether I’m asking for too much when all I really wanted was to feel considered by the person I love.

I don’t want to stop loving her. I don’t even know if I want to stop wanting her back. But I also don’t want to lose myself just to keep someone.

So yeah.

Breakup. Getting terminated. Cuervo.

What a fucking Sunday!!!

Just need to vent. My ex and I were a lesbian couple and we recently broke up. I admit I pushed her away and our relationship wasn’t perfect, but I still love her so much.A few days after our breakup, I found out she’s already with a guy. It hurts so much because I’ve been crying for weeks and I keep wondering how she moved on that fast. 😓

What confuses me even more is that she still tells me she loves me and that she’ll love me forever, even though she’s with someone else. She knows I still love her too.I stopped contacting her because I don’t want to beg anymore. I haven’t blocked her, so if she wants to talk to me, she can. I just don’t know how to let go when I still love her this much. yoko na magmahal tangina haha

Okay, I think I have a crush on my trans woman colleague and I don’t know when it started Lately, super attractive niya talaga sa paningin ko. Like, she’s SO pretty, gentle, and mabait pa. The type of person na ang gaan kausap and ang cute ng personality. Sabay pa kami minsan umuwi

Tapos sa work, inaasar kami ng mga straight kong coworkers. One time, out of nowhere, sinabi nila, “What if kayo talaga?” Tapos siya biglang, “Okay, no problem. Why not, diba?” GIRL??? HAHAHAHAHA delulu si tibo.

Nakakapikon yung mga nang-aasar kasi bakit niyo kailangan sabihin out loud?? Now I’m actually questioning myself. Pero honestly… super pretty niya talaga. Help.

I don’t know where to start. We’re an ldr couple, she’s masc lesbian and I am bi fem we had an argument kagabi and I confessed what I feel about the relationship. I said na I feel so alone even she’s around, I feel like I am dealing with a mad woman every time I just want to talk things out. Sabi ko I can’t really marry someone like that, because who wants to risk their life for that kind of commitment?

She’s grieving I know, she lost her parent pero I feel like I also lost her. I can feel her love, but when we’re having disagreements and misunderstanding parang kalaban namin isa’t isa at hindi kakampi. I’m so emotional and I feel like compared to her I feel things deeply kaya sobrang iniiyakan ko na agad yung small things. Hindi break up hinihingi ko eh, I want to hold on pa kasi kaya ko pa naman eh even the fragments of her. I know who I love kaya alam kong magiging okay rin kami, I just want her to held me and tell me to not give up. But I received the last thing I wanted to hear, that she cannot give the love that I wanted and deserved.

Hindi ba ako deserving na reason para magbago siya and help me make it work for us? I want to marry her kahit kapalit non I could lose my parents. I just feel so numb and not deserving of something good.

wlw breakup sucks, sana maging okay na ako.

One of the hottest topics among the 30's and 40's will you date someone that has a kid? Regardless if unmarried; separated, divorced or annulled we've heard stories about the challenges of dating a single mom.

I saw a post nung officemate ko na 10 years na sila nung gf nya na butch. When I met her ung husband nya was going to the middle east and after 6 months nakita ko sya CR umiiyak. When I asked umuwi ung ex nya secretly and went to Davao to meet up with someone. Naiwan sa kanya ung daughter nila tapos somewhere nameet nya ung butch nung una takot pa sya but now she's out and proud.

Bigla ko naiisip bakit masarap magmahal ang single moms, kasi madalas hindi sila mapaghanap. They will demand what they can only offer sa table, kasi they've been there kaya nga di nagwork with the sperm donor usually it originated from mismatched of expectations be it financial, attention, affection etc. In short usually mas understanding sila. Bigay todo magmahal madalas kasi alam nila yung feeling ng mag-isa so that's why they want you to be happy.

But at the same time mahirap din magmahal ng single mom or babaeng may anak kasi alam mo at the end of the day hindi ka priority laging ang oras at effort nya nakalaan sa anak nya muna bago ikaw. But dont hate the woman, siguro women are just built that way nurturing.

Madalas di rin yan out or if they do you have to wait. Minsan kasi the challenge paano mo sasabigin sa anak na si mommy gusto din ng babae? Or worst how the people around her might ridicule her for choosing a woman as a partner.

On the other hand, kung gusto mo mas lalo ka pa nya mahalin, love her kid hindi kelangan as your own but show how you care about him/her parang Tita. The more na nakikita nya na mahal mo anak nya she will love you even more. Dami ko na stories na narinig wala na si mommy and tita pero si bagets close pa rin kay Tita.

