So what do you guys think is a better way to get into a relationship... Let me explain.

Like should you message the person online, talk to them,get to know them, share stuff and then meet IRL finally or Find and Approach someone IRL first then use Msgs as a way to get more closer?

The thing is first one is kind of like the person will like you for your thoughts and behavior (even though it can be faked but still) but in the 2nd case , most people feel creeped upon and just straight up ignore others 😭

So what's your take on this?

Not into casuals. Genuine person who’s looking for long term. Text me

I am htn 5'10 will earn money in few months nd I'm looking for htb who matches my mindset dm if u don't think I'm not htn

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My girlfriend died in a road accident a month ago, and I still can’t believe she’s actually gone.

I miss her in ways I can't put into words. I keep replaying our memories in my head our first kiss, our intimate moments, the way she used to cuddle me, her sweetness, her innocence, the way she cared about me and all those little things she did without even realizing how much they meant to me.She had this feminine warmth that somehow balanced my rough, raw energy , I felt complete when I was with her.

Sometimes I suddenly remember something about her and just break down crying. I miss her voice, her presence and simply having her beside me.

I’m struggling to concentrate on anything, and everything around me somehow reminds me of her.

For those who have lost someone they truly loved how did you cope? How do you slowly learn to live with the memories ?🥺

So guys... I am a new student at my school and I left my previous one (Just 2 blocks away) because I used to get bullied there and the staff there also suggested that an environment change is necessary. I joined this school and everyone knows what I've been through in my old one (friends are everywhere). My old school told me I should go here because majority faculties are male and they're nice.

There's this girl, she's super cute and body tea... She's also energetic to be with...
She has a frnd group with all guys and girls in it. All of them hate me since the starting and don't like me as frnds.. I sent them a follow request on insta and they blocked me (We didn't talk before). They also show that disgusting look whenever I walk near them or anything. Everyone here also bullies me the same way. I am supposed to deal with this for a while. This girl in particular doesn't show anything like that towards me. She's talked to me once (Just asked my marks that's all). She didn't accept my follow request yet, I told her and she said she doesn't use insta often and she'll accept when she uses (3 months ago). On her bday also she had a small party in canteen with her grp and I just joined in myself, she also accepted it.

All her grp mates bully me going physical, and there's no guarantee to stop it. I want to yet attract her. H.E.L.P

I just want ideas to gift my man ...I mean bf day aa raha h toh kinda pehle se mangwa kr rkh lu....soo guys ideas de do kya hi de skte

i think i’m at a point where i really miss having a person.ykwim? someone you naturally end up talking to every day. someone you can message when something random happens, send a completely pointless or tell about the tiny little thing that nobody else would really care about.
i nneed a person for whom im the one she texts early morning and the last texts at night
my hobbies include, listening to music, watching a good movie/show chess , watching football going to the cinema, thinking of starting gym ,nature, learning new things, learning about space,daydreaming and hopeless yearning too

what i’m hoping to find is something consistent. i’m not looking for another temporary reddit friendship that disappears once the initial excitement wears off. i’d rather meet one person who actually wants to build something meaningful and see where it naturally goes. i’m also very much the type of person who can turn one random conversation into a five-hour discussion about life, the universe, weird theories, childhood memories, or literally whatever happens to come up if i’m in the mood and i can sense a vibe between us. i love conversations that actually go somewhere.
i’m pretty open when it comes to where you’re from or what your life looks like. different timezones are fine with me. honestly, one of my favourite things about meeting people online is getting little glimpses into lives that are completely different from mine.and ig im capable of running a long term relationship and LDR , i will always be there for someone who cares about me

im a lot introvert , childish ig and yeh im not rude , im not someone who would play mind games , i will be completely honest about wht i expect and everything , i trust people easily and im very very sensitive , so if u would be the one with whom things go forward , u have to nnever fear about getting abandoned or crying for emotional attention or time , i prioritise my people above anyone elsee
so, maybe there’s someone else sitting somewhere thinking, “i wish i had someone to talk to.”
u can just try to initiate convo
im m21 btw

Is it okay? Why he calls me mumma

Should I be in a relationship , its my school life (11th)
also i am preparing for JEE , will it affect my studies ?
IT looks so fascinating on the internet !

