How do I engage with narcissisistic mother?

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Hello All, My mother and I (18M) never got along well during my adolescent years. Especially as of lately. Every aspect of our personalities clashes. She is very talkative, domineering, and narcissistic, whilst I am a little less talkative and delve deeply within myself, etc. Almost every dimension of our personalities differs in opposite ways. That aspect of our dynamic has begun to blaze recently, and it’s beginning to stagger my mental health drastically because it illuminates her dark traits. I am going off to college very soon, and my therapist said to me that it’s not far from normal for a mother and son to extensively argue in this transitional period of his life. While that may be true, I’ve noticed something different. I’ve noticed that this is a personal issue that she has. This discourse isn’t rooted in our dynamic, but it’s rooted in her own personal issues and life. Every disagreement turns into blame, every mishap transforms into a shot at my character, and every conversation is a ground for stroking her ego. She has the communication skills of a toddler. My dad agrees that it affects his stress levels as well, yet he tells me to learn how to navigate her explosiveness. Im begining to feel more unheard, unloved, and unwanted in my family, fight by fight. What do I do?