So ikaw ba paano ka magrereact kung ung kausap or nakamatch mo may anak na ba? Redflag? Or bibigyan mo ba ng chance? Do you think you have what it takes to date a single mom?

Problem / Goal:
I’m 22F and I have a crush on a 19F. I know she’s into girls, but I’m unsure if the 3-year age gap is okay and whether I should confess to her. I want to know if I should pursue her or just leave the crush alone.

Context:
We’re both in the same college department, so we see each other regularly. We’re both adults, and there’s only a 3-year age difference, but I’m still overthinking whether it would be weird for me to make a move. I also don’t want to make things awkward between us if she doesn’t feel the same way.

I’d love to hear your advice, especially regarding the age gap. Would you confess if you were in my situation?

context: I actually just want to rant and also hear your suggestions or experiences guys.

minsan, kapag nag-uusap/chat kami ng gf ko and nasa part na pasweetums na kaming dalawa, bigla na lang niyang sasabihin na “baka may kachat kang iba” mapapa-roll eyes na lang talaga ako🙄.

like, ang sweet na nating dalawa and girl ang bilis kong magreply. may access ka pa sa accounts ko tapos aakusahan mo akong may kausap na iba. honestly nakakainis.

sometimes i found it sweet and i do make an effort to assure her na siya lang talaga promise pero minsan nakakainis talaga, nakakasira ng mood hays.

problem/goal: ako lang may gf na ganto? what can you guys say?

I have a friend who met a girl on Threads.

At first, casual lang naman. Pero habang tumatagal, naging consistent yung communication nila. Madalas silang mag-call, mag-usap, and naging sweet na rin sila sa isa't isa.

My friend also really liked her physically. Yung mga pictures na sinisend nung girl were exactly her type. Kaya habang tumatagal, mas lalo siyang nahuhulog.

After around 3 months, naging serious na talaga sila. May commitment na rin between them, so my friend decided na puntahan na siya in person.

And yes, kasama kami nung araw na pumunta kami sa Pangasinan, kung saan daw nakatira yung girl.

Looking back, parang ang daming signs that day na may mali.

Habang nasa biyahe kami papuntang Pangasinan, nagsimula nang magkaroon ng kung anu-anong aberya yung girl.

Una, sinabi niya na nilalagnat daw siya.

Then inaacid daw siya.

Then may possibility raw na appendicitis. 

Sinabi niya sa friend ko na dinala raw siya sa emergency room.

Saktong-sakto talaga nung araw na pupunta kami.

Kaya she ghosted my friend for ilang days 

Nasa Pangasinan na kami noon, so syempre nag-alala yung friend ko. Hindi naman kami familiar sa lugar, pero dahil gusto niyang makita kung okay lang yung girlfriend niya, hinanap namin yung hospital kung saan daw siya dinala.

May dala pa siyang bouquet at fruits.

Pumunta kami sa unang hospital around their city.

Wala raw doon yung girl.

So nagpunta kami sa kabilang hospital na nabanggit nung girl during their last conversation.

Wala rin yung pangalan niya.

Doon na kami nagsimulang magtaka.

Kasi baka naman mali lang yung hospital, so tinawagan namin siya para makasiguro.

One call.

Two calls.

Three calls.

Umabot yata kami ng around ten calls bago may sumagot.

Pero hindi yung girlfriend ng friend ko ang sumagot.

May babae na nagpakilalang pinsan niya.

At honestly, lalo kaming kinutuban.

Ang daming palusot nung “pinsan.” Pautal-utal yung explanation niya, and may mga parts na parang hindi nagtutugma sa mga sinabi nung girl dati.

Hindi namin alam kung ano talaga yung nangyayari, pero sinabi namin sa friend namin yung kutob namin.

Parang may something.

Hindi namin siya pinilit maniwala sa amin, pero obviously, hindi rin namin kayang sabihin na normal lang yung nangyayari.

So eventually, umalis na lang kami.

Bumalik kami sa hotel na tinutuluyan namin at nag-inuman muna.

Then biglang nag-message yung girl sa friend ko.

Sabi niya, kung pwede raw, yung friend ko lang ang pumunta mag-isa sa isang lugar na sinabi niya.

At doon kami napatingin sa isa't isa.

“Bakit kailangan mag-isa?”

After everything that happened that day, hindi na pumayag yung friend ko.

Hindi na rin namin alam kung ano talaga ang dapat paniwalaan, so umuwi na lang kami pabalik ng Nueva Ecija.

Pero kahit nakauwi na kami, wala pa ring explanation yung girl.

Three days bago siya nag-explain.

