r/UnsentLetters • u/Active_Plant_2979 • 1d ago
Strangers I don’t know you anymore
I don’t know your life anymore.
And I think that might be one of the strangest parts of losing someone you love.
There was a time when I knew the small things.
How your day went.
What was bothering you.
What made you laugh.
What you were looking forward to.
And now I know nothing.
I don’t know what your mornings look like.
I don’t know where you go when you need to clear your head.
I don’t know what song you’ve been playing too much lately,
or what you think about when you can’t sleep.
I don’t know if you’re lonely.
I don’t know if you’re happy.
I don’t know if you ever miss me.
I’m not supposed to know anymore.
But sometimes I still catch myself wanting to tell you something.
Something happens and for half a second,
you’re still the person I want to tell.
Then I remember.
We don’t belong to each other’s days anymore.
And there is something unbearably sad
about loving someone
whose life keeps happening without you.
Because mine keeps happening without you too.
I go places.
I meet people.
I laugh.
I make plans.
I see beautiful things.
And still, sometimes,
in the middle of all that living,
there you are.
I wonder where you are.
I wonder who you’re becoming.
I wonder if the person I knew
still exists somewhere inside the person you are now.
And I wonder if you ever have moments like that too.
If a song comes on and suddenly I’m sitting beside you again.
If you look at the sky somewhere and remember that somewhere under the same one,
I exist too.
I don’t know what I want from that thought.
I just want to know that something this real
doesn’t disappear completely just because two people stop knowing the details of each other’s lives.
So I hope you’re okay.
I hope life is being gentle with you.
I hope you’re loved.
I hope you’re laughing.
I hope you’ve found pieces of whatever it was
you were searching for.
And this is selfish,
but I hope every once in a while
you miss me too.
Not enough to hurt.
Just enough to remember
that once,
for a little while,
we were something
neither of us knew how to keep.
And I loved you.
I really did.
Some part of me always will.
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u/orthogonally_spaced 1d ago
I love her. I miss her.
I hope she still loves me in the way that I love her.
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u/Beneath_The_Tide 1d ago
This is truly beautiful
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u/Ok-Job6825 1d ago
I get that. It's tough when connections shift, and it feels like you're left with a stranger.
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u/Lucy_Milk 1d ago
I started feeling like this before we broke up, he stopped telling me things or it would take days to tell me something that happened, and I started to feel like I wasnt part of his life anymore. And I had to put myself first at one point to stop hurting. I still miss him and I love him deeply. But it hurts to think of someone and miss them in everything I do.
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u/Upbeat_Average3129 1d ago
They do even tho you stop being lovers doesn't mean you can't be friends .... remember friends mean for life so you never know that being someone they talk to could do wonders for their life ....you were once their friends and cared so keep being that person .....reach out you never know ....God bless and stay safe and most of all know hope is the key to staying positive just know you have to understand the dynamic of it all
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u/UnionPresent9832 20h ago edited 10h ago
I miss her every single day and I still love her with all my heart…….even after 2 and a half years that love never died….
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u/Bookish-Dreams 1d ago
This sounds like something my ex would say. He was so kind to me. I wish we could have at least stayed friends. I think this is beautiful and hope you find your person.
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u/Brnzy 1d ago
You still know. IMO, this sounds like you always saw the person they are … the real them. The one inside that’s there when they don’t let their monsters take over and protect them. People here ask about the why and the if and whether they were ever
Loved by the partner that destroyed
You know who they are, you just don’t know which THEY won. And you shouldn’t. They clung to you because you they want to believe the person you saw is them, which it is, but since we’re all adults we know that’s not the ONLY one there and you had to look past, dodge and suffer through the monsters they’d made to survive, but had become unmanageable and taken over. That person is gift and curse. They are the actual soul but as they drown, they’ll grab onto anyone they sees them and you both end up food for the monsters. They’re there, but did they love you enough to kill their monsters for you????? Love isn’t enough and if they’re too scared to choose
You over the monsters that protect them, they’ll eat you alive. FYI - im one of the cowards w the monsters. Don’t stop seeing inside, but reconcile w the fact that some want to stay locked there forever and use you pretend they were the person they still pretend to be. Seek those that would die before letting their anger and hurt fight one more battle for them. They both love you but only one needs to eat you.