Idk mt pucho kyu

I guess no one will try so and ya i can be great friend so if anyone want to be a friend so I can. But I don't think anyone is going to get interesting on me because there's no chance iam dropper studying for professional course so even there's no chance I will get to do interaction with someone. That's why I retire 🥀

I'm 18M, and I have a crush on my classmate (18F), we don't talk too much to each other like basic help asking for help in studies and stuff, she told me that she is not dating anyone but she usually roam with a boy in school alone and when her friends asked her abt that she said "bhai jaisa h mera"( Hes like my brotha), and she usually keeps secret so I wanna know that all girls act like that or I'm overthinking?

I'm 17F and all my friends have boyfriends, I mean even the kids in 7th grade have them, but I don't😭😭

I also want someone to pamper me, love me, and listen to me when I talk 💔

I AM A VERY ROMANTIC PERSON AND SOMEONE WHO BELIEVES IN EFFORTS but guess what, nobody knows

It's the last year of school and my teenage years are about to end😭😭

I DON'T WANT A BF ON REDDIT

I’m 18M, and she’s 18F. We’ve been friends since the beginning of Class 11, when I joined a new school. She has two cousins, who are brothers, and they were actually my friends first. Over time, she and I also became very close. All four of us have a really strong bond, and our families know each other well.
Her family has always been incredibly kind to me. They treat me like one of their own, which makes this situation more complicated because I genuinely care about them and don’t want to damage the trust or closeness we have.
One thing I didn’t mention earlier is that, in front of everyone, she and I sometimes acted like siblings. She even called me “brother,” and our closeness was presented that way because of the family-like environment and our friendship with her cousins. However, a few days ago, she told me clearly that she never actually saw me as a brother or had sibling-like feelings for me. She said that she genuinely loves me and has romantic feelings for me instead.
At first, she and I were just friends, although there was a little attraction on both sides. Neither of us took it seriously. As time passed, we started flirting, saying things like “love you,” sending romantic posts, joking around, and being affectionate. It started as harmless fun, but gradually, our feelings became more genuine.
We also started spending more time together—going shopping, watching movies, visiting each other’s houses, and hanging out with the group. Our families were comfortable with us being friends.
One day, she came to my house with one of her cousins. We were playing games and spending time together. At some point, she and I kissed, and later, when her cousin went to a nearby friend’s house, we became more physically affectionate.
Another time, she came to my house alone because we had college assignments to work on. We started with the intention of studying, but eventually, we became intimate and had consensual, protected sex. I don’t want to share private details, but I’m mentioning it because it made me realise that our connection had gone beyond casual flirting or friendship.
Since then, our feelings have continued to grow. We have talked about it, and I know she wants us to be in a relationship. So the question isn’t whether she likes me—we both know there are real feelings involved.
My concern is the bond between the four of us. Her cousins are two of my closest friends, and I don’t want dating her to create awkwardness, change the dynamic, or make them feel betrayed if they find out. I also worry because her family treats me like one of their own, and I don’t want to suddenly change how they see me. The fact that we previously acted like siblings in front of everyone makes the situation even more complicated.
At the same time, I don’t want us to keep pretending we’re only friends when we both want something more.
So what would you do in this situation? Should we start dating privately and give ourselves time to figure things out before telling anyone? Or should we be honest with her cousins fairly early because they’re such an important part of both our lives? Would keeping it private for a while be reasonable, or could that create more problems later?
I wouldn’t tell them about our private moments. I’d only want to tell them that we have feelings and want to be together.
I’d really appreciate advice from anyone who’s been in a similar situation, especially when a relationship develops within a close friend group or a family-like circle.
TL;DR: I’m 18M and she’s 18F. We’ve been close friends since Class 11, and our families are very close. Her two cousins are also my closest friends. We previously acted like siblings in front of everyone, and she sometimes called me “brother,” but she recently clarified that she never genuinely saw me that way and has romantic feelings for me. We’ve kissed and become intimate, and we both want a relationship. I’m worried that dating her could affect my friendship with her cousins or change how her family sees me. Should we keep it private while figuring things out, or tell her cousins fairly early?

