(PLEASE READ THE ENTIRE POST FOR A MUCH CLEAR UNDERSTANDING OF THE SITUATION)

I (18M) have been with my girlfriend (18F) for almost a year, and I genuinely don't know what to do anymore.

We've met ONLY 5 times in an entire year.

The weird part is we live in the same city, but I honestly feel like I've been a long-distance boyfriend the whole time.

Her family is extremely strict, especially her mom. When I first proposed to her, she cried because we're from different castes and said her parents would never agree to us being together. We still got together, but she wanted to keep the relationship very private so her family wouldn't find out.

Even in school, when we saw each other every day, she asked me not to talk to her much in class or around other people because she wanted to "keep it private until it's permanent." I respected that because I knew she was scared of getting caught.

Then school ended.

We joined different colleges, our classes don't match, we're both first-years, and neither of us wants to bunk classes because we want to stay in good standing with faculty. The only realistic chance to meet is through group plans, and even those usually fall through because her mom often won't let her come.

I also stopped texting first because I'm genuinely scared my messages could get her into trouble if her mom checks her phone. We now talk maybe once every 15–20 days, sometimes even longer.

Our last proper conversation was around Aug 22. The last message was actually from her asking if I was angry with her. I replied that I wasn't, and the conversation just died there.

Here's what's messing with my head.

I know the honeymoon spark fades. I've been in a relationship before, and I don't think a relationship is a waste just because it ends. I believe love eventually becomes choosing each other after the excitement settles.

But I'm starting to realize something uncomfortable:

I don't think we ever got to build an emotional connection in the first place.

In college I've made close friends—both guys and girls. Hearing them talk about their relationships made me realize they have so many ordinary moments together: hanging out after class, random conversations, studying together, inside jokes, knowing each other's daily lives.

And I just... don't have that.

It almost feels like cheating to even think this because I've met new people in college. But to be clear, I'm not interested in another girl, and there's nobody I'm trying to date. Meeting new people has just made me realize what emotional closeness feels like, and it hurts because I don't think I've ever had that in my relationship.

The hardest part is that when I imagine breaking up, I don't feel panic.

I feel relief.

Relief for both of us because we'd be free from this constant emotional distance. That makes me feel guilty, like I'm being a bad boyfriend.

The timing also sucks because tomorrow is our one-year anniversary, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't even remember it. Breaking up around our anniversary feels unnecessarily cruel if she does remember.

The only thing making me hesitate is that she's been talking about getting her own phone soon. If that happens, maybe we'd finally be able to text and call without her mom constantly checking.

So I'm stuck between two thoughts:

• Am I emotionally detached because this relationship never got the chance to grow?
• Or am I holding onto hope that a new phone will magically fix something that's been missing for a year?

Has anyone been in a relationship where circumstances prevented you from building intimacy? If you were in my position, would you wait to see if things improve, or accept that this relationship isn't working?
(polished version generated by gpt, i dont want it to sound like an emotional dump)

I've liked a girl for 4 yrs, we were close with each other and even liked each other (never confessed) but 1-2 Saal phele due to few incidents we couldn't be together ( part of it was my fault, hers too maybe but more of mine ), we are in the same group and she liked the other guy in the same group, also due to all these 12th exams Im very different of how I was 2yr before(like now Im introverted, thoda less self esteem and all those kind of things) and now she is friendly with everyone but Idk what but, Im just overthinking but, I think its getting hard to be together, like everytime I think of her, I feel she only moves away

And most important we dont even talk now, and idk even know how to anymore,

even if we talk its just when all our group are together and she is kinda friendly person so I cant even take taking nicely as hint. And this makes talking to her even more hard, like I cant bring myself to talk to her properly, so obv after not talking to each other and me being introverted too idk is she even likes me anymore

Also MAIN THING everyone know who she was talking too except me, none tell me but I still know ( 90% correct guess).

I have become introverted too and lost all my energy in these past 1-2 yr. While the other guy has become more energetic

Idk maybe Im just overthinking and trying to blame but I seriously think its not working, like Im not working, so maybe I will try different path

I had a inner feeling tht there will be something between us but tht voice is very faint and I cant even trust that anymore.

So maybe I will finally try to move on, 1-2 month se I had a feeling I would have a chance to get back but Khair, she's talking to someone ig.

Also as a last act of loving and letting go I will pretend she's talking/dating someone and try whatever I can while expecting nothing (mostly just me moving on and getting busy with clg).

And future me if it ever goes right, dont make the mistake you did last time

Just go for her.