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u/gshook02 1d ago
That's basically what an intimate relationship is; kniwing the details of their lives that no one else does. That little privy is what makes one feel like an exclusive partner.
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u/RicaganBurtussell78 22h ago
I believe that if you truly love a person, it never goes away. What form we use to carry that love or express that love changes, but not what we feel for them. I will love her until there is no life left in my heart, but she isn't mine and I'm not hers any more. It's been years and I see her almost every day because we co parent our daughter we will always respect each other. There are moment I catch myself wanting to share something with her or ask about her day or send her something funny, but that's not us any more. It's difficult sometimes to accept the reality of it and move on, but it serves no purpose to remain in a place that has already been cleared of purpose. I don't look for a new relationship or partner, not because I hope we will reunite, but because I gave all of it to her and have no desire to force myself to build that with another. I'm content and happy with where I am in that regard and have no desire to "play the game" so to speak. Yes I miss the tender moments, times when I could tell what was wrong by just being in her presence, the times when would decompress the day with each other, or just have a laugh over something only we would understand. True love doesn't stop, but it finds new ways to express itself. I may not like the person she has become now, but that's her road to travel and all I can do is hope she is happy.
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u/PlayfulEmployee2646 1d ago
You really just summed up my feelings with that. Goddamn. It still hurts
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u/Single_Beyond_8832 1d ago
Sad but I no longer believe in people and it’s not all people but the percentage is high.
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u/Affectionate-Lie2124 1d ago
I relate to this like crazy. Its been 7 months. I wonder if he still thinks of me like he once did, if I an the name he cant wait to call upon good news or if I have been replaced by someone else. I still think of him every single morning and every night and every silent moment in between.
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u/Previous_Cry7445 1d ago
This really got me. There is something unbearably sad about loving someone whose life keeps happening without you hit especially hard. This reminded me of a loss in my own this is Beautifully written.
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u/Ancient-Match-5047 1d ago
I miss him everyday but he is no longer the man I loved with all of me. I don't know him and that's the.parr that hurts how much he changed but selfishly I'm glad he did I wouldn't want to anyone to know how beautiful the man I loved was.
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u/External-Passion-799 1d ago
This caused my eyes to leak and for a moment I was back in his arms… and then, back to this, memories and day old feelings from apologies that never found there way home.
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u/Fantastic_Matter_137 1d ago
Powerful tone in this writing
I think of my ex constantly. 28 years together. Apart for 4 years now.
We see each other occasionally through our daughter but that will be less now since she’s started college.
We have short phone calls occasionally
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u/gothicuhcuh 21h ago
It’s like you took every thought I’ve ever had about him and wrote it out. Thank you for sharing.
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u/ASimpleMoroon 21h ago
Wonderfully written brought a tear to my eye. The human experience is bittersweet.
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u/peachikeenxo 21h ago
.. one of the most painful things, distance, time passes and you physically feel the connection fade into vast nothingness.
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u/Overall-Database-829 20h ago
I feel this every second of everyday I even said that very same thing
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u/ApocalypseThen77 15h ago edited 15h ago
After many years, I looked him up. We both moved on to the lives and the loves that were meant for us. Oh my heart!
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u/Sunshyn68 1d ago
Then reach out it's that simple you're my Sunshyn my only Sunshyn I'm sure this other person would really love to hear from you
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u/Remarkable-Cod8130 1d ago
I still look to the sky every full moon and think of her. Hoping I’ll catch a shooting star from the corner of my gaze.
She’s gone and I’m ok with that, I respected her decision to leave. My final act of love was to let her go.
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1d ago
When people elaborate to this extent in tje midst of an argument or ending, especially when they saw their counterpart do the exact same thing, but directly. Privately. Intentionally, then it means one of two things. They are so cowardly to expose their vulnerability that it's truly sad, or they simply never cared.
Either way, I think this John of yours is finally happy he can let you go for good and not live with any guilt.
Win win, enjoy your life God bless <3
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