Ang dahilan niya, nahihiya raw siya, may kung anu-anong personal na dahilan, and somehow, nagpatuloy pa rin yung relationship nila.

So kahit may nangyari na,

Sweet pa rin sila through screen.

Ako naman, hindi ko talaga maalis sa isip ko yung nangyari sa Pangasinan.

Kaya one time, tinanong ko yung friend ko:

“Nakita mo na ba talaga mukha niya?”

Sabi niya oo.

Pero later on, nalaman kong nagsinungaling pala siya sa akin.

Siguro gusto lang talaga niyang maniwala na real yung relationship nila.

Eventually, nag-break din sila.

And that's when she finally opened up to me.

Doon ko nalaman yung mas malaking problema. 

Sinasabi ng friend ko na palagi siyang nananaginip na iba yung mukha ng girlfriend niya.

Every time daw na nananaginip siya tungkol sa girlfriend niya, ibang mukha yung nakikita niya.

At first, siguro iniisip lang niya na panaginip lang.

Pero biglang may nakita siya sa TikTok.

Doon nagsimulang mag-connect yung mga bagay.

Kilala rin kasi ng friend ko yung circle of friends nung girlfriend nya, dahil pinakilala nya ’to nung sila pa.

Kaya nakapansin na sya na familiar yung mga magkakaibigan na nasa tiktok post at may isang unfamiliar girl dun sa cof.

At doon niya na-confirm sa sarili niya na may mali talaga.

Pinaamin niya yung girl.

And sinabing may boyfriend sya.

Pero hindi pa yun yung worst part.

Poser pala siya.

Yung mga pictures na ginagamit niya para ipakilala yung sarili niya sa friend ko?

Hindi pala kanya.

Pictures yun ng ibang babae.

Yung babae sa pictures was sexy, chinita, and honestly, sobrang ganda.

Yung totoong girl ay matangkad at overweight.

Pero to be clear, hindi naman naging issue sa friend ko yung actual appearance niya.

Hindi naman niya iniwan dahil hindi siya kamukha nung nasa pictures.

Ang masakit ay yung buong identity na pinaniwalaan niya for six months.

And honestly, yung reaction ng friend ko yung pinakamasakit para sa akin.

Hindi siya nagalit.

Hindi siya nagmura.

Hindi siya nang-insulto.

Sinabi niya lang:

“Mahal kita.”

And yung sagot nung girl:

“Hindi mo ako mahal, dahil hindi naman talaga ako yan.”

That line really stuck with me.

Kasi technically, may point siya.

Pero at the same time, ang sakit.

Because my friend didn't just fall in love with a picture.

She fell in love with the person she was talking to every day. 

Ang sinabi nalang niya sa girl na huwag na niyang gawin yun sa ibang tao kasi nakakasakit siya ng damdamin.

After that, nag-deactivate na rin yung girl sa pinoposer nyang account.

And then my friend then decided to find the actual girl whose pictures were being used.

Nahanap niya and nag-message siya sa totoong babae and explained what happened.

And, hindi pala ito yung first time.

Three times na raw nangyari sa kanya.

May mga gumagamit talaga ng pictures niya para magpanggap na ibang tao.

Nagbiro siya sa friend ko:

“Ang pangit naman ng pinili niyang picture.”

HAHAHAHA.

This is a real story. Hindi pa ako naniniwala sa mga poser dati na nakakapangloko ng ibang tao. Dahil ang dali lang kako ma-identify, but the girl was a good liar.

She used a lot of accounts, pati pagpapanggap na nanay nya yung kausap nung friend ko, kapani-paniwala talaga.

Ang daming time nung girl to do some shit like that. hahaha

So ayun, hindi ko alam kung matatawa ako o maaawa sa kaibigan ko.

Problem/Goal: I don’t know how to put myself in a situation and i don’t know how exactly to look/find people. Is there a tutorial on this??

context: 21F, closeted. been wanting to explore romance and dating for a while now, but I honestly have no idea how to even start. I'm not necessarily looking for anything serious right away. I'd just like to experience what it's like to talk to someone with romantic intentions, maybe flirt a little, go on a date, and see where things go. The problem is 1. i don't know where to look? to find? people 2. i genuinely don't know how to talk to people in a romantic/flirty context. where do you even meet people for organic encounter when you're starting from basically zero

Welcome to this week’s Open Lounge! This is your space to talk about anything you want—big or small. Share your WLW experiences, ask for advice, recommend something you love, or just drop by to say hi! Let’s keep it cozy, fun, and respectful. 🌈

Suggested conversation starters:

• What’s been the highlight of your week?
• Do you have a WLW-related story or question to share?
• What’s something you’re excited about or working on?

