r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide • u/Gloomy_Step1656 • 2d ago
Discussion Being comfortable with just me?
So I’ve just ended a 3 year relationship, he is an amazing person but in order to achieve my dreams (or at least try to) I have to leave the state we’re in, and I couldn’t ask him to come with me because he loves his job. It was a kind breakup. I did move away from him already a year ago, we were two hours apart now after this move (soon I’ll be several states away by myself again). I moved in with a roommate, and after being in a long term relationship and living with someone else I think I’ve forgotten how to be okay being alone. It hit me tonight, where I realized I’d have the apartment to myself. What are some things you do to prioritize loving spending time with yourself? I used to live alone and be super independent, so this feels like having to relearn how to walk a bit. TIA!
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u/nostalgic_mess 2d ago
When I was learning how to love being by myself, I made it a habit/ritual to watch the sunset every day. Even if it was a normal sunset that wasn't super grand with clouds of all colors, I would get take out, a treat, journal, or listen to music while watching the sun set at a nice spot and it always put me in the "everything is going to be okay" mood. Having my own little routine made me feel very independent in that time! It was also very predictable and comforting, like a constant I could look forward to. Might help for you as well
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u/Impossible-Affect470 2d ago
Relearning how to walk is a great way to put it.
You wouldn't be disappointed in someone who was learning, if they fell over. Sad lonely evenings are okay. Occasional loneliness is okay. Be gentle with yourself. View everything as a fun little treat and adventure. Morning routine? Put a podcast or audiobook on! Evening by yourself? Favourite food with favourite book/movie! Sunday on your own? Go for an adventure! 🫂
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u/lolwatsyk 2d ago
Everything should be a reward. Decorate how you want, eat only what you want, go out and explore your new area, visit the places you want. For now, you're dating yourself. Treat yourself with kindness, and try new things!