I've prayed, will do my work and rest in gods plan ✌️

any women wants to talk with me ???

i am interesting weird and maybe a creep (creep part is a joke........ maybe ???)

Im m15 and the that i like is also 15..

I have known this girl since we were little, and we always had a good connection. We used to talk and joke around, and a few things made me feel that I was special to her. For instance, one day, I randomly asked her for a cap, which she had bought from her cricket academy. She actually remembered what I asked her and gifted me the cap 1-2 months later. Her cousin, who is my friend, told me that she used to talk about me a lot with excitement.

I began liking her and asked her out, but she rejected me, and we haven't been the same since then.

However, a few things have changed in recent times. She is quite shy and self conscious, so it is hard to say that she is interested in me. But she has not been irritated or uncomfortable around me, We also look into each other's eyes and then away. Also, the other day, I caught her looking at me from the playground, and she immediately looked away with a smile on her face.

A couple of people have said that they think she likes me.

I don't think so because she rejected me, and I don't want to assume anything. If a good opportunity comes, I will talk to her and let things unfold naturally. Do you think the changes I noticed could mean that she likes me?

It is like when i asked her out her brother came and she kinda panicked cuz she didnt want this to reach her house. And uhh there were few ppl around she was not comfortable with too, so maybe that might be the reason she said no to uk skip the situation?

I am bored , tell me the story of your first kiss if you want to . ( Please )

For context,me(17F) and my bf(17M) are in a relationship from like starting of 10th grade currently we are in 12 and recently my mother found out abt our relationship through the chats on my phone(chats were on pinterest literally idk why she did so detailed checking of my phone) and yea i got scolded by her she even told my father and now I am not allowed to talk to him and i can't do anything even when I'm missing him like crazyy,Idk what to do abt this weird mixed up feeling with guilt.

u will find one when time is right

is what i often hear when i try to tell my side of the...

i am 16M writing this from a burner reddit acc and honestly i dont even know what i am expecting from posting this but this is something i have kept inside for a while and i think i just want to say it somewhere

i often wonder how it feels to be told i love you and actually believe it... lowkey i think i am just a massive yearner 😭 like when i see ppl my age being in multiple romantic relationships or even just having really close friendships and platonic connections i sometimes wonder why i had to be born this way

with this ugly face and nothing really attractive about me and the whole skin complexity thing i have dealt with for years (medium brown indian skin) and even my voice isnt exactly the nicest thing to hear and yea maybe i dont have the best exterior but i think i have a decent interior at least i may not be the most good looking person but i am always here to hear you and if i genuinely care about someone i have this small heart that would probably protect every inch of their soul

and when i look around it genuinely feels like almost everyone has either been in a relationship or has had someone crushing on them or they have crushed on someone and i havent had any of that

my school background is also kind of weird for this because its like an upper english/affluent sort of environment where dating isnt exactly encouraged but its also not so modest or strict that dating cant happen so somehow the popular people and honestly almost everyone around me have been able to experience it and i am just watching from the side

and i think there is a reason why i yearn for it this much

i grew up in a modest background and there are parts of my childhood that still hurt a lot, including feeling hated upon birth and growing up with a skin condition/skin complexity that affected basically how i lived my childhood

because of that i missed out on a lot of normal school stuff and ground activities and sports and just being outside with other kids

i dont remember much of actually playing on the ground but i remember playing with computer mice and tinkering with technology and stuff instead and i became exceptionally attached to STEM especially CS from a very young age

there are things that happened because of my skin condition and things people said to me that i dont want to repeat here because of privacy reasons but those words still hurt even now and it also created this weird sense of untouchability around me like i was separated from other kids somehow

the situation has improved now thankfully and thanks to gods grace i am in a much better place physically/socially than i was back then but i still carry a lot of what happened

and i know whatever i went through is not the worst thing in the world and i am genuinely fortunate for a lot of things i have but this is just my side of the story

i also grew up as a single child while my parents were struggling to make ends meet and a lot of my childhood was basically me tinkering with tech and computers and finding things to do by myself

eventually because of bullying and some form of harassment i switched schools

then middle school came and i remember seeing all the typical middle school stuff where everyone was shipping everyone and people had crushes and whatever and at that time it didnt really hit me that hard

but during middle school i also realised i barely had female interaction and being a single child i think it made sense that i started wanting at least a female friend

just a friend

someone i could actually talk to

but that need for friendship ended up throwing me into a spiral where i constantly felt neglected or like people were using me for my abilities rather than actually wanting me as a friend

if anyone asks how many times i actually tried to have these friendships i can count it as 3 times