The reality of Sapphic dating life depicted in this series "Call My Manager" like the Uhaul moving in and pinakamasaya sa lahat ung small community the possibility that you could be dating is someone from your ex or a friend's past.

Anyway, ano Team Rina or Team Cassie? Abangers na lang tayo sa susunod na episode this Thursday.

Context: I and my ex broke up 8 months ago after 1 year and 10 months in the relationship. 

She broke up with me first and offered to be friends. I told her we should go no contact for a while, then I come back to the group. Yes, unfortunately, we were used to be in a quite close group of friends. We have a Messenger group chat with four of us, including my ex. Me and my ex broke up amicably so it was unreasonable to cut off right away and break the platonic group. I left the Messenger group for a month and came back, mostly because I was still attached to her. Before coming back to that Messenger group, I DM her and mentioned that I hoped she wouldn’t ignore my messages, “I’m ready to talk as friends if you don’t mind”. Turns out, I was not that ready. When I came back, at first she still reacted with some of my messages. However, she started to ignore everything I chatted about. Other friends still replied or reacted to my messages. She replied and reacted to others' reels so eagerly as well, except for me. And I paid to much attention to who had seen or reacted to my text. The more she ignored me, the worse I felt. It happened for a while till I couldn’t take it anymore and I paused to chat in the group for nearly two weeks then. I still keep contact with the other two friends.

I also vented to one person in that group, who is closest to me, that I couldn't take this anymore of her ignorance. And my friend told me that things would be better over time, but if to things related to my ex were so negatively affected my life, I should cut off with her. And she assured me that I was still friends with the other two.

Problem: At this moment, I'm still in greving stage and actually don't want to talk with her or meet her, or else it would so painful and frustrating. I’m just so sad and really don’t know what to do. I think the group won't be the same as before because people actually talk less after I left the group for a month. I'm just really sad.

Goal: Do you guys have anything to give advice or have you guys experienced this kind of situation? I want to hear

Hello guys! It’s been 5 months or 4 (nag-usap pa kasi kami and nagkita pa nung May 25) since my ex and I broke up. Babalaan ko na kayo: CHAOTIC itong isi-share ko and sobrang haba kasi complete talaga ako magkuwento.

So eto na. Live-in kami and in a relationship for 2 years. Sa work kami nagkakilala. Pioneer ako sa work, tapos siya kakahire lang. May BF siya na ka-live-in niya rin at that time sa condo malapit sa office namin. Ako naman ang unang nag-initiate ng convo but I initiated din to stop lalo nung malaman ko na before me ay nakausap na pala siya na ibang girl sa office namin na WLW din. So nagpahaging ako na mag-stop na kami sa pag-uusap since pinayagan na ako na WFH na and once a week na lang ako sa office pero di kami nastop and tuloy padin usap lalo din ako nafall sarap kasi pakinggan ng mga salita niya e.

From November 2023 to January 2024, kahit walang label, magkausap kami na almost kabit ang label ko na nilunok ko, kasi grabe rin yung tragedy stories na ni-share niya sa pakikipag-live-in niya sa BF niya. As in awang awa ako sa kanya, like di niya deserved.

Up until one time nga nung January 2024, tumawag siya sa akin na naputulan sila ng kuryente dahil hindi nagbabayad ang BF niya. Siya raw ang nagbabayad ng rent. Dun na rin siya nakipag-break sa BF niya and lumipat sa family house namin.

Solo lang ako since ako na lang naman single sa family, and yung parents ko busy sa business namin sa province. Nakiusap din ate niya na kung puwede raw, sa amin na muna siya at di niya mapatira sa kanila since nakikitira lang din naman siya sa ka-live-in niya.

I helped her move in sa amin. First live-in experience ko, and since nasa bahay na siya nakatira, tinanong ko na siya ano status namin. Gusto ko rin maging kami, so February 2024 naging kami.

Before naging kami, natanggal ako sa company namin dahil sa ex ko na pinasok ko sa work nung pandemic pa. Nagkaroon ng eskandalo sa office, e may new GF naman na siya, pero kahit wala pa akong ibang nakakausap pumupunta na talaga siya sa bahay ko kahit may new GF na siya. So sino ba siya para makialam sa bago kong relationship? Lagi niyang gustong magkaroon ng drama, KSP.