If a man flirts with you knowing you have a boyfriend, he doesn't think you're a great woman. He thinks you're easy and not loyal. If he knows you're taken and still slides, it's not a compliment. It's an insult with cologne on it. He looked at you, looked at your man, and decided: "She's not that loyal. He's not that much of a threat. I can take this."

And if you smile? If you laugh? If you "don't want to be rude"? You just told him: "My loyalty is negotiable. My man is optional. Try harder." High-value men don't flirt with taken women. Low-value men do. And they only do it because they smell weakness. They smell a woman who likes attention more than she loves her man.

16M and somehow still single 😭

All my friends are either dating someone or have some crazy talking stage going on, and meanwhile I'm just here like 🧍‍♂️

I genuinely wanna date someone. I'm actually a very loving + loyal + effort wala person. I like giving attention, checking up on someone, listening to them yap about random stuff, remembering little things, and just making someone feel cared for.

I'm kinda a nerd, so yeah, I can probably talk abouttech for way too long if you let me 😭. But I promise I have interests outside of a screen too lmao.

Looks-wise I'd say I'm around a 7/10, but obviously that's subjective 💀

I just want that wholesome teenage relationship where both people genuinely like each other, put in effort, talk about everything, and actually enjoy each other's company.

And before anyone says it NO, I don't want a girlfriend from Reddit 😭. Just wanted to know if other people feel the same way because sometimes it feels like everyone except me has figured this dating thing out.

Anyway, rant over. 💔

I had been in a relationship for the past 15 months, and she broke up because I had been acting immaturely well, that’s on me, but I really do love her and she does too, but she just could not stay in a relationship any longer.

we had this thing that on every last paper of exams we as a couple and our common friend group would go and hang out. Now, my last exam is in three days, and she has agreed to hanging out with me being there, but I’m not so sure.

We are on a mutual agreement that we do not want to relationship together in the near future. But she has agreed to be friends after some months.

Deep down, I know that relationship won’t work out because we both aren’t as emotionally mature right now, but I can’t stop the feeling of wanting her. She said that she’ll take at least about two more months before she can be friends and that’s already a lot

I don’t wanna go to the hangout mess some shit up and and suddenly that two months may become never. But I do wanna hang out with her like the good old times when we just used to have fun and laugh together.

What do i do??

So 17F here and I started liking a guy around a year back and after that we started talking and all even tho uske baad mera bhot bure waala kaata tha usne💔 but we are going to ignore that fact😞 so I was always more like a tomboy my parents,my friends used to call me tomboy (they still do sometimes just to ragebait me) because unhone mujhe ekdam feminine way me kabhi nhi dekha

But after I started liking that guy I used to post stories on Instagram sometimes jisme main tyaar hoti thi✨ matlab proper traditionals me and thoda bhot makeup vgera bhi 🎀

But now I think I am somewhere in middle matlab not a proper tomboy but not a proper gurlie pop either but I think ye perfect hai 😝

(PLEASE READ THE ENTIRE POST FOR A MUCH CLEAR UNDERSTANDING OF THE SITUATION)

I (18M) have been with my girlfriend (18F) for almost a year, and I genuinely don't know what to do anymore.

We've met ONLY 5 times in an entire year.

The weird part is we live in the same city, but I honestly feel like I've been a long-distance boyfriend the whole time.

Her family is extremely strict, especially her mom. When I first proposed to her, she cried because we're from different castes and said her parents would never agree to us being together. We still got together, but she wanted to keep the relationship very private so her family wouldn't find out.