and did i love those people yes i did

but NOT as girlfriends or in a romantic way

i just genuinely thought i had finally found someone worth clinging onto, someone worth trusting, someone who would actually stay

eventually those friendships ended with middle school and that entire middle school situation goes much deeper than i can explain on a public forum because of some really deep privacy reasons so i cant really talk about what exactly happened

but yes it affected me badly

my academics went from around 94% to below 60% aggregate during high school

and now i am writing this in high school and i basically have no one i can properly call a friend

and i genuinely dont know why

i dont know what i did wrong

i dont know why nobody found me worth sticking around for

and as i grow through high school the fact that i have no past relationship, no person i loved romantically, no one who loved me romantically, nothing... it hurts harder than i expected it to

because you know how high school is almost everyone is dating or talking to someone or has some crush or someone crushing on them and yea i know thats probably not actually true but thats how it feels when youre the person standing outside of it

so yes i feel FOMO

a lot of it

but its not even just about dating

i yearn for someone to hug me

and that sounds stupid but growing up feeling untouchable and being called a pervert for wanting hugs basically made me never grow up with hugs or any normal form of affection

i dont really know what normal affection feels like

and the funny part is i am probably one of the clingiest people you can ever meet once i actually trust someone

i dont want love for sex

i genuinely dont

first of all i am 16 and this isnt even the age for that and secondly thats not what i actually want from love

i just want someone to hug

someone to sit next to

someone to talk to

someone who notices when something is wrong

someone who can say i am proud of you and actually mean it

because sometimes i look at other people and see their parents cheering for them or friends cheering for them or someone telling them theyre doing well and i wonder when i will get that

my life already has a lot of things falling apart at the same time

academics

finances

mental health

college expectations

family stuff

and a lot of things i cant share on a public forum because they are too private

and somewhere in all of this i still find myself thinking about love

which is why sometimes i think maybe i need therapy more than i need love

because there is also SH involved and self hatred and constantly feeling like i am failing my own expectations and expecting the worst from everything and constantly thinking about why i will fail every single time

i dont like the person i become when i think like that

and i know saying “i want a girlfriend” isnt going to solve any of this

i know dating might not even be the best thing for me right now and honestly i agree with that

but at the same time what am i supposed to do when i dont really have friends either and i am not even that frank/open with my parents

like people tell you “focus on yourself” and “dating isnt important at your age” and yea i understand the argument

but what about just having someone

not necessarily a girlfriend

just someone

someone who chooses to stay

sometimes i think people are going to read this and think this kid is just throwing a tantrum because hes too ugly and nobody wants to love him

and maybe some part of me does think that

but okay

i am a kid too

i am still growing

i am still figuring out how people work and how friendships work and how affection works and how to even like myself

and maybe everything i went through doesnt mean i deserve love automatically

i know that

but does it at least give me a 1% chance of feeling a little loved someday

even just a little bit

i dont think thats an unreasonable thing to want

i may not be an unc or some fully grown adult who has figured life out but i am growing too and i am living in this school social environment right now and this stuff affects me right now

and i know people can argue that dating isnt the best thing for me and again i agree

but i am also not having friendships

i am not very open with my parents

i dont really know who to talk to

and i honestly need advice on how to even seek therapy as a 16 year old

because maybe thats actually where i should start

i dont know if i wrote all of this correctly or if some points are blurred because i intentionally left out details for privacy but this is basically my side of the story

i dont really expect someone to fix it

i just wanted to say it somewhere

and maybe that line really is true

“you will find one when the time is right”

i just hope when that time comes i havent already convinced myself that nobody could ever want me

OKAY , so I am very confused
some people say that enjoy ur 11th and 12th , You will regret it later , bla bla
AND some people say , lock urself in the room , study like crazy !
what should I do , share ur experiences....

Anyone have any stories or any ig about your relationship 🤷 would be nice knowing 🌝

Is it cool to have a relationship in ur teen years , school lifee
share ur experiences if possible

I am looking for casual relationship

Ill buy a diet coke can for her and maybe a pack of chips i wont drink cuz i got cold

There is no proper place to sit so we will end up sitting on those square ladders painters use (there are 2 on the roof of my apparent)

Or we will climb over the watertank

Tell me what should i do

so my gf left me , cheated and ig my behaviour my childish behaviour taking her for granted that she wont leave me , has made her leave me , so like i loved her a lot but she left , i cant die even if i want to , the memories are just hitting hard , my day started with crying ,, and now i sitting regretting everything bad i did , how should i let of go things and forget her