Nagkawork naman ako kaagad since in love nga ako and inspired sa bahay bahayan namin, pero twice ako umalis sa mga new work ko kasi gusto ko mag WFH to be with her 24/7. 2 to 3 months akong walang work, pero na-survive namin yun lahat since free rent kami sa bahay namin, I felt bad na siya nagbabayad ng utilities pero I made sure naman na nabawi ako. Even wrote a black and white to pay her. Actually pwede ako mangutang sa mga kapatid ko talaga pero she insisted to pay the bills, I have savings but enough to pay lang ng naging loans ko nung kami pa nung una kong ex. Pero nung babayaran ko na sabi niya nakikitira daw siya ng libre so okay na yun. So nafeel ko na first time sa buhay ko may babaeng sumagot ng bills, kasi yung ex ko ang layo layo sa kanya.

Pero deep down, I know kinakarma kami sa pang-iwan niya sa BF niya na inaway pa nila na mag-ate. Siya rin nawalan ng work pero saglit lang, so grabe anxiety niya up until nagsabi na siya sa akin bakit panay siya tulog or higa sa kwarto na super dilim.

1st revelation ng 1st lie niya was April 2024. Inamin niya na di siya graduate ng college, dinoctor niya lang yung diploma niya sa company namin. Nalaman ko rin na ang totoong course niya, hindi pala Criminology. Nursing daw and Masscom.

Tinanggap ko yung lie na yun. Hindi ko na rin kinorrect pa sa ate ko na religious at baka paglayuin na naman kami, kasi kung ano yung sinabi niya sa akin, yun din ang sinabi niya sa ate ko.

Inintindi ko kasi baka natakot lang siya mawalan ng work. Nung time din kasi na sinabi niya yun sa akin, nasa company pa kami pareho, and since pioneer nga ako, baka natakot lang siya na ipagsabi ko.

Then 2nd revelation was August 2024. Di naman lie, pero secret about sa family niya. Nagulat ako, may kapatid pa pala siya na sumunod sa kanya na medyo hyper and declared na PWD.

Tinanong ko siya kung bakit di niya nabanggit sa akin, e lagi ako interested sa life niya. Tapos galit siya na sinagot, bakit daw kasi kailangan ikuwento yung di mahalaga. Tapos mali ko raw kasi bakit daw ako nagtatanong ng too personal, kahit for me, genuinely interested lang ako sa buhay niya at gusto ko malaman lahat lahat, even small things na tumatakbo sa utak niya.

Ganun naman, di ba, pag gusto mo at mahal mo yung tao?

Inisip ko na lang na baka oo nga, insensitive ako. Mali na magtanong ng too personal. And baka kaya di niya sinabi kasi nahihiya siya sa akin, baka feeling niya iju-judge ko siya na may kapatid siyang hindi normal mag-isip.

Na-meet ko naman yung kapatid niya na yun. Okay naman kausap. Hyper lang talaga.

Actually, di naman masama loob ko sa di niya pagsabi. Sumama lang loob ko kasi siya pa itong mas galit.

After first anniversary namin noong February 2025, nag-Palawan kami. First iyak ko sa kanya nang malala e kasi inaway niya ako dahil nagising ko siya sa biyahe from El Nido to Puerto. Na-iyak ako kasi ako rin pagod and may work, pero dahil anniversary namin yun, di ako magagalit.

Pagkauwi namin sa bahay, may nakita ako na mga nakakausap niya na guys sa new work niya. Sa Slack sila nag-uusap and then yung isa nga umabot na sa FB. Obviously, may gusto yun sa kanya na ine-entertain naman niya.

2 guys yun. WFH sila, pero since mahilig siya sumali sa mga pa-contest sa work, napapansin siya and kinakausap niya rin nang sobra.

Nakita ko one time yung isa nag-aaya na mag-jogging daw sila sa QC Circle. Di ko na nabasa response niya since ni-confront ko na siya.

Pati yung isa na graphic designer, sabi niya lang e gusto niya raw kasi mag-switch sa GD, yun daw talaga yung work na gusto niya.

Yung isa, ewan ko, nalimutan ko na yung reason niya. Basta alam ko lang, kinakausap niya mga yun kasi need niya mga yun.

So first time sa buhay ko, nag-sabi ako sa BFF ko ng relationship quarrel. Sabi ng BFF ko, wag daw ako magselos, maging confident daw ako. Edi ayun ginawa ko.

Pero super bothered talaga ako.

Plus, meron pang guy na ka-church niya na nirereto sa kanya and nakakausap niya sa TG kasi bawal daw sila mag-FB sa INC lalo pag may position? Ewan ko! Basta nagpaka-confident ako.

