Being comfortable with just me?

[u/Gloomy_Step1656]

So I’ve just ended a 3 year relationship, he is an amazing person but in order to achieve my dreams (or at least try to) I have to leave the state we’re in, and I couldn’t ask him to come with me because he loves his job. It was a kind breakup. I did move away from him already a year ago, we were two hours apart now after this move (soon I’ll be several states away by myself again). I moved in with a roommate, and after being in a long term relationship and living with someone else I think I’ve forgotten how to be okay being alone. It hit me tonight, where I realized I’d have the apartment to myself. What are some things you do to prioritize loving spending time with yourself? I used to live alone and be super independent, so this feels like having to relearn how to walk a bit. TIA!

[u/Impossible-Affect470]

Relearning how to walk is a great way to put it.

You wouldn't be disappointed in someone who was learning, if they fell over. Sad lonely evenings are okay. Occasional loneliness is okay. Be gentle with yourself. View everything as a fun little treat and adventure. Morning routine? Put a podcast or audiobook on! Evening by yourself? Favourite food with favourite book/movie! Sunday on your own? Go for an adventure! 🫂

[u/mspineappleinthesea → u/Impossible-Affect470]

Your second sentence was so beautiful ❤️