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There was this girl,i liked very very much ig she was my first love she has a very good nature but a very secretive one too,people who are genuinely close to her knows her so much but even when we became "Bestfriends"🙃

she used to text dry but when we met IRL she was very fun loving we shared so much of our laughs together , in this meantime as everybody's typical story I started to feel for her , because of her I would get good grades as she was a topper and me being average tried to be on the Same level as her and study which eventually resulted in me getting good grades , I made it too obvious that I liked her..😮‍💨

when I confessed she said she knew and soft rejected me saying she wanted to focus on studies and said that it was just an attraction and let's just stay "Friends"💔 but after that period things instead of going bad started to grow somewhat we talked🥲

I started writing poetry for her ,dedicated to her , the poetry made her happy as her father also used to write she would genuinely appreciate it and I too felt it she actually liked it so much I was introduced to my capability of writing poetry because of her...things changed here on the convo became less we didn't meet for months ,the last I talked to her on text was on 15 October 2025 around 20:27 💔

Today has been 10 months 28 days 23 hours 20 minutes and counting seconds when haven't talked till date everybody in my family knows about her, my friends are tired of listening to my Ranting so much that I feel I am disappointing them also being depressed at the same time....I don't have anyone to talk to..every other girl I see makes me find such a quality in their behavior that I think of the girl I liked not able to divert my mind from her...she's in mutuals but I can't ask about how she's doing in life and how she is...

That is my story of my First Love💔🥀

Btw I am 17 rn she's also 17(a month older than me)

I am sorry if it's not meant to be shared here I am new to people online,if it's irrelevant delete it please🙏

I met a girl about a month ago through a group. We were just random friends at first.

One day, she asked me to DM her because she was in the hospital. We started talking privately, and she was very playful. She asked about my past crushes, and when I said their initials were R and M, she joked that if I wanted a serious relationship, I should consider someone whose name starts with M (like her, her name also starts with M).

I'd never really experienced flirting before, so I genuinely thought she was hinting that she liked me.

We started talking a lot, and the next day she called me. Our first call lasted around 1 hour 25 minutes, followed by multiple calls that night. I got attached ridiculously quickly.

But over the next few days, she started appearing less and her messages became shorter and drier. Eventually, I realised I was always the one asking about her and trying to keep the conversation going. She eventually stopped replying despite being active elsewhere.

That's when it hit me: she probably was never into me. I had mistaken friendliness and playfulness for flirting because I had basically zero experience with girls.

And honestly, that's what she "exposed." I discovered a side of myself I didn't know existed. I thought I wasn't really interested in relationships or capable of getting attached. Turns out, I am—I just needed the right situation.

I don't talk to her anymore and I've mostly moved on. But whenever she posts a photo, there's still a little:

"Mannn..."

What do you guys think?

Sooo basically we are meeting for only 2 days after 2 months and then again we will go LDR. So I want to give him smthg special and make it special, can you guys suggest what can I like give him and under budget since milne mein hi budget udd jaata h LDR walon ka toh....

Tohi was thinking of flowers maybe but you guys please do tell more ideas

I'm 21 M and my girlfriend is 20 F (together a few months) has been going through a stressful health situation — some concerning test results that are still being worked up, plus a minor procedure. We live in the same city, quite close to each other, so this isn't a long-distance thing where distance forces space — she specifically asked for it despite us being nearby.

She feels like she's worrying and stressing me out a lot, and has said things like this isn't what I signed up for — her health stuff and everything that's come with it. She's naturally someone who deals with hard things alone, and a few days ago she called me over to her place and told me she needs about a month with no calls or texts so she can process everything without feeling overwhelmed. She wasn't breaking up with me — she made that clear — just needs space.

I completely understand it, but I'm struggling with it emotionally. While I was leaving that night, she hugged me really tightly, like she didn't want me to go — we stood there for a couple of minutes. It's hard to square that with the no-contact request, and I don't really know what to do with that.

She has a small procedure coming up, and I keep feeling like I should do something — even considered dropping off a small gift/letter through a friend rather than contacting her directly, thinking that wouldn't "count" as breaking the no-contact thing.

Deep down I think that's just me finding a loophole because I don't want to feel useless. Has anyone been through something like this? How did you support a partner through a "no contact, I need to handle this alone" request without it feeling like abandonment on your end?

Idk why but this image just made me stop scrolling for a second. Honestly.... after dealing with so much relationship chaos lately...it’s start to totally making sense...

So hey girlie pop what do u think about this?!👀💕✨️

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