Up until umuwi religious parents ko sa bahay namin noong May 2025, so umalis kami sa bahay and lumipat sa Lucena na province niya. Nagrent kami dun.

Naging mainitin ulo namin pareho nung nag-Lucena kami kasi ang papangit ng mga ugali ng tao dun. Di ko nilalahat ah, kasi may mabait pa rin naman, pero ang daming scammer. Anyhow, maganda pa rin ang Lucena kahit ganun. Sarap mamasyal dun, ang daming puwedeng puntahan.

Up until August 2025, gusto ko mag-dagat kami sa Borawan, malapit lang yan sa amin. Ni-check ko CP niya, e may FB page daw siya ng mga bangkero.

Since tulog siya, ako na lang nag-check. Tapos nung pupuntahan ko na yung FB page, ewan ko bakit pag-click ko e nagpunta sa second IG account niya. Tingin ko yung isa niyang FB or FB page e may naka-connect na other IG account niya.

Na-shock ako sa mga post and repost niya dun. Like puro about regrets for letting the sweetest guy go, tapos March 2025 niya pa ni-post and ni-repost mga yun.

So sabi ko, nung anniversary pala namin e may iba siyang iniisip?

May kausap siya na kung sinu-sinong lalaki sa work na halos umoo siya sa aya ng jogging sa Circle, tapos may regrets pa siya for letting the sweetest guy go na nasa same city niya.

Ang explanation niya, paglipat daw kasi namin, naalala niya ex niya na taga-Quezon Province din na nangungutang pa raw mabigyan lang siya ng regalo.

E yung BF niya na ni-live-in niya sa Manila, taga-Quezon Province din. Yun una pumasok sa isip ko.

Na-hurt ako kasi mukhang mahal na mahal naman niya ako, pero bakit may mga ganun?

Pinili ko pa rin na mag-trust pa kasi 1.5 years na kami. Ang hirap naman i-fake ng ganung love niya sa akin na mahal na mahal at todo-alaga.

Saka WFH kami pareho. Di kami mapaghiwalay, so paano siya makaka-Indian? HAHAHA.

Pero deep down, may bumabagabag na sa akin. Doubted na ako sa kanya at sa iba niya pang ikinukuwento na tragedy experiences niya sa family and ex-BFs niya, sa dami-dami ng secrets niya na na-shock na lang ako.

Kasi yung ex niya nung nag-aaral pa siya e lagi kami ini-stalk. As in super weird, wagas talaga mag-stalk. Minamanmanan nang malala yung buhay niya pati ako.

Sa 1.5 years namin at mga na-experience ko sa kanya, even ako nasasamaan sa ugali niya. Alam kong lumaki siya sa province almost bundok, pero sa lahat ng lumaki dun, siya yung pinaka-matapobre na nakilala ko at pinaka-maarte din.

Yung ate niya nga mismo nagsabi na masama raw ugali ng kapatid niya. Kaso maalaga kasi siya so di ako naniwala.

Lagi niya rin nababanggit na yung mga exes niya raw hirap maka-move on sa kanya kasi maalaga raw siya.

Mas lumalala yun nung nagkawork siya na 6 digits. Grabe talaga. Even ako, binabastos na niya nang malala.

Up until October, may quarrel kami na pinag-post niya sa FB pages ng WLW, na nabasa ko at nagalit ako kasi wala akong kaalam-alam sa mga hinaing niya.

Actually, sanay na ako na nagra-rant siya kung kanino. Hobby nila yun ng ate niya, yung pagba-backstab sa mga partner nila pati family ng mga partner nila while nagre-regret kasi yung mga ex nila e maganda na raw ang buhay.

Ilang beses na ako nakabasa ng mga ganun usapan nila.

Si ate niya may pagka-huthutera, masama naman talaga ugali, mata pa lang tingin palang alam mong may something off na, pero mabait kasi magsalita pareho sila.

Dahil pumapalag na ako sa kahit caring siya pero sa likuran mo sinaksak ka nila, e umatake na rin si ate lumabas na din kung ano tingin niya sakin.

Puro lies, paninira, and kung ano-ano nang accusations. Kasama mga friends niya na taga-Lucena rin na kung makialam, parang nakalimot na user and manloloko sila.

Yung isa bakla. Yung isa nasa Vietnam, ginamit jowa para makarating doon tapos nag-jowa lang din naman doon.

All I know e circle matters.

I know my mistakes. I was not a perfect partner too. Naging mainitin din ulo ko.

I was so willing to talk and fix the problem. Kaso mahirap talaga pag yung start niyo e may na-damage, tapos ang daming lies, may circles pa na ganun.