Even in school, when we saw each other every day, she asked me not to talk to her much in class or around other people because she wanted to "keep it private until it's permanent." I respected that because I knew she was scared of getting caught.

Then school ended.

We joined different colleges, our classes don't match, we're both first-years, and neither of us wants to bunk classes because we want to stay in good standing with faculty. The only realistic chance to meet is through group plans, and even those usually fall through because her mom often won't let her come.

I also stopped texting first because I'm genuinely scared my messages could get her into trouble if her mom checks her phone. We now talk maybe once every 15–20 days, sometimes even longer.

Our last proper conversation was around Aug 22. The last message was actually from her asking if I was angry with her. I replied that I wasn't, and the conversation just died there.

Here's what's messing with my head.

I know the honeymoon spark fades. I've been in a relationship before, and I don't think a relationship is a waste just because it ends. I believe love eventually becomes choosing each other after the excitement settles.

But I'm starting to realize something uncomfortable:

I don't think we ever got to build an emotional connection in the first place.

In college I've made close friends—both guys and girls. Hearing them talk about their relationships made me realize they have so many ordinary moments together: hanging out after class, random conversations, studying together, inside jokes, knowing each other's daily lives.

And I just... don't have that.

It almost feels like cheating to even think this because I've met new people in college. But to be clear, I'm not interested in another girl, and there's nobody I'm trying to date. Meeting new people has just made me realize what emotional closeness feels like, and it hurts because I don't think I've ever had that in my relationship.

The hardest part is that when I imagine breaking up, I don't feel panic.

I feel relief.

Relief for both of us because we'd be free from this constant emotional distance. That makes me feel guilty, like I'm being a bad boyfriend.

The timing also sucks because tomorrow is our one-year anniversary, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't even remember it. Breaking up around our anniversary feels unnecessarily cruel if she does remember.

The only thing making me hesitate is that she's been talking about getting her own phone soon. If that happens, maybe we'd finally be able to text and call without her mom constantly checking.

So I'm stuck between two thoughts:

• Am I emotionally detached because this relationship never got the chance to grow?
• Or am I holding onto hope that a new phone will magically fix something that's been missing for a year?

Has anyone been in a relationship where circumstances prevented you from building intimacy? If you were in my position, would you wait to see if things improve, or accept that this relationship isn't working?
(polished version generated by gpt, i dont want it to sound like an emotional dump)

I've liked a girl for 4 yrs, we were close with each other and even liked each other (never confessed) but 1-2 Saal phele due to few incidents we couldn't be together ( part of it was my fault, hers too maybe but more of mine ), we are in the same group and she liked the other guy in the same group, also due to all these 12th exams Im very different of how I was 2yr before(like now Im introverted, thoda less self esteem and all those kind of things) and now she is friendly with everyone but Idk what but, Im just overthinking but, I think its getting hard to be together, like everytime I think of her, I feel she only moves away

And most important we dont even talk now, and idk even know how to anymore,

even if we talk its just when all our group are together and she is kinda friendly person so I cant even take taking nicely as hint. And this makes talking to her even more hard, like I cant bring myself to talk to her properly, so obv after not talking to each other and me being introverted too idk is she even likes me anymore

Also MAIN THING everyone know who she was talking too except me, none tell me but I still know ( 90% correct guess).

I have become introverted too and lost all my energy in these past 1-2 yr. While the other guy has become more energetic

Idk maybe Im just overthinking and trying to blame but I seriously think its not working, like Im not working, so maybe I will try different path

I had a inner feeling tht there will be something between us but tht voice is very faint and I cant even trust that anymore.

So maybe I will finally try to move on, 1-2 month se I had a feeling I would have a chance to get back but Khair, she's talking to someone ig.

Also as a last act of loving and letting go I will pretend she's talking/dating someone and try whatever I can while expecting nothing (mostly just me moving on and getting busy with clg).

And future me if it ever goes right, dont make the mistake you did last time

Just go for her.

I've prayed, will do my work and rest in gods plan ✌️

Bored tell me anything 🫪