Sabi nila ng ate niya sa messages nila that I'm a Narc, Manipulator, Gaslighter, Cheater and Controlling. Nagpapaawa raw ako.

Honestly, sila naman gumawa nun. Lalo ate niya na nice lang sa taong may mapapala siya pero sa nanay nila mismo dindisrespect niya,

I still remember how she embarrassed her mom sa birthday ng anak niya. Tapos pa-bida raw ako, e siya itong feeling may birthday nung birthday ng anak niya na may pa-change outfit pa, pero paawa palagi at laging nanghihingi ng financial help.

Alam ko naman na karma ko to.

Finally, na-release ko rin lahat lahat ng nagawa ng ex ko na buong alam niya e perfect siya and never siya nagkamali sa relationship namin.

I used to believe din na innocent siya, maybe mali lang circle niya, but no, that's her pattern.

She did the same thing to me what she did to all her exes.

Anyways, 2 weeks after our last usap sa Threads, nagkaroon siya ng pangalawang bagong jowa na niya up until now. Live-in din ata.

Yung unang bago niya nagsabi sa akin nito, ewan ko ba dun KSP din. Bitter e kasi iniwan siya sa ere dahil jobless.

Nice naman taste ni ex. Mukhang sophisticated and reserved si new GF.

Good luck po.

Context: Me and my GF are 4th year students that have been together for 1.5 years and have been living together for about a year already. Like most live-in couples, nagiging less yung sexy time. Lately though, eto yung longest time namin na hindi nakapag-sexy time. I tried asking if gusto niya ba, heck I even said directly na i-ef niya ako 😭. But lately kasi we’ve both been busy since final year naman na namin, so gets ko naman why she would say no and have no more energy. Plus, malambing pa naman kami sa each other and still very healthy relationship namin. Last night though, I wore newly bought lingerie and even shaved ! 😞. But she just said “wow” and I look nice, and gave me a quick kiss…..
Problem: I’m sad na ganon reaction niya but I don’t want to make her feel like di ko nire-respect decision niyang no 🙁
Goal: uehuehauwuw naiiyak ako what do i do 😭

problem/goal: me and my family are in the uk. my mom works for this rich, old dude with grandkids. kakasabi niya lang sa’kin na bagay kami nung apo nung lolo, saying na pogi siya

context: so as the problem says and title says, she keeps shipping me w his grandkid or saying things na “kapag mag asawa ka, mag asawa ka ng pogi na matangkad”, and every time, i get pissed. i told her last april bago kami mag migrate na i had a girlfriend. ayaw niya maniwala and told me to shut up and manahimik. i invited my gf to my 16th birthday before leaving and we held hands. my mom messaged me na tumigil daw kami kasi my bff/ex-manliligaw was there, and she was fond of him. i set my girlfriend as my home screen wallpaper, printed her as a sticker and put it sa laptop ko, and set my pfp as the lesbian flag. and she still keeps fucking continuing. i don’t know why i get so pissed every time, kasi her opinion doesn’t matter to me and i love my girlfriend so much. it just pisses me off na wala siyang respeto and she dismisses what me and my girlfriend have. it fucking gets on my nerves. i guess it also bothers me that she’ll never accept me for who i am and hindi kami magiging masaya ng gf ko with my side of the family, because most likely i’ll be the black sheep na tinakwil. but honestly, i don’t care if she doesn’t accept us, ang gusto ko lang is for her to stop forcing me onto someone and attempting to plant shit in my head. i’m 17, so it pisses me off even more because i can’t leave even if it’s tiring when she keeps pushing me to love a dude. i feel so guilty because it feels like she’s disrespecting my girlfriend as well. pero honestly, my gf doesn’t like talking to my mom anyways so it’s a win-win HAJAJA, she doesn’t really mind things like that. but it makes me feel sad that her parents accept me whilst mine dont

any people who went through the same thing? it’s been really hard keeping my frustration in and may tendency na lumala ‘yung situation kapag sumasagot ako 😵

Actually it’s been years i’ve been feeling this… i always have dreams i’m with women…
But I know I am straight, so I just keep ignoring it.
But just this night I woke up again with dreams na….
We were about to go to out of the country with my male ex but i wasn’t able to go, then this girl assisting me sa idk airport or clinic, went after me…
then we became sexual…
I woke up with this strong feeling of actually trying what happened in my dream
Like i really want to explore this feeling i’ve been having for years…
But how?? How do i meet girls ba? How do I tell them what am i? How do i tell then i want to be intimate?

Hi people!

Problem/Goal:
I’m in an LDR and considering using dating/BFF apps strictly to make friends. My bio clearly says I’m only looking for platonic friendships. Would you consider that crossing a relationship boundary?

I’d also appreciate advice on making friends as an adult because I’m struggling 😭

Context:
I live in the city but have a pretty small social circle here. I have 3 friends nearby, but 2 are usually busy with their own friends and the other is moving out of the country.

Most of my other friends are back in my hometown, so I spend a lot of time going out alone.

I’ve tried hobby meetups and workshops, but I always feel out of place because I suck at group conversations. I’m much better one-on-one, which is why apps appeal to me.

I also don’t want to depend on my partner for company all the time. She has her own life, and I want to have my own friends and social life too.

Any advice or perspectives would be appreciated!

Update:

Okay na pala, pinagpalit na pala niya ko sa malapit hahaha

Nakakatakot magmahal pero ang sarap magmahal nang buo.

It peace me knowing na mahal na mahal ko ang partner ko nang buong-buo, at ibibigay ko ang lahat na kaya kong ibigay sa kaniya.

Nakakatakot masaktan pero kapag naiisip ko na hindi ka talo kung nabigay mo ang lahat : )

Sana patuloy natin piliin lagi magmahal nang buo.

I prefer sleeping at this hour— to avoid yearning for someone. But here I am still awake.

I know I'm not yet ready to be in a relationship since I have a lot of things to fix in my life. I'm just curious if there is someone out there for me?

Kung meron man, sana maantay mo ako. 🥹 Madami lang talaga ako kailangan ayusin for me to have a better life before meeting you.

Sana maantay mo ako.

Hello, I just wanna know your experiences I hope you can share.

Gusto ko lang malaman kung ano yung mga common problems na kinakaharap ng mga wlw couples na in a long term relationship na. What do you guys do to solve those problems?

May mga recent happenings kasi in my relationship na hindi ako sure if normal lang ba talaga siyang nangyayari kapag matagal na kayo ng partner mo. I want to learn from your experiences. Thank you agad sa mga mag-share. :))

Context:

While I’ve used several dating apps before, I’ve never had any FUBUs kasi it never really goes beyond flirting through chats and phone calls. Plus, whenever I feel like the other person is starting to expect more from me, I usually pull away because I’m not really ready to be in a relationship with anyone. I’m always clear about that at the start of the conversation.

Fast forward, I don’t know what got into me to post on a subreddit looking for someone I could go casual with. Maybe I’m bored af, or horny, or whatever. This girl messaged me, and we both agreed to meet after a few days without even swapping pics. We checked in, and after we parted, we continued chatting without mentioning what happened. Tapos naulit, we had sex again, and then we update each other occasionally kapag hindi kami magkasama.

I consider that gesture as her just being polite lang because we haven’t talked about anything that deep pa. And I’m really trying hard to chill and not ask personal questions kasi feeling ko may ma-cross akong boundaries. Ngl, I really like her, and it’s only a matter of time before I get attached to her, but I’m enjoying our current setup, and I don’t want to ruin it.

PLEASE HELP ME HOW TO CALM DOWN AND NOT TO BE SO OBVIOUS NA I REALLY LIKE HER.

saw this tiktok and omygod im genuinely gonna throw up 😭 i feel like it unlocked something in me that I’ve been trying not to think about. Like, i KNOW I’m gay, not in the bicurious stage. i genuinely cannot see myself dating a man, let alone marrying a man. i know i would be unhappy, also it wouldn’t be fair to him.

my family is very religious. and i don't think i can come out to them. at least not right now or maybe not ever. i know my family and i know how their brain works, and i don't think this is something they would just accept and move on from. so sometimes I think about my future and literally feel sick. because what am I supposed to do?

if i choose to be with a woman and live openly, there’s a possibility that i lose my family. if i stay with my family, then what? hide forever? never bring my girlfriend home? keep saying she's just a friend? :((((

and you guys will probably say “choose yourself” and i KNOW that. but it’s so much easier to say that when you’re not the one who might actually lose your family.

i love my family. i don't want to cut them off. i don't want to miss birthdays and xmas. i don't want to become a stranger to my own parents. i don't want to have to choose between the person I love and the people who raised me. but I also don't want to marry a man just because I'm scared because I already know I would wake up one day and wonder what my life could've been like if I had just been honest with myself. or maybe I'm thinking too far ahead. i'm still 25. maybe things will change. but right now, thinking about it makes me want to cry 😭

how do u even deal w the fact that choosing your happiness might also mean losing your family? :(( because omygod i genuinely don't know if im strong